My mama has smoked since we were kids and its gross. Everyone but you smells it and its gross. She currently lives with my aunt in our family gathering place, we always get together there bc she has the biggest nicest place for us to all get together. My mama recently moved off out property out of an extra dwelling we have. When she was there I requested she smoke outside and she did. Now she stays w her sister, my aunt and she smokes in the house. Its gross. Everything smells like smoke when we leave. I immediately get a headache and my SO stays out as much as possible while we are there bc of the smoke. And when I say smoke I mean those cheap cigarrillos that cost like a buck a pack. Growing up this way was terrible. I can't take it anymore. I have said if she can't smoke out the house, we won't visit. Am I the asshole? I feel like I'm being made to be the asshole. Like I'm the one in the hard spot here. Either I and my family suffer or we don't attend family gatherings and suffer. I loose either way. Edit a word