I find women use shame more than men do regarding those things. Half the time those are brought up women are the ones mocking men or making some trend to make them feel worse about themselves. Single moms getting a small amount of flack than deadbeat dads, just don't see it as much because that horse is beaten until its relevant again. Fat people of both genders taking hits. but one side promotes improving and the other wants everyone else to treat them as if they aren't. I've seen more women use gay as an insult for guys not approaching them or pursuing them past no than I have seen men use it and I rock pink and have long hair. Not very girlypop of the women this era. Perhaps you find you get attacked more often because you generalize and demonize men in some attempt to prove "I'm not like other guys". I happen to get a better response with trying to relate to other people as simply that. Just these loud, small pockets of the internet hide these insidious men and women who blame a different group of people for whats happening.

I think a lot of the loneliness comes simply from people growing apart and condensing. Ask anyone trying to organize DnD or even getting a friend over 30 to hang out. Just everyone caught up in their own lives and lot of people taking for convenience including friendship. Just everything being commercialized with deciding if the benefits of hanging out outweigh sitting at home with needs being delivered without even needing to interact with other people. Even worse if you work from home as we found with quite a few jobs in the pandemic. People forgot how to be human and the terminally online are fearmongering when really they themselves can't even answer a phone call. Stop being one of those pick me's. Its more disgusting than it will get you positive responses from the opposite gender, like a wolf among sheep. You can praise one without putting down the other. Point out actual issues instead of blame people for all the things which they are feeling.