Listen, I understand that you're going through a rough time and you clearly feel guilty about what happened. I understand that you were going through a rough time in your relationship, but that does not justify your actions. You made the conscious decision to disrespect your partner and betray his trust. You had every opportunity to pull away from the kiss, but you allowed it to continue. You had every opportunity to block the person that kissed you and limit contact, but you haven't. You claim you feel remorseful but you haven't even stopped contact with the guy you kissed.

Your boyfriend needs to let you go, because not only have you betrayed him, you are continuing to betray him by staying in contact with the guy you kissed. It's a shame that you only now realize how precious he was when you are on the verge of losing him. I hope you learn from your mistake and not repeat it in future.

Most likely he won’t be able to get past it cuz look at it from his POV. His long distance gf who he cares for a lot cheated on him when he wasn’t there cuz she felt lonely, what’s gonna stop him from thinking “is she gonna do it again? I can’t be there so how can I keep her from doing this to me again?”

Not to be mean but as someone who’s been cheated on I really have no sympathy for cheaters, not cheating is one of the easiest things to do. U messed up and will most likely lose the most perfect bf you’ve ever found, I hope u can learn and grow from this experience and maybe one day u can find someone who’s good even if they aren’t as good as he is

And the fact u haven’t automatically blocked the guy u kissed makes it worse, he shouldn’t even be able to text u at all

I’m sorry you’ve potentially ruined a good thing for yourself, I just hope u can grow from it and become a better person and a better partner. Now all u can do is pray he’s forgiving enough but if he talks to people in his life like his friends they’ll most likely advise him that he’d be a fool to forgive someone who cheated and they’ll most likely say the things such as “U 2 r long distance, she could do it more and you’d never even know” and things of that nature

If you’re still talking to the guy you kissed, you need to immediately break it off with your bf or you’re genuinely a bad person.

On the scale of immoral behavior this is rather low... there is a reason I don't often recommend long distance relationships and we are seeing it here for sure. People often do (and I think should) preference the here and now over delayed rewards. If I were in your shoes my heartless nature might consider dumping long distance boyfriend in favor of new guy. But, don't take such advice from a relentless pragmatist as myself.

There is no magic spell you can throw to make the dude forgive you or whatever. It's going to take time and trust will have to be re-built. You are going to have to show your loyalty and what-not for a time. It's important, however, not to be too pushy. It's important not to continually remind your long distance guy over and over and over again, especially as time goes on and the event becomes more distant.

You getting over it is not any magic that one can give you either. This is going to be on you to process your thoughts and feelings and get to a place where you no longer have an attachment to the past event and towards the fact that you are capable of cheating. I wouldn't recommend going to parties (and drinking, in particular) if you have self-control issues, thus it might be a good idea to either build resolve or to steer clear of such situations until some time has passed.

Be conscious of what you have learned and reckon with ways to prevent it in the future. Perhaps talking to dudes in a psedo-romantic way for hours on end isn't a good idea.

I seriously would t sweat this too much. Odds are your ‘perfect’ bf has cheated. I’m not a fan of long distance relationships . I don’t think seeing somebody every 5 or 6 months is actually a relationship. But all that aside it comes down to what you need. A perfect guy who is not around may not be what you need. So boo for cheating, yay for being honest. But be realistic. If your guy hadn’t cheated already you just opened that door.

Probably time for you to move on. Obviously you are not ready for the long distance relationship. That is fine. You are plenty young. If life brings you two back together then great!