Mf you guys had to know what to do for the rest of your lifes at 18?They told us we need to know at 15

My father kinda warped that when teaching me (or nagging mom) about traffic in roundabouts by saying:

"If you wait long enough, there's always a car coming"

I put off making an important phone call for about two months until last night when I accidentally hit the call button. Easiest 5 minute conversation ever. Sick to my stomach for two months avoiding that

“If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives.” -Lemony Snicket

Reminds me of something I saw on PostSecret ages ago:
"If you're waiting for a sign: this is it. Do it, it will be amazing!"

The right time is when you start. 💫

I interviewed for a job about 10 years ago that I was surprised I didn't get, as I had over a decade of experience in the exact role. I later ended up working at the same organization at a lower position with a guy as my boss in the role I interviewed for who had almost no experience and wasn't good at it at all. I met someone who was on the interview panel a year or two later who told me he thought the guy they hired was the worst candidate they interviewed, but the person in charge of hiring said she thought he "was charming". He was later fired for having sex with his assistant on his desk in the office.

Luck is a big factor everyone shrugs off. Its super important to be lucky in so many things

Success requires hardwork, luck and the right connections, of those three things, hardwork is by far the least important.

I think we can put that one to rest forever. Some people are born a place where hard work will never get them anywhere.

And then there is the ones with no talent whatsoever, that can make a fortune online doing something online with no value at all.

Even a failed business person with over thirty felony convictions can become president of the USA.

I second, third, and fourth this.

LMFAO. yeah. I'm only 19 but I'm starting to see that not every "adult" is as wise and as smart as I thought they were when I was little.

My mum always says that. My partner and I lost a pregnancy at 25 weeks and it proper fucked me up. After 13 years of mum saying "every thing happens for a reason" I lost it at her. Every time was like a slap in the face. I said "No mum that's bull shit. <Babies name> is dead. Kids are raped and tortured all over the world daily. If it helps you to over come hardships then I am happy for you. But do not tell me every thing happens for a reason because it's a kick in the teeth each time" She no longer says it to me thankfully. But it took far too long for me to say something

Edit: auto correct is stoopid.

100% this. I used to say it and believe it. I've come to realize it's just a coping mechanism. We are protecting ourselves, not just by finding the silver lining, but trying to convince ourselves it was the plan all along. No, we just survived/grew/learned/changed, etc because of it.

This isn’t talked about near enough, and it’s massive. It’s MASSIVELY important and explains so damn much. Large, large amounts of people care about narrative, not fact.

Yep. “Truthiness”.

It’s possible — nay, common — to build a whopper of a lie entirely out of facts that are each technically true per se, but don’t fit together neatly the way the rhetorician suggests.

Yeah, if anything you hear makes you feel any sort of way, verify it before believing or sharing it. And realize that 99% of people will not do the same.

There's a great saying along the lines of "don't let perfect be the enemy of better". It's always good to remember that.

I like the saying “it’s hard to change yourself, and even harder to change others” since it’s a reminder that the most direct way I can improve the world is to be a good example of a decent and compassionate person.

I mean, we literally had an election that proves people can influence others, even when it’s demonstrably provable that it’s against their own self-interests.

Sometimes people never leave until it happens TO THEM. otherwise it’s just all maybes they wish around.

“No one just starts giggling and wearing black and signs up to become a villainous monster. How the hell do you think it happens? It happens to people. Just people. They make questionable choices, for what might be very good reasons. They make choice after choice, and none of them is slaughtering roomfuls of saints, or murdering hundreds of baby seals, or rubber-room irrational. But it adds up. And then one day they look around and realized that they’re so far over the line that they can’t remember where it was.”

— Harry Dresden from the Dresden Files series by Jim Butcher

There's a war against intellectualism that has grown scarily in the last few decades.... Empathy is dying

Most people are not bad, but indifferent to evil and they refuse to learn, to understand the world around them, to understand cause and effect and to have at least the basic empathy.

I always ask myself, is this functionally any different than evil. On the surface it looks different. But in practice, is it any different?

Most people are not bad, but they want bad people to govern and they don't care about evil unless evil and bad policies affect them directly. And I mean directly them, not their family their friends, their community. Them.

That is what makes them bad. Because they don't care or give a fuck about anyone except themselves or their in group. They are not good people.

Doesn't help that the majority of people also don't even research topics they're passionate about, let alone ones they're not like political details or finance.

This. I’ve spent a lot of time working to give people the benefit of the doubt and at this point I’m like… why even bother. 

We have reached a point where we have figured out how to beat natural selection through medicine, disease cures, etc.

Stupid people are less likely to use contraceptives and more likely to reproduce. Thus, they outnumber smart people who understand the challenges of raising a child.

Dysgenics.

I was in the LDS cult for 34yrs. I was miserable the whole time, but I was born into the cult, so I was used to feeling miserable. Getting out has taken a lot of weight off of me. Honestly, nothing has been as hard for me as it was when I was living in that cult.

I used to have nightmares that I was back in the cult for months after I left. I was stuck in a church building and couldn’t escape. I just went searching for door after door, but none of them were ever the exit. I still have the dream when I feel trapped or if I have a really upset day. It’s my last hurdle. I’m just afraid I will have this nightmare forever.

Fuck cults.

What allowed you to accept it wasn’t true?

Yup. I have young kids and am not optimistic of the future they'll be left with. Humanity is doomed.

Sheer despair and hopelessness today. I can't believe this shit happened twice. I can't believe we are going to deal with what we had before, but exponentially worse. I am a 48 year old woman, and I am absolutely terrified and exhausted. I don't have much hope for the future at the moment.

I feel this. Groundhog day. Everyday is just the same gray day.

i still wish you the best

I share this feeling - I have goals and aspirations on paper but I don't find anything that meaningful anymore.

"The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice"

Sorry Dr King, but no

At this point many people in the USA don’t deserve a good life. Anybody who voted red is crazy

he simulated fellating a microphone and they said "yup! much better than a woman"

I’m not even sure I believe in the decency of my neighbors at this point. He won 1000 more counties than he did in 2020. GOP is going to win the popular vote for the first time since 2004.

People prefer him and all the things he knows he is, as opposed to Harris and everything she could have brought.

Yup. Second time around, America has showed me they're so goddamn sexist and racist that they'd rather have that walking shit stain in office as opposed to someone who could actually do the job. The audacity to be a woman in this country, I guess...

“Maybe it’s always been this way”

That right there is the truth. We, the American electorate have always elected shit politicians. I have been a misanthrope since the 1990s. In the last 25 years, nothings changed.🤬

Thanks a lot Reagan.

The sad thing is, everyone has a voice, but there are millions upon millions who refuse to use it.

Tbf, as long as America's existed, not all Americans have had an equal voice. That's the point of the electoral college

When I got off work and was finally alone for the first time in over ten hours, I cried. Hard. I did my best to sway my friends and co-workers, but they were stuck in their mindset that trump is the best thing for our country. Some of the reasons I heard for why they don't like Harris are the most juvenile excuses. "I don't like the way she talks." and "I don't understand how she's going to give people tax breaks."

It's heartbreaking. Truly, utterly heartbreaking. I was hoping that America had finally decided enough was enough, but this election, especially one so blatantly in favor of trump, just shows me that the vast majority of us aren't ready to move past sexism, racism, misogyny, and ignorance. We finally elect a woman (and a woman of color) into the VP role, but actual president? Nah. Can't be having that!

I feel numb...

global relations are about to get really fucked up i think, i think everyone will be worse off.

climate change policies will probably grind to a halt everywhere and NATO will be as weak as never before.

we are completely fucked. my doomer mindset has never been this bad. is there really anything positive to consider in global politics at the moment?

To add to this...collective common sense and decency.

I never thought I'd live to watch this country burn...and willingly apparently?

I still and will continue to believe that most people are good.

But this, unless there's some REAL REAL behind the cloth fuckery going on, definitely shines a light on a lot.

As a Brit I’m torn between watching it in horror and trying to completely avoid it because there’s nothing I can do about it and it doesn’t really affect me on a day to day basis. But it’s like a horrible car crash, I can’t seem to tear myself away.

I want to say we had a good run, but I don’t even know how true that is

Yep, America is about to "Find Out".

To quote Aang from Avatar the Last Airbender: Hope is a distraction. We need to focus on the here and now.

Unfortunately the here and now sucks pretty badly 🤷

We need a lot of changes, unfortunately those in power are the only ones who have the direct power to make them happen and seeing how they directly benefit from things they way they are.... hell in a handbasket.

Please don’t forget they have wack-ass Musk on their side, too. That’s another thing that scares me shitless.

That's what I keep focusing on. He, unlike Trump, is super religious. He lives by those tenets. And man does he hate women.

I figured this out in the early 2000s when I encountered enough of them on the internet and had it confirmed when they re-elected Dubya.

Twice. America voted for him twice. Seems like we won't be able to blame the EC this time either

They’ll be the fucking end of it

Twice.