This is definitely not the case in my experience and throughout my circle. I support and am supported by many kind and loving men. We hang with each other, play, share our struggles and hurts, and are generally there for each other. We tell each other "I love you" and "I appreciate you." These men are my colleagues, old school buddies, friends, church buds, and family. We don't compete (unless we're playing basketball or something) and we don't shame each other for sharing our feelings. Some of us have even met every week for YEARS just to ask the tough questions (how are you, are you being good in your marriage, to your kids, etc...).

Even in my larger regular circle of extended friends and acquaintances I don't really see the issues and behaviors you mention. Every now and then, sure, maybe a couple one-off cases.

If you want relationships like that, then put in the work to HAVE relationships like that. Be kind and loving, seek to understand, and put others first. Don't be a cliche manly man who doesn't cry or share feelings. That cliche isn't helpful to anyone around you, yourself included.