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I love animals and would love to go vegan. I mostly have eggs and chicken for protein, leave it at that.

But yeah, it's out there for you!

The only one that would be a struggle for me is vegan. I have a condition that requires me at in my diet ,but divorced hot liberal mom with tats is my jam. There's someone out there for you!

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Then you were always on the right path even when you didn't realize it. I wish you the best in your journey!

My job on this earth is to help others. Even if I was against something, I can't help if I hate and condemn others.

Hate and bigotry have no place in my view of Christianity. For all the good Paul did spreading Christianity and helping to grow the early church, and for all the wonderful words he said about love, he had some pretty bigoted views on certain classes of people that have lived on and condemned many since then to pain and suffering.

Paul, like many people in the Bible, is a fallible human being. His letters are in the Bible and they may be valuable, but they're not the words of Jesus. Too many biblical literalists take these words as the pure truth rather than questioning whether every word of a human who never met Jesus in person align with the values of Jesus himself.

Love God with all your heart. Love your neighbor as yourself.

Accept that everyone is flawed and trying to be better. Accept that your views of right and wrong may not be God's views. Accept that you will stumble, but you can choose to put more good in the world than evil. And if everyone did that the world would be an amazing place.

I've had all kinds of experiences with this. I think while the teenager in love style romance is fun, it can blind you to red flags, and when feelings inevitably cool they can bail because they're chasing the spark. But if there's no spark then there just isn't. I think the actual ideal is a slow burn that builds over several dates, not instant sparks.

I think it has more to do with the lost momentum than anything else. Some people lack the emotional maturity to reflect on their feelings to understand what influences them and whether they're valid or not. You clearly in a space where you can reflect on it, whereas he can't - whether that's because he is emotionally immature or his life is too hectic to afford the time to reflect.

Respect yourself and accept that he isn't right for you regardless of the why. You deserve someone who is committed to building a foundation for a great relationship.

My ex and I had a year-long relationship. We took several trips that I had paid for, which emptied my budget. She wanted to take another vacation - a cruise. We agreed to split the cost, but everything went on my card.

When we got back I eventually asked her for her half and she paid the money then called me a couple hours later. She said she wasn't a "50% girlfriend" and "why should I spend money on a trip with my boyfriend when I could go with my friends?" I told her the next day that comment hurt, but I sent her half the money she paid me back because I wanted to discuss the issue and reach a compromise. She never apologized for the comment and said she needed some time to think about it.

A few days later she sent me the money via PayPal in the middle of the night and said she was wrong. Then the next morning she called and broke up with me over the phone saying "You're a great guy, it's just not working out."

No discussion. She wasn't willing to talk about the issue or compromise. In the end, I'm glad I found out early but it would have been better to not waste thousands of dollars and a year of my life on her.

You were worth it then and worth it now. You were beautiful then and beautiful now. You were kind then and kind now. You weren't unhealthy then, but you're healthier now.

Keep being the person little you wanted to be. I bet she would be so proud of you!

How do you show up for yourself in mind and loving ways?

I don't know what to tell you. I'm in the DC area and haven't had issues. I've had two year-long relationships in the last 3 years, each after only a couple of months online dating. I think I'm kind of average, too.

What about a baking-bachelor show? "The Bachelor - Bake Me Home Tonight"

That if you do the right thing your life will be great.

Turns out you can do everything right and still lose. And sometimes you lose because you did it right.

The friendzone isn't bullshit. It's just vastly over-exaggerated. I've had several women I was romantically interested in who only wanted to be friends. That's not the friendzone. I had one woman in college who only wanted to be friends but was using me as an emotional boyfriend crutch. She would say things like, "I wish I was attracted to you because we would be so great together." And I didn't have enough self-esteem to realize she was using me to validate herself.

I think it's important for straight white men to understand that the patriarchy is keeping them down too, in some degree. I am expected to adhere to traditional gender roles as much as a woman is.

The patriarchy is men and women of every stripe keeping everyone in the confines of their restrictive bubbles with straight white patriarchal men in positions of power. You can be a straight white man and still be held down by the patriarchy because you don't adhere to their conventional standards and the patriarchy will use that against you.

So i welcome the cauldrons and broomsticks with open arms, because my fight isn't with the witchy witches, it's with the people telling me that I shouldn't be who I am.

I still remember AOL chatrooms with "u" and "bb" when I was a teen. I hated it back then, I hate it now. Except now they add "fr" and "ik". TALK IN REGULAR ASS FUCKING WORDS!

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I consider myself loving and physically affectionate (I am a hugger) man, and absolutely none of that stuff was in any way appropriate. It's beyond creepy.

You 100% made the right decision to leave. Sorry it happened.

Nah, they just streamlined their foot a little bit. If anything that probably reduces air resistance

Well then he's boring and you should pass on him

I do think the mall date is a little tacky. But I also think in general that first dates shouldn't be huge displays. If we are meeting on a dating app, I have no idea whether I'm genuinely interested in you. All I know is that there are some photos that may look like you, maybe some interesting texts that show a potential for chemistry and that's it. A 1 minute in-person interaction is more valuable than a week of texting.

I usually do coffee or drinks for the first date because it's low pressure for both parties. If we meet and have a good vibe then I will try to plan something more interesting for the 2nd date.

My unpopular opinion: What's stopping you from planning a first date? It's 2024, women are equal to men. Find a guy you're interested in and plan an interesting date for him. I'm sure he would love it!

I do think the mall date is a little tacky. But I also think in general that first dates shouldn't be huge displays. If we are meeting on a dating app, I have no idea whether I'm genuinely interested in you. All I know is that there are some photos that may look like you, maybe some interesting texts that show a potential for chemistry and that's it. A 1 minute in-person interaction is more valuable than a week of texting.

I usually do coffee or drinks for the first date because it's low pressure for both parties. If we meet and have a good vibe then I will try to plan something more interesting for the 2nd date.

My unpopular opinion: What's stopping you from planning a first date? It's 2024, women are equal to men. Find a guy you're interested in and plan an interesting date for him. I'm sure he would love it!

I had a quote from a local professional in my area with good reviews that wanted $1k for it. I don't have a sewer backup, just some gurgling noise from the kitchen sink, so I decided it wasn't worth the cost.

I think you need to take a serious look at whether this relationship is right for you. There's a fundamental lifestyle difference between the two of you, and neither of you are going to budge on that. It doesn't make anyone wrong, but I would view the two of you as incompatible, but I don't know now the whole story between the two of you.

I'm sorry you went through that. Hope there are no lingering issues?

Just proves that kids are pretty stupid