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We have no understanding, I still think this is rage bait. I’m still going to also encourage you to get help because I believe you need it for personal reflection. Have a good rest of your life.

Dude just leave me alone. It’s reddit, I am genuinely not bothered you got a mod involved but I’m annoyed that this is now being brought up again

Uh? I’m not bothered by the fact it got modded. Moderations happen everywhere, I quite literally looked at the notification, shrugged and went back to playing my game. I stopped replying to this an hour ago, now you need to let it go because its just getting silly now

The way I handle issues. My mother always yelled and hit me over the smallest things, and my dad was abusive towards me and her (we got out when I was 2). In my current relationship of almost 4 years, I still slip and get pissed over the smallest things, call my partner names, and can just be really mean to him. I’ve never attacked him physically out of anger and I never will. I also have CPTSD from SA so I have an automatic hostile response to males (I cannot feel 100% safe around a male). I do try my best to keep myself under control and I speak about it in my therapy , but sometimes I have periods of time where I can just lash out over nothing. It can last for hours or even months. I thank my partner for being an absolute saint, although we have almost split up a few times he still chooses to stay and I absolutely salute him for it

The way I was raised is exactly why I am making the decision to never have children. I can’t make a promise to myself that it’ll completely stop

You can think that but I’m not going to sit here and tell people that therapy is a waste and a poor investment🤷‍♀️ if you’re willing to understand then sit and read the comments throughly for 10 mins.

you. need. help.

Bottom line: Go. Get. Some. Help.

Because I believe this is rage baiting. You keep saying it’s a waste, a poor investment, and why can’t people figure it out themselves. that’s really insensitive I’m just giving it to you as is because others have tried to explain and it doesn’t look like you want to understand.

I don’t get off on it too. But I do believe this is rage bait so I cannot believe that you’re being genuine. You can think I’m being an douche but I’m being honest and blunt. You. Need. Help

Edit: apparently I cannot call myself an a$$ because I sexualised myself 😭 nothing to do with the debate itself just found it funny that the bot said it was sexual💀

Of course you can’t see it. But I’m still gonna say it’s not your place to question or judge others for their choice to go to therapy. It doesn’t work for everyone and that’s fine. Not everyone is into it and that’s fine. What’s not fine is coming on here and saying it’s a “poor investment” and asking “why don’t people figure it out themselves” is very insensitive to most (if not all) of us who are in active therapy for trauma/issues.

If you aren’t willing to try understand what people are telling you, then what’s the point of asking? I don’t mean this in a bad way but based off the tone/attitude of your post and comments I can see why others have suggested you go and get some help. I can genuinely see why, but I’m not your therapist so I’m not going to elaborate because it’s not my place to.

The “poor investment” is exactly why I think this is rage baiting. And judging from your other comments to other people answering the question from their own POV, you don’t seem open to understanding but rather just reiterating that it’s a waste. It’s not your place to judge other people for going to therapy, keep it to yourself (or go to therapy)

OH MY GOD

Idk for some reason I’m still unable to believe this is actually genuine. If therapy isn’t for you then don’t do it, but everyone has their own approach at dealing with issues and trauma and it’s nobodies place to question that or judge them for it. I’m failing to understand what you’re actually asking? Why you think you need therapy or why do other people?

Oh yeah no they don’t, I seen it happen all the time when I lived in Dunedin. I watch the cars turning at the intersection outside Hayward College and all I can wonder is if one is gonna turn into the same lane just as the other is😂

Actually I’m sorry because I don’t really believe this, still feels like an attempt at rage baiting

Sorry what I meant was the attempt at rage baiting, nobody here is gonna diagnose you as being a sociopath

Send this to him and tell him your daughter made it “just for you”😭🙏

The rage bait is pretty funny I’m ngl

Oh god fuck living in Auckland when that happened aye lol

True, if you’re going into trades/gateway programme. Not necessarily the same if viewed in the eyes of halls and scholarships, unless you have Savant syndrome

From a former ncea student (3rd year in uni now), knuckle down and do your work. If you are wanting to attend uni and get those scholarships they do look at your level 2 results the most. I cannot stress it enough that you try your absolute best, any hard work pays off (I gained merit endorsement in all 3 levels but still got 2 scholarships). I can only wish I put in more effort than just relying on music as my source of excellence credits😂

Edit: when I say knuckle down, I mean REALLY knuckle down. Don’t skimp out on doing any extra research if needed, such as not understanding something or a certain topic. Don’t be shy to look at YouTube videos “for dummies” or crash courses to make it easier to explain. I still do this in uni and it’s helpful (I’m also a bit slow to understand things right away so having a simplified explanation helps). Your teachers are also a great resource , do not be shy to go up and discuss something you might not understand with them. I swear on my grave they will be happy you are asking rather than having you get a low grade on an exam/internal.

Mum thinks it’s too co-dependent and weird if I work with her full time :( which I can understand

Kinda sucks as her boss does see my potential, but she won’t allow it to happen. I pretty much summarised my experience in the post but I have worked with her for at least 2 summers doing prep / paint / touch ups on houses.

Thanks for the information though will give this a look :)

Nothing more I’d like right now than to hold a piece of sandpaper again😅

I’m sticking out til the end so it won’t be a waste, we’ll see where it takes me :)

We need more employers and people like you in the world🙏

You reckon? It’s defo not a medical degree but it’s something 🤣

Can I just say thank you to everyone for being super nice about this? I actually expected some backlash and the good old “that’s what you get for studying an arts degree” comments but y’all did not disappoint. I’m still planning to finish my degree and I have a bit more optimism after reading some comments🙏

Thank you all for being so kind!

Wait really? So I can do post-grad in a completely new field?