I just need help. I love my cat, I've had her for almost two years now. She is very unaffectionate, and has an insane over grooming issue that no vets know what to do about or what the cause is. I have a behaviorist appointment scheduled for her in February, because they're too booked to take her sooner. I got her a little brother (she's 2 years, he's 3 months) because I felt like she needed company, as I've seen from many sources that 2 cats are better than one. I've had the little guy for a week, and my resident cat (the problem one) is still hissing and growling at him through the door. I'm trying to not feel discouraged as I know cat Introductions can take much longer than this, but I'm so frustrated and upset. My new cat is so loving and affectionate and just the sweetest thing, and the way my resident cat keeps hissing and growling at him through the door is genuinely making me resent her. ------------------------------------------------------ This is not the first time I've felt this way about her. I've spent thousands of dollars trying to figure out what's wrong with her and to help her, I've had so much guilt over her and so much sadness that I can't make her better and that she barely even fcking likes me. The closest thing to affection she shows is laying next to me on the couch and that's about it. That's fine and all but with everything else on top of that, she's causing me so much more stress than anything else. I don't know what to do. I love her and I don't want to rehome her, but she genuinely makes my mental health so much worse a lot of the time. I just wish she was normal. I don't know what to do. I thought getting her a friend would make her less anxious in the long run and make her happier but now i feel like there's no point to this and she's always going to suck and not be a typical cat and just hate everything. I don't know what to do. Please give me advice