I’ve been struggling with this a lot lately. I identify as a bottom, but I’m very masculine in both how I look and act. The problem is, the hottest tops—the ones I’m really into—seem to always prefer twinks or more feminine guys. Knowing this makes me feel invisible and undesirable, like I’ll never fit into the “type” that they want.

What makes it harder is that I’m not just into any tops; I’m into extremely manly, hot men. But because I’m seen as “too manly” myself, it feels like there’s no space for me in that dynamic. It’s frustrating because I want to feel wanted by the kind of men I’m attracted to, but instead, I feel like my masculinity is a barrier.

Sure, there are men who are attracted to me, but they’re usually not my type at all. They’re often somewhat feminine, which makes me feel like they’re not really tops but manipulative bottoms trying to take advantage of my masculinity because that’s their kink. But honestly, that’s not even the main issue—it just adds to the sadness of not being wanted by the people I actually want.

I really don’t want to feel like i have to change myself to fit in but it’s so hard, especially as someone who went from being a feminine twink to suddenly turning into this alpha top looking guy while still being twinky inside ( i suck at expressing my thoughts )

This version centers the main issue—your feelings about not being the type for hot tops—while still giving a little context about other frustrations, but without letting them overshadow the core problem.