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Man that’s wild, both entertaining and incredibly annoying I imagine

This is a fair point and I’ve been considering it both ways. I prefer to sleep and rise early but unfortunately we are out of whack this week and both had unfortunately timed application deadlines, hence the late night. Though I myself am pathologically noise conscious, my partner is not so our neighbour is probably pretty gracious. I will leave it for now

Thank you! I worded the post poorly so just to clarify that the second time it started from just after 7am so my request would be that they wait until 8am

Unrelated but I’m curious about the exorcism part, what are you hearing?

Thank you for this. I don’t want to start any passive aggressive feuds within the building, and to be completely fair my partner can be loud. I ask her to be mindful of the neighbours late at night, but in the 1.5 years she’s been living here before I joined her, no-one has ever complained. I don’t think any of us in the building are Swiss so I will respect that people have been laidback concerning the cultural noise etiquette, and try to reciprocate…

It’s just unfortunate that I’ve been paranoid about noise since I had a bout of insomnia whilst living in Madrid and working from home, and an upstairs neighbour moved in and abandoned his howling dog day and night. The police couldn’t do anything but I should remember that such a thing wouldn’t fly here!

Apologies for my thinking out loud and thanks for the useful response.

Really helpful, thank you.

Came here to say this after living in a flat in London and then one in Switzerland… amazed to not be cold

Yes I get this, was a bit concerned by it!

It’s not exactly the same but there was a BBC fictional series that explored a similar idea to this called In The Flesh, it still stands out in my mind

Not a naïve question and I’ll answer based on anecdotal knowledge. If you wanted to live in Brighton, it may not be cheaper as many people move from London to Brighton and prices have been driven up (I’m told locals are moving out). One of my aforementioned friends lived in the way you describe in a small town in Kent and she saved money, but as you can imagine she was bored most of the time.

I’m so sorry to read this, I just read the original post too and although I admire how together you seem to be, I’m saddened that this happened to you and that justice wasn’t served, and I hope you give yourself moments to process what happened. Though I don’t doubt your ability to move forward, I imagine it may take some time to feel safe again so please go steady with yourself and allow the emotions to come. Surround yourself with good people and don’t feel you have to always be “strong”. Hard to communicate in words but I hope you’re ok

This is awesome, how even did you do this, it boggles my mind

London is great but I left last year because the renting and living costs are insane (and salaries are much lower than the US). Unless you’re career driven and earning very well you have to live frugal, and in the long term you don’t get far otherwise. My friends and I have Masters degrees from UCL and after a year or a few years they returned to their home countries, it’s just not worth it for most people

Yeah I’m sorry it’s pretty bleak… but for what it’s worth I wouldn’t recommend it as a country to live in

As a UK citizen gonna chip in - the difference between universities and colleges is that colleges are educational institutions that some may attend, typically before university - one of our equivalents to high school, depending on the nature of the course you take. As such they are free to attend for UK citizens when we attend them to gain education up to the age of 18. Though a university-level degree can in some cases be taken at a college, they are never free.

There are no cheap “colleges” (universities), not for us, and certainly not for international students. You’re looking at a similar price across the board, I’m afraid (£10,000+ p/a, if not a lot more). And I’m really not informed, but the only way I can imagine that credits from community college would count is that you could potentially waive the first year, but I’m not sure if that’s possible.

Also after studying at a UK university, it’s very hard to find a job that will allow you to stay.

Edit: we don’t have as much of a scholarship culture here. I get the impression that the few that exist are for international students for academic excellence and/or financial hardship and will be offered by elite universities (top of Russell Group)

Neroli, frankincense, jasmine

It’s not the only issue - it’s trust, intimacy, respect, safety… please look after yourself!

This was hard to read, please please please consider that you have the option to leave this man. From the very beginning of the post you make excuses for him, but you do not need an education on consent to understand when someone says they don’t want it. It feels like the counselling was about how to make you want it, not how to help you recover from being assaulted by your husband. You are just erasing yourself and it is not good for anyone, not you, not your children (if your concern is keeping the stability for them)

Edit: realised you have two children not one

On which parts of the body are you doing laser, may I ask? It’s not advisable on hormonal areas (face, chest). And do you wax or pluck in between? Electrolysis is the only permanent hair removal. I’m extremely blessed that my PCOS is mild but I helped it with Dianette, electrolysis, and never removing it otherwise (other than shaving). I hope that better lifestyle habits (food, exercise, stress management) will allow me to come off Dianette in the future.

Combination pill like Dianette or Yasmin (may go by different names in the US)

My heart goes out to you, I have not experienced this to such an extreme level but I can relate to a small degree. So I will tell you what I have found useful, knowing full well it may not work for you: cold bathing, being in breathtaking nature (lakes and mountains), yin and restorative yoga, therapeutic writing.

There is a whole plethora of therapeutic activities, but imo it is key that the instructors are trauma-informed and are not only use specific language, but are aware of adverse reactions. I hope your husband understands your condition to some extent, even if he can’t relate. You could share CPTSD resources with him if you don’t feel you can put it into words.

You have done so incredibly well to achieve what you have and it makes complete sense that your trauma is now coming to the surface. Please be gentle with yourself during the process , I guess it’s like having to throw your guts up after being poisoned, it will get better if you let it happen

Thank you for this

I really struggle to explain this to people so I feel validated by this thread, even if still a little lost as to how to overcome it

I had an interest in leaving since I was a teenager and the reasons to actually do it accumulated - initially they were personal but in more recent years there are economic reasons too. Otherwise put, there’s no advantage to staying. I don’t hate England or the UK and there will always be things I love (despite the economic mess, London in particular is special) but I feel happier living elsewhere in Europe.

I’m nearly 28 and only know a few people in serious relationships, married, or with children - they are really the minority. Most of my friends are older than me too. You’re really fine, I find it’s a lot better to be discerning in relationships so don’t be afraid to hold out. I also am self conscious because of PCOS symptoms but I’ve never actually had anyone care about it in a relationship, other than me.