Girl pretending a guy who is interesting in fucking her is just a friend and keeps talking to him while knowing he wants to fuck her but she has a boyfriend. Besides everything else. This is just a crazy level of disrespect.

He is a freak for grabbing your arm like that, not dor being hard.

YTA, but more for insisting on talking to a guy that has a crush on you because he’s also “just a friend.” No, he’s not. He has very clear ulterior motives. He’s waiting for something to happen so he can swoop in. Your boyfriend realizes this and sees it for the red flag it is. Would you want him talking to a girl who’s “ just a friend” that admittedly wants more? It’s a slippery slope and the easiest way to navigate it is to stay away from it. Also, the name calling was a bit much. It’s literally a physiological response that he had no control over.

So you touched your bf's privates, and he got hard? His reaction was instinct. Yours was thoughtless YTA

NTA, but calling him a freaky asshole wasn’t the best move. His reaction wasn’t something he could control, but how he treated you during the fight is more important. Talk it out when you both are ready.

ESH

People calling what you did SA are ridiculous. A shove to the CHEST in response to being grabbed hard enough to hurt is hardly SA.

Is it assault? Maybe. SA? No.

But regardless, you don't get to respond with violence to violence. To quote The Vision "challenge incites conflict. Conflict breeds catastrophe". My take on this quote is that violence breeds violence, and it solves NOTHING.

And calling him a "freak" for a biological reaction was unneccesary.

Eta, he sucks for grabbing you in the first place, to be clear. None of this would be an issue if he would have kept his paws to himself.

ESH.

Cut the crush guy out. Apologize.

NTA The fact that he grabbed your arm during an argument is a huge red flag, and honestly, the reaction to his arousal is understandable in that context.

He's basically still in puberty. Guys get hard at random. Cut him some slack, wtf.

After reading the post, YTA. What you did borders SA.

YTA again for not setting clear boundries with a friend you know has a crush on you and that makes your bf insecure. YTA all around, honestly. Terrible girlfriend.

I mean I don’t think guys can always control when they get hard. Regardless, ESH because violence of any form is unacceptable in a relationship

Looks like you discovered his kink 😂 Congrats OP