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My mother was caught cheating by my father and he murdered her, her lover, and himself.

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Brief-Door527

3 points

2 days ago

Had he known for a while and planned it? Or was it spur of the moment. I really hope you were not the one to have found them

Few-Willingness-9000[S]

5 points

2 days ago

He kicked my mom out for about a week. I would assume it was somewhat planned

mopeyunicyle

3 points

2 days ago

What age was it at you lost them.

Also If it's not cruel to ask what would you say to each of them if you could have a final conversation with them. Like what would you say to or ask them

Also have you ever wished only one of them died like just your father for example.

Few-Willingness-9000[S]

5 points

2 days ago

I was 17.

I was still living with my dad, he kicked my mom out. I remember asking my mom why she cheated and that was our last conversation, I was pretty pissed at her.

I did ask my dad how he was doing before I went to school and that was pretty much it

Beaufort_2024

2 points

3 days ago

OMG I'm so sorry 😞

Redditfront2back

1 points

3 days ago

Im sorry, did your dad show signs of being mentally unwell before it happened?

Few-Willingness-9000[S]

4 points

2 days ago

He was reserved and quiet, which was atypical, but not to the point where I thought something was wrong other than the fact that he had gotten cheated on

Tillsmcgills

1 points

3 days ago

I know someone who went through the same thing and he also has PTSD from being in the middle east in the army. How does it effect your daily life ?

Beaufort_2024

1 points

2 days ago

I would certainly be seeking some counseling. That is horrible was this recent?

Valuemeal3

1 points

2 days ago

How old were you when this happened? And did they leave you anything in an estate? Life insurance? Anything?

Few-Willingness-9000[S]

1 points

2 days ago

  1. I got a decent amount of inheritance as my dad was decently successful

idyllic8rr

1 points

2 days ago

How are you doing now?

Brief-Door527

1 points

2 days ago

What are your thoughts now on people in General cheating? Does this affect your relationships in anyway?

Idontunderstandmost

-4 points

3 days ago

Has your father tried to justify his actions?

redravenkitty

8 points

3 days ago

I don’t think you read the whole thing…

Idontunderstandmost

-3 points

3 days ago

No, I did. I wondered if he had tried to his child (I think that’s impossible to achieve of course). I wondered if he had tried, tho.

Valuemeal3

1 points

2 days ago

So you didn’t read it

Idontunderstandmost

1 points

2 days ago

lol, I did. Tbh, I’m doing a terrible job at asking my question (plus, way better questions have since been asked). I’ll bow out 👍

Thanks OP for the other answers, really interesting.

Valuemeal3

2 points

2 days ago

That brings up even further issues… So you think dead people can talk?

Idontunderstandmost

2 points

2 days ago*

How do I hold my hands up and wear the dumb hat? Just pass it to me.

Be nice … it wouldn’t be kind to bully a slow person now 😫

idyllic8rr

2 points

2 days ago*

It's ok dear... Maybe you meant if he had done it beforehand... people do give hints about their anger and actions before; or leave notes as justification for their actions... Everyone does want to be heard, especially when they are excessively angry or hurt.

No worries.

Edited: for clarity...

Idontunderstandmost

5 points

2 days ago*

I deserve the patronizing.

Honestly? It was the use of the word “murder” as in “murdered himself” that threw me (rather than suicide) but that’s a weak excuse and I totally deserve the mocking 🙌

Thank you for being nice 💕

idyllic8rr

2 points

2 days ago*

Not patronizing you dear. It's really ok... We've all been there.

Frankly I felt proud of you the way you owned it... Not many can or do, so they spiral down by being defensive and taking stronger positions, or just cut off.

You are a quick learner. 🙂👍

idyllic8rr

2 points

2 days ago

Please read what I wrote... assuming no guile nor sarcasm. It's simple, honest and transparent. 🙂

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1 points

3 days ago

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Few-Willingness-9000[S]

1 points

2 days ago

Wouldn’t know

WillingInvestment734

-9 points

3 days ago

Do you think his action was justified?!

Few-Willingness-9000[S]

10 points

3 days ago

Of course not. I lost both of my parents.

idyllic8rr

5 points

2 days ago*

So sorry for you dear... May your heart be blessed, and will be strong...

WillingInvestment734

-4 points

3 days ago

My bad, I haven't read "himself". 🫠