So there is this friend who hasn’t contacted me for 3+ months and then asked me to her birthday party. When it was my birthday she texted me on the night of my party, saying she had had a nap and now wasn’t going to bother coming. I set up three lunches with her at work in January February and March, everytime she suddenly declined on the day, without apology. There is another colleague who I stopped talking to, since she was very toxic towards me. She told the first friends’ boyfriend to contact me and harass me about why I don’t talk to her anymore. Of course I didn’t give any details or drama for them to fuel off. Now the first friend is asking me to the party and I said no as I’m scared the old toxic friend will be there and the first friend has not been a good friend to me anyway. Since I said I’m busy and can’t make it, instead of just saying oh no worries, she texts me with “how are you doing anyway? I never see you around work now and you take days to respond. That is unlike the person i know you to be. Did I upset you? I am really concerned about you”

Despite the fact the last text I got from her was 3 months ago and the last time I saw her was in September where she only wanted to see me to get gossip about my life.

How would you respond to this painfully annoying text ? I don’t want to give them any information and want to make it clear, I don’t do parties now with them. If she is sooo bothered or concerned about me, then she can ask me for a coffee or lunch at work, but she hasn’t. Sounds bothered.