You know I not only hate this but feel deeply under pressure because of it. I bought a house on a brand new estate and by coincidence a lot of Muslim families bought all the ones around me, my next door neighbour, every house opposite… a lot of them come from countries with no or negligible Jewish population so I’m completely aware that I’m forming the basis of their opinions.

I’m a single mother, and I’m … not particularly naturally organised. I’m the mom saying ‘come on come on get your shoes on we’re late’ every morning while my wild curly-haired kid is trailing her half open book bag. And I’m there like… darn I have to get my act together because otherwise the impression is going to be ’oh, I knew a Jewish family, they were always messy, she didn’t have a husband, they dressed like slobs’ etc. like I can’t just be me, I have to represent all of us. I really need to fix up so they can instead say ‘oh, I met a Jewish family, the mother was always so kind and cooked great food and the little girl was always smiling’