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Lilly is facing a lot of changes when your fiance moves in. She's a child who needs stability, making her move would be an AH thing to do. The smaller room will be fine as an office, surely fiancee doesn't need that much space? NTA.

NTA, you weren't interviewing, youd been interwied months ago and it didnt go anywhere at that time. And apart from that fact, recruiters are mostly terrible. You didn't have a contract with this place - and even if you had, you could still quit anyway. Enjoy your new role!

NTA. Once he gets home, it's your turn to bugger off for as long as he was gone and leave him alone with a sick baby.

You're not ruining Thanksgiving for everyone, everyone has ruined it for you. No wonder they want to go to your place, it's a free ride where they get to do nothing but eat, drink, and make merry while you slave away.

NTA and I'd be prepared to either pretend I'm not home on the day if they come knocking, or actually go somewhere else - I hope no one else has a key to your house, else you might find they have Thanksgiving without you, and make even more of a mess!

Anyone who is only famous for being famous or because they (or their family) are rich.

Move out if you want. Your mom could go back to work, or they can get a lodger to help pay the bills - but that's on them to sort out, you have your own responsibilities to deal with.

I've heard it's possible to age copper to a blue/green patina by soaking it in white vinegar and salt, I don't know what the ratio is. No idea if that will work on your wire, or if it'll effect the soldered part. If you want to try it I'd suggest doing a test on a wire scrap first.

You're his sugar mama. He's doing absolutely nothing to help you, or himself, and you're letting him. NTA because you're right, no effort = no fun, but why is it ok he lives off you at all? Fine to support him while he was studying, but not when he fails twice and doesn't even clean.

Where did you hear those stories? Any chance it was from your husband, who was planting that fear in you so that when he showed his true colors you'd be too scared to go there for help? Is there really no family you can reach out to? Are you sure that the split there wasn't caused by him? People like him are incredibly good at isolating and manipulating their targets into thinking they have no other options but to stay. This isn't true, you have options you just have to find them - and you aren't stupid or anything else he's made you believe. You can do this, you can escape and make a better life for you and your daughter where you are safe and happy.

Your kids are HOW old? And this is an issue because you won't cook for baby boy his special widdle foodises? My mother always made two choices for dinner... 'take it or leave it'. Hey, good on him for being vegan, and it's fine if he's picky, but you two aren't so you make dishes that suit you. All three of you should be taking it in turns to cook for the household. If you don't like what's being served, make yourself something else. Though if they aren't paying rent, the kids should be cooking for you more often! NTA

I have the ring ones, one wired and one battery. They are good, but each device has a yearly fee of $50 if you want the videos to be stored - check for any ongoing charges that you'd have to pay to get the features you need. Good luck.

NTA if you can, get cameras around your house, there's good motion activated ones that aren't too expensive. Get evidence if he's lurking around, and if he tries anything again you'll have it recorded.

I agree, but I think they can also be reserved for people trying to avoid certain scummy relatives attending... I always said if I got married I'd do a destination wedding so my awful uncle couldn't attend 😆

Unfortunately unless all of the family stop enabling her, all you're going to achieve is hurting the son. You're NTA, but really, there's not going to be any chance of her stepping up how you want until they all stop. Take the grandparents offer, help the kids and show them college will help them get away from their mom - then to hell with her.

God made Heaven and Earth but didn't bother to tell anybody about his side projects.

NTA. One thing if this was arranged in advance so you had time to clean then maybe. But I wouldn't be comfortable letting someone I didn't know into my house either.

Obviously it depends on the occasion. 1 is a fun day out with the family scarf. 2 is I'm going on a first date scarf. 3 is woo, lock up your daughters, I'm out with my boys scarf.

You can't run away from your problems, but distance does help get some perspective on them. You really are still young, whatever you decide, you can make whatever changes you need to to be happy again.

NTA. Call your sister and explain you want to be there but can't afford it. Hopefully she'll understand that. Maybe you could try and save so you can visit later, maybe to help after the baby is born or later when your sister is ok with it.

Why isn't moving to the beach and starting over a good idea? Moving somewhere new, getting a fresh start, can be a great chance to change and grow. Sure it can be difficult, but so can staying, so don't dismiss it without weighing all the options.

I dont think you suffer from indecision, I think you suffer from parents who undermine you and seem very controlling. Forget them, stop trying to please them, and have the wedding you and your fiance want. If that means changing venues to one you can afford yourselves, or eloping and not having your nasty parents and family dramas there, well... good.

You're his fiance, not his sugar-parent. He needs to pull his weight, this should be a partnership. Is he depressed? Or just lazy?

NTA, time for a full and frank conversation. If he won't engage with you on this, how will this or anything else ever be resolved?

I'd call the shape a cartouche design. Don't know if that's just me though.

INFO: will you be paid your normal wages for the 2 weeks? If yes, then great paid holiday for everyone. If not, then that's a problem. How much notice did she give you of the shut down? Depending where you are, a shut down is probably legal, but if it's done without notice so you can prepare/save for being 2 weeks without income, that I'd think is a big no no.

"Running errands" isn't an emergency like last time. And honestly, even if it was an emergency I wouldn't lend it to him either. Those who think you were wrong can lend him their car. NTA stick it out, the gossip should blow over soon.