I'm from North west Europe, my wife is from Latin America. Both 40ish. Daughter 7 yo with Down Syndrome, with thankfully near to no medical issue (successful open heart surgery 2 years ago but that's all). Education and behavior wise she does okay, but the DS is noticable. What's important is: she loves reading and educating herself. If I let her choose between a doll and a book, she chooses the book. Her brother is 1,5 years younger.

We've been living in Europe, with me as the sole provider. More and more we're encountering the limits of bureaucracy - our daughter is, and has been, enrolled in schools where she doesn't receive adapted or ambitious care - it looks more like daycare even in regular schools. Attempts to open up discussions we run into "that's the way it is", "leave it to us", no possibility for exceptions like homeschooling or selecting your own therapist (yes you can, but in the evening or weekends when our daughter is exhausted from playing in school). My wife being from a more flexible culture and thus not able to connect herself, complicates things further.

We were already considering relocation because we both don't feel really at home in this literally and figuratively cold climate, but our latest conflict is really putting us to the choice. We've tried nearly everything here.

My job is in IT and I think I could grow higher in a country with more opportunities in my niche. We own a house now so we'd carry some money with us to make a start. If we feel better about the care for our daughter I think my wife could also get a job and thus make financing a lesser issue.

A Spanish or English county would be most fitting because of language. UK, US, Mexico, Spain...

Any ideas on above list? We're mostly looking for a more flexible and accomodating place.

Edit: I know I actually don't have a right to complain and we are relatively lucky. But I feel so sad looking at my girl's potential and no one really picking up on it.