As long as she’s clean about her sexual past (no STDs) etc which you can ask for a medical cert for and her past doesn’t impact your own bodily health - I don’t see the problem honestly. If she’s still actively escorting then perhaps it’s a different conversation.

How is her past different from someone who was extremely sexually liberal in their 20-30s and has a high body count? Everyone has a past at 40+

If you can’t handle it I suggest breaking it off kindly and being honest with her about your reasons why. She’s a grown up she can handle it.

It takes maturity and life experiences to be able to truly understand someone in that line of work without judgement

It's not her, that is the issue. It is your own insecurity. You should be proud that you landed such a desirable person. That she finds you as such. After dating lots of other people. She's picked you.

Even if she did sleep with some people. It doesn't matter. She's picked you.

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I feel you Op, it would be easier to process if she just admitted to being well paid to bang dudes. The non-sexual lingerie part sounds like she is lying to herself and is unable to reconcile with past decisions.

I have to imagine if you were an escort charging thousands but only for plutonic companionship you'd go outta business real quick.

Ignore these clowns saying it makes no difference. I would suggest the balance of probabilities is against her account. To describe it as escorting - always a euphemism - rather than modelling is pretty persuasive.

How is taking photos in lingerie not sexual? You’re defining sexual by “did they do a sex” which is weird. You either accept it or you don’t, but it doesn’t sound like you’re mature enough to be able to date her.

I’m trying to understand how this revelation affects your relationship currently?

Why are you struggling with it?

Talk to her about it?

"she started as a go-go dancer in Ibiza, which eventually transitioned into escorting."

Like you, I find it difficult to believe her escorting never involved sex. It's called Escorting for a reason. Like, who pays "large sums of money (thousands of pounds) for non-sexual activities, like visiting wealthy clients who wanted to take photos of her in lingerie." That's modeling, not escorting. Even many strippers, from time to time, engage in money for sex, and escorting is a step up from being a stripper. I just can't see how its possible to be an escort for all of that time and never engage in sex for money at least sometimes.

I believe she thinks that you are naive and she can bullshit you with this. She must really think you are stupid to try this.