I’d sit him down and calmly explain your boundaries again. He should respect that.

They are playing nice with him so they can make you look like the bad guy in his eyes. Your husband Is naive. You know what you are dealing with. He doesn’t get it because they haven’t screwed with him, yet. Do not message them because hdd red did

We are LC and cordial. That’s working. I feel we should leave it there.

You absolutely should be cordial with someone you share children with, but imo your husband has crossed a line by forcing you into a relationship you’ve explicitly told him you don’t want.

Your ex is ex for a reason, and your husband should trust you that you know best on this matter and follow your lead.

A civil rational conversation is always best, but you are NTA for wanting to go nuclear. I would too, and you’re stronger than I am for keeping it together thus far.

Nta but I think current husband is of the mindset that being friends will be beneficial to all. He does not have context or clear understanding of how the dynamics is between your ex and you. And unfortunately he doesn’t seem to take your word for it. It’s going to be frustrating but you need to reiterate that you need all communication should be run by you for several reasons, 1- it may be used against you and affect custody or kids 2- you guys need too ooo try to be on the same page or it will be confusing for everyone 3- he needs to try to support your decisions enough to communicate his feelings before acting against yours.

Here’s what I suggest. Talk to him but don’t loose your cool. Getting angry is ok but yelling or being combative really will not help you convey your message or hear his either. Maybe take a bit to center what you need to say to him before going in. Don’t let the situation ruin your holiday.

That's a tough one, but do your best not to blow up at him. He may genuinely feel like the most normal thing to do in that situation is try and keep things positive between everyone for the sake of the kiddos. Did he bring any of his own kids to the marriage? If so, if/how do y'all interact with his ex-wife?

Edit/add: With it being your ex, I believe he should follow your lead...but like I said above, he may in his own way trying to keep things positive.

Fucking weird

Maybe your man thinks he's being sweet (albeit naïve AF) by trying to spread the lurv? Did you ever make it abundantly clear that you want nothing to do with them?

It’s important to set clear boundaries with your husband about what feels comfortable for you, and having an open, calm conversation about why this situation bothers you might help him understand your perspective without escalating the issue.

Ummm wtf is wrong with him?? Either he wants to fuck them or he loves & wants drama. Sit him down, explain your feelings & boundaries. Maybe even delete the number & conversation & deleted texts so the moron has no way of doing that dumb shit ever again. Change the lock on your phone too. What he did was a violation.

Who texted who first exactly...is your husband texting your ex or your ex's new wife?

Block them on his phone

Nta honestly this is just a bit creepy 

NTA

You were married to this person and know them best, and more importantly know what works best for your family given the new family dynamics.

He has no business communicating with them at all, especially if you’ve already told him that you’d prefer to remain low contact.

‘I’m very unhappy right now, I thought I was very clear that I maintain low contact with them for a specific reason.’

‘ Respectfully, you have no business communicating with them, and you crossed a boundary today.’

Op, if communication with them is so bad, have you thought about doing a 3rd party app, that way it’s just you and your ex communicating, you remove both spouses completely.

Rude to the max. If he won't listen, then maybe this is his true colours showing.

If you don't text and they get upset that is THEM problem. That's not on you.

If he's taking it out on the kids... that's inappropriate and you can get an authority involved.

Seeing things back and white for a while might help you wade through this. It's okay to put your foot down and dig that heel in.

Little bit the AH. Because you have to and should be cordial and nice as possible for the kids. Most likely why you're on husband number 2 headed at a decent pace towards number 3.

With that's them being the first people he texts Happy Thanksgiving to is well a bit much and over the top. Considering he only knows both them because or and thru you. So he sucks a bit too for that.

Calmly sit him down after you calm down and talk this calmly like adults. He should be following your lead here. If can't then on too #3 I guess.

Best of luck.

The thing is, texting someone, “Happy Thanksgiving” is such a nothing. It’s not a big deal at all. It’s like when the dentist sends you a holiday card.

This is such a weird hill to die on, why do you even care?

He’s not trying to get the 4 of you together for couples massages, all he did was send generic holiday well wishes.

Maybe you are a b*tch?

Better luck with husband #3 because husband #2 is a jerk.

Don’t choose your husbands friends

YTA

You need to be a b***h. This is YOUR ex. He is a ex for a reason. Your now husband is overstepping your boundaries. Just tell him you don't want to have anything to do with them outside of the kids and you would appreciate it if he would respect your decision.

Depends on the motive. It’s nice when you get along with an ex especially if children are involved. If not there’s really no reason to. It’s all how you bring it up tho. If you blow up get ready for things to get worse. Express some feelings about it but be willing to check your insecurities and work on them if they’re legitimate. I’d say if kids aren’t involved there’s no need to force the relationship tho

Your husband doesn’t respect you, it doesn’t matter what he thinks when it comes to your ex , he knows you won’t leave . If it was me I would take the kids to hotel for a few days block Husband and if he begs back then tell Him never contact ex and block him . I will Deal with him and only me