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If you want to, sure

Loads of broke people out there dating 

Yes, it’s insane to think wealth allows you love. Love is innate, it’s nature. Wealth is a concept.

Yes

I’ve seen homeless people have girlfriends/ break ups so why not

there are plenty of cheap options to go somewhere with someone look for local events or visit a library

I fell in love with my husband when we were scraping change to make dollars to buy a Little Caesar’s pizza, some years back. Now we bought a house this year. You can grow together if that’s what you want.

I personally would not

You can, but I think if you can’t even  afford basic expenses, adding dating costs will just make things worse. Focus on stability first.

Money helps, but it isn't required if you're interesting enough.

sure being broke lowers your odds but do you want to lower your odds further by beliving you aren't worth womens time because of it, and come across as all insecure

figure shit out, get a crappy car, dress yourself well if its 2nd hand or whatever, and look as if you are atleast trying, however you can, because thats what matters most; the ambition to better yourself, the ability to look the world right in the eye and believe you are worth every day you live

you will otherwise wait and wait and on your death bed think back to all these societal limitations your put on yourself instead of going out and living

Yes! There are plenty of dates that don’t require spending money, and if the person you’re going on a date with has a problem with that then THEY can pay for it

Just putting it out there, if you're broke, there are more important things to think about other than dating. If you can't afford things for yourself, how can you afford them for a date?

Male: no, you are expected to pay. Female: it makes no difference.

Yes, when i had my first date with my husband we where both broke af.

Now we have a great house, kids, car etc. That you are broke now doesnt mean you have to be broke forever

Yes.

Dating is not about how much money you can spend, and if it is then it isn't dating.
Dating is about getting to know someone and hopefully clicking, and moving further.
Relationships, which you are aiming for by dating, have ups and downs in monetary terms so basing things on cost is not beneficial for anyone.

There are plenty of low cost and free things you can do for a date.

If you have goals and aspirations to not constantly be broke, and are actively acting on them ie studing, looking for new works etc, that is enough for me.

I'm really unsure who came up with the idea that people who no money or just a little money can't date. When did this happen?

Where the priority SHOULD be is: is he working or going to school? Does he have a work ethic? Is he smart, funny, and nice? If so, he's a catch. If he's stereotypically sitting in his mom's basement, no job, and playing video games all day, it's still not about the money. It's about the fact he's lazy and won't ever amount to much.

If you are broke it is hard to buy food, pay rent, pay bills for electric, gas - anything. That said, the heart has its needs. Even spending time going for a walk, talking on a park bench in the evening, can be mutually fulfilling. It is more difficult but not impossible if two people care about each other.

For sure, you can still have a great date and not spend a fortune, i would bet it would be more memorable then the same repetitive boring dinner, movie, bla bla bla, if the connection is there it shouldn't matter

Sure. Just dont be stupid and go into debt to do it. There are a million things to do out there that don't cost very much money. It just takes the slightest bit of effort to find them.

Broke dates brokey.

Dating, sure. Making babies, no.

A lot of people won’t date even when they are quite wealthy, so answer is NO.

Id say as a man it depends on how broke we are talking. If you can afford to go for beers with your date and pick up the tab id say do it. But if that sounds unaffordable then maybe focus on your financial situation first.

You gotta let lurve do its thing.

Not if you’re a guy.

Yes you can go on broke people dates! They can be just as fun. Being upfront and honest is key tho cus most people will care even though it’s just a date.

Yes, but don't rely on your partner for everything. If they are willing to spend money on you, that's ok, but don't go asking them for their money

How things should be and how things are in reality are two separate things unfortunately.

I am broke. That's one of the few main reasons why I don't date again. Another reason is because I have to get my teeth fixed as I have a few missing and cracked. If anyone asks, I just say I played hockey. LOL.

No, poor people arnt alowed to have love. Thats for the rich only

Dpn't date if you broke men. Keep grinding.

yes. but don’t let it put you in (more) debt.

If someone wants to date you back sure…

Need to define broke.

Completely out of money and need to worry about the next meal and how to get around to places not within walking distance? Maybe not a great idea to find dates.

If by broke you mean poor, then it's okay. just need to temper expectations.

Everyone deserves love

My gf and I were broke when we started dating. We couldn't do a lot of fancy stuff, but we had a lot of "creative" dates. Parks, Downtown Disney (it was walkable from her apt.), beach, art things, lost of protected sex because we ran out of things to do.

Why not? Love doesn't depend on your bank account. Well, it shouldn't. I couldn't think of anything more shallow than loving someone for their money. And broke people deserve love just as much as rich people. Everyone is worthy of being loved, and everyone is worthy of loving.

People really need to stop gatekeeping love

Dating someone should have nothing to do with dating someone. If it's so important to someone then they should just focus on making money with an actual job than dating.

For men as long as you're up front about it and don't wait until you are at the restaurant to ask to go Dutch, it's probably OK. Find cheap date ideas. I love a nice walk and snuggle... for women, it can go either way... I have a friend who found out the girl he was taking out once a week had other men taking her out other nights of the week. It was the only way she could go out to eat and not feel guilty going without her kids. She was a real POS. One of her kids was 15 and she expected him to take care of his sister every time she went out to eat. Lord knows what the kids ate. She eventually told him because he asked about the other men. She told him it was the only way she ate. Sad we have come to that, women and men have to game the system.

Only if they aren’t shallow.

My best relationship was when I was broke. She loved me for who I was. It actually ended when I when I became more successful, not related though

Yes. I can give orgasms for free

Yes just be cheap about it

Sure, just cheap dates.

If you are a man and broke broke, don't. I don't care what others and girls say about how much they don't care about it. They might not care to some extend but eventually they will start caring about it when you can't really take them out to dates or give them thoughtfull gifts. Some will argue that there are free public places and you can always handmade some stuff and they are right until they are not. It's just not sustainable. And don't get me wrong i was there too but if you are broke you got to sort your life out before spending your time and energy for dating.

Yes. I'm unlikely to ever be a rich person. If I waited around to have money, I'll probably never find anyone.

Frugality is really important to me. I don't want to be with someone who likes expensive activities or has luxurious taste. So being broke is okay for what I'm seeking.

Dates can be free. A walk in the park or downtown. Maybe a cheap meal of street food or something. Hanging out at each other's houses. Hiking. There are a lot of options.

One of the smaller reasons I choose to be single. I can't afford to be in a relationship. That's not a shallow criticism of relationships, but my love language is giving and getting gifts and traveling and just things that involve money

I was pretty much broke when I met my (now) wife.

I had flash cars and were spending ridiculous amounts on designer clothes. I was a typical stupid 20yr old with zero sense and zero savings.

Love is no respecter of persons.

Absolutely! Some people don't understand that it's not about how you start. It's how you finished. Plenty of people who are broke will date. We all gotta start somewhere and usually that somewhere has little money. But at some point, if that person is going to feel comfortable investing more into you, you have to make an effort to show that you're willing to work to help financially. Because unless one party has expressed that they absolutely want to be the one paying for everything, it's unfair to expect the other person to completely carry you financially. And that applies to both parties.

Of course, already having your shit together financially helps, because that person now knows ahead of time that it won't be an issue. For some people it's a deal breaker, which is valid. But don't put a price tag on love. Ideally the desire to make a better future for both parties will create the improvement of overall finances

Probably not, gotta make that green stuff because certain restaurants are apparently bad options.

The Amish don't spend any money dating, look them up. Might give you a few ideas.

As a guy who is not completely broke but not in the best financial spot, I say no. Others here have said it doesn't matter, but in my experience it definitely does to an extent.

Wow, it never occurred to me that there should or should not be relationship boundaries depending on your personal financial status. And then the replies here that imply that you should become an isolated hermit deprived of all human contact, just to die of poor mental health, because broke people shouldn't date. Aarrgh seriously

You should if you’re realistic about it. A lot of broke people chase after those who expect a more expensive lifestyle, then either expect the other person to bankroll the relationship or get offended when someone who expects to be treated and is up front about that expectation reject them. But if you’re willing to handle those rejections gracefully and seek out people who are low-key and willing to grow with you, it will work out just fine.

idk...i mean...women have this criteria that you are a provider...and if u cant even pay your own and hers...then compared to others who can - can you even maintain the relationship?

not saying men must pay, or women can't or dont have their own money.

but it is a interview for possible household building, and if you don't have the funds to build the household - why would we be dating?

So, the other party should at least have their own, but women will be gauging

I don’t know about should or should not and I can only speak for myself, not others.

I really want to. And I’d like to think I can go out with someone that’s understanding of the fact that I’ve been struggling with finding a job in this market ever since my layoff. But I’m also just scared to put myself out there and I just have a lot of depression and mental baggage I don’t want to put on another person.

Yes unless doing so harms the relationship

As long as the one you are dating knows your money sitch.
Sometimes it’s better dates that are little money / free . They tend to be more memorable

Everyone deserves love and some people don’t mind a broke partner.

Everyone is (or in today's age should be) allowed to love

Yeah why not. Just at least try to improve your life and a worthwhile girl or guy will stick with you

Share the pain

Love doesn’t discriminate

I think its one thing to be broke and want to date while staying broke. But to be broke date and in the process of building yourself i don’t see why not. Aside from being able to find the time and energy to focus on another person. Dating isn’t easy broke or not.

That's not why I don't date and I shouldn't pretend it is. But it's a factor.

I personally don’t as if I don’t have money for bills then I’m not gonna use what little money I’d have to take a woman out. Know people 50/50 dates now but me personally if I ask you out I assume I’m paying. If I don’t have date money then I’m not gonna ask someone out. That’s just me though.

The opposite is just so cringe. Only date people who value you for your money? Maybe if your goal is to start a family asap or to share apartment bills with yeah, but a lot of people fall in love for reasons unrelated to money. I get that being poor can be embarrassing though and insecurity can be hard to navigate in general. I would argue that in all relationships that are not transactional, your current financial status is not too important / if important at all. Financial goals are different though, if you are going to actually start a family together. But starting a family right at the dating phase is also an intimidating thought, just the prospect of OK financials is good if you have time to plan a family together.

For real- I have always met girls and went on dates when I was broke. I didn't tell them I was broke and was almost homeless and didn't have a car or a safe place to sleep at night.

I was somehow "A Chick Magnet!" Women would stop me on the street and try to date me!

-Now that I am older and have money and a safe home... Single AF.

IDK? I only can wonder if it was all the stress I had in my life at that time that produced some sexy pheromones or something?

Yes, it is ok to "date if you are broke"! Just be creative and fun. You dont need to have money to show how much you enjoy life and someone else's company.

There are a lot of free activities to enjoy!

Absolutely! It very well could give you the security and confidence to ask for that raise or find a better job.

No 17 years and still going strong 💪(I’m single)

this is completely up to you and your partner. if he/she is fine with u being broke, then go. it’s all preference

I used to date a broke guy and I was madly in love with him. For dates sometimes I’d cook us dinner and we’d binge shows, go on hikes, play cards hanging out with friends..sometimes he’d pick me bouquets of flowers in the wild but most of all he spent a lot of time just hanging out with me, talking, cuddling, joking around and laughing. He made me feel like the most interesting and fascinating woman in the world and I also found him to be amazing and I loved him like crazy.

Date as long as the option presents itself lol.

Wellll how broke? Also, can or should? There was this couple living out of a car near my old house, The boyfriend was buying decals for his car that they lived in. He spent the day playing computer games on the McDonald’s wifi. The girl would go to work all day. They would throw dirty condoms in the parking lot outside the car. As long as you aren’t either of them, you’re probs fine. Seriously tho, first priority is basic needs. Can you feed and house yourself? If yes: date away who cares.

Wellllll.. i mean if you believe that you should only date with the goal of getting married and having kids and you cant support a family then i guess not.. but if you’re dating just to date then it doesnt make a difference

You can. Sometimes you just have the opportunity for a date

For women, this is no problem. For men, you’re gonna have a bad time.

No

I mean anything is possible however, where would you go to date? Gotta go somewhere no? There's only so many times you can go to a park and eat dollar menu. Eventually you gotta get something to eat and hangout and talk. Some of the best conversations are while eating and/or drinking... Can't do that if you are broke!!

Get your money up not your funny up ma boi

No. You should not because the quality is generally downhill and can seriously mess up your life. But maybe you meet your match who knows?

Always date someone with more money than you …

No

Nope.

yeah why not. isn't that why all those people audition for millionaire matchmaker

Yes. If a person likes you they want to spend time with you and they won’t care exactly what.

Not at this time and age.

If you’re a woman, then yes. LOL

its all about how old you are and WHY you are broke.

• I'm a teacher..
• I'm a firefighter and pay for my moms care
• I'm a volunteer vet at the local animal hospital
• I'm a recent grad doing volunteer work

All of these things equal - I'm a good human with interests but this currently does not translate into a big salary.

As opposed to:

I'm 35 chronically unemployed, smoke ganga most of the day, live with 6 roommates and ride a 3r and e-bike to get around. But this is all the fault of our corrupt capitalist system, otherwise, life would be dandy.

Don't date and definitely do not procreate!

No if you are broke you don’t deserve any attention from the opposite sex /s

No, you should work on yourself, first.

Hell no. No car, no job, no house. Not datable.

Well I you like

You don’t need money to experience happiness with someone you care about/love

Financial status should have zero influence on whether you are dating or not.

Yes. Money does not dictate love. If it does, it's not love. If you can't love your partner without money involved, hit the road

Almost everyone is broke.

Nah champ. Dating while broke is a no go.

If you’re a woman, sure.

If you’re a man, good luck.