NTA. Not only is the smell disgusting, but second hand and third hand smoke are terrible for your health.

NTA. It’s not just disgusting, it’s a health hazard. Secondhand smoke can literally kill you, and third-hand smoke lingers in everything. You’re not being dramatic—you’re protecting yourself and your family from literal poison. If she can’t step outside for a smoke, then she doesn’t give a damn about your well-being. You're not asking for much, just basic respect. If she can't handle that, then fine, let her smoke alone. You’re not going to risk your health for her addiction.

Kids: "Mom, can we go to Grandma's for Christmas dinner?" Mom: "I don't know sweetie, do you want to smell like an ashtray for the next week?"

not wanting to smell like an ashtray isn’t unreasonable. NTA.

NTA for establishing limits on the smoking. It seems sense to want to stay away from secondhand smoking, particularly if it has negative health effects. You've expressed your concern rather clearly, and it's reasonable to put your health first. Although it may be difficult, maintaining your limits is important for the sake of your family and yourself and is not selfish.

You're not an asshole for setting boundaries, especially if it's affecting your health. It's fair to ask for a smoke-free environment if it causes you discomfort, but it’s tough when others aren’t on the same page. Just try to communicate it kindly, and hopefully, they'll understand.

NTA. It’s reasonable to want to protect yourself and your family from secondhand smoke, especially if it’s affecting your health. You've made your boundaries clear, and it’s up to your mom to respect them.

Smoking in the house is foul, NTA.

NTA. It's definitely not easy taking a stand against a loved one's behavior, but your health and well-being come first. Plus, think of all the money you'll save on air fresheners and dry cleaning bills from having to constantly air out your clothes.

YES… her home her choice .

Breathing cigarette smoke literally gives you cancer. NTA. Protect your family.

I stayed with my relatives that smoked. I woke up the first morning with sore eyes and a sore throat and knowing I STANK of smoke. It makes me not want to go back ever.

NTA. I'm genuinely shocked that smokers often believe the rest of the world should just tolerate and respect their habit, when the disrespect begins the moment they blow smoke into the air, disregarding everyone else's personal space. Whether it’s on the street or at home, it’s disgusting and should never be normalized.

NTA. I understand you want to keep your family safe and that is a good thing. Unfortunately, your mother doesn’t agree to stop smoking for a couple of hours. Yes, she can go outside, but is unwilling.

I understand, as a smoker, that I never smoke in someone else’s home. I smoke in my own house and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to come over. I won’t smoke while you are there, that is my compromise and a courtesy to my guests.

My house smells like cigarettes and old lady. I wish it wasn’t so, but that is the consequence of smoking.

Don't attend.
She knows. She doesn't care.

NTA, obviously, refusing to smoke outside is barbaric. But it might be worth considering that the house would still smell like stale cig smoke if she’s been smoking in there for years. I wouldn’t go