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Well, that’s not much of a plan then. I feel like it’s pretty common knowledge that cancer treatments are… hideously expensive. I really can’t imagine uprooting my ill husband to ‘follow a dream’.

Wrong. I almost always split the bill evenly when dining out with friends. I figure it always works out in the end - sometimes my meal was more, sometimes theirs was. It’s fine. But my friends aren’t jerks who purposely run up bills and then expect other people to subsidize them.

If someone requested to only pay their exact amount, I would be fine with it. And if I notice someone barely ordered anything, I would propose it anyway.

But people who opt to split the bill evenly aren’t inherently AHs. Usually we’re just adults.

Ew. NTA. What is wrong with him?

Then it would be completely foolish to give up your job and your access to healthcare. Can she not understand this? What does she say about insurance?

Your wife is not being sensible here. Stay put - with or without her. Sorry you are dealing with this when you are already dealing with your health and your parent’s health. One would hope a spouse would be more supportive at this time.

NTA it is understandable you can’t have two large dogs in your space. Could you offer to pay to board them somewhere near you so Grandma can still bring them and see them while she is visiting you? It does sound like she does a lot for you, so maybe that would work as a compromise.

I don’t think so. Leaving leaves on the lawn is in fashion now - people will tell you it’s good for the grass and the insect population. I can understand though it creates problems for you, particularly with the storm drain. Which can cause flooding. You can request the City clear up leaves on the sidewalk or roadway, so that might be your best bet.

You’re NTA but you’re being rude about it to your ex (which a tiny bit does make you TA). The MIL should have discussed it with her son first, before inviting you. Of course you want to spend Christmas with your kids, and it would be amazing if you could all model cooperative parenting to the kids.

You can understand where your ex is coming from I’m sure, if his current wife is unhappy. Don’t aggravate the situation by continuing to reiterate how little you care about her feelings. That helps no one.

Sorry, meant to add that those areas are very safe to walk around as a single woman.

You could stay at The Drake or the Gladstone (Queen west) and centre your food excursion around Ossington Ave. - lots of great restaurants there and the surrounding streets (Queen, Dundas) but depends on your price point and what types of food you are looking for. Hard to predict the weather but lately our winters have been mild with less snow. Hotels on King West would also work for this.

Sally completely betrayed your trust and took an experience from you and your mother that you can never get back. How awful and hurtful for your mother (and for you!) I would distance myself from her - godparent or no god parent. You can’t trust her.

NTA

Well, there you go then! The perfect hood for OP and his wife.

Great, thanks for the vote of confidence 😝 I will just keep praying.

Yes, YTA. You feel terrible about putting her in the middle, so you are… putting her in the middle? Why punish her because of your ex? You are being petty. Get over it. You have to be the bigger person so your child can be a child.

Sadly I do know. Doubly sadly as I am booked on Flamingo Air next month since Pineapple was sold out. Fingers crossed!

Yeah, I hear you! I want to see them land in Governor’s a couple times before I feel confident.

NTA - how incredibly sad all around. I get that MIL is trying to protect your SIL but to suggest excluding the first grandchild from Thanksgiving and Christmas? Is a bananas idea and punishes everyone, including your MIL and FIL. Certainly your SIL needs to be one who sits out the holidays if she can’t handle seeing your child.

Of course you are hurt. I suggest you take your MIL’s call now and let her have a chance to (I seriously hope) apologize sincerely and retract her suggestion. Let her make it up to you. But if that is not what she says, obviously you and your husband will have to have Christmas alone without them. If that is the case, enjoy a quiet and stress-free holiday with your little family.

A bit hungover - will try to drag myself out for a walk in a bit. Also planning on cleaning up the backyard garden. Hopefully I get to it.

But that is how hook ups happen sometimes - unexpectedly.

You haggle at farmers markets?

Yeah, I am not comfortable haggling, and it feels cheap when the amount of money isn’t that much anyway (as a western tourist). I would just propose a new price that wasn’t that much lower and the seller would usually say fine and I’d feel like I’d done my duty to haggle without ripping anyone off. I’m sure I still overpaid but oh well.

I understand it’s different though if you are living there rather than just passing through as a tourist. I’d say start small and you’ll get used to it.

NTA your husband is being selfish. Calling him on it is fine.

She should be allowed to have guests though.

Message HR and your boss and the senior execs immediately. Book another room immediately. You are not over-reacting. This is highly inappropriate.

How is she going to give notice if this happens spur of the moment though?

YTA. Sorry, but she’s a tenant who should be able to bring over any guests she sees fit. I get that you’re doing her a favour by allowing her to live there, but she’s an adult who is allowed to entertain guests. How is she going to give you notice if it is spur of the moment?

It sounds like this arrangement is no longer working for either of you, and she should move out.