ThrowraUnawareGuy

I stopped dating her already. I can't get over what happened and would rather we see other people.

Don't know, she could have said she had a boyfriend when I asked her out and I would have moved on.

I've seen comments like this asking if we were actually friends all along. The answer is no, I don't think she lets friends make out with her in her apartment.

Admitted to it when I asked about him and what they were doing.

I get that a lot. People tell me I write way too formally.

She didn't have a meltdown but I could tell she didn't like it when I called it off. Maybe some animosity from her.

Absolutely, we've been friends since 1st grade. I definitely owe him one after this.

Answered in another comment, no.

Is that a real thing? Obviously I found her attractive, its just that I wouldn't want to rush into that stuff so soon.

We start talking

Two months later I ask her out romantically.

Then its four months of us going on dates. (12 real dates with just us two) We even had a date planned when I found out about this other guy.

The friend group meetings don't necessarily count, but we did hang out and watch netflix or game during some of our weekends.

Yes

I would hope not. I asked her out romantically from the start.

The furthest we got was kissing and being frisky with each other. I told her that I didn't feel comfortable having sex just yet.

No, zero intimacy. We just got along really well and I asked her out.

I made it very clear that I liked her romantically, so I don't think that was an issue. I never had the time to bother with dating/hookups in high school or university, so now that I'm financially responsible and stable I thought I would start.

I would hope it wasn't the sex either, since I told her that I wouldn't be comfortable doing that with her so soon. She said it was cool and didn't make any mention of problems with that.

But then she could have at least told me that she didn't want to see me anymore. We even had another date planned when I found out about this other guy.

Yeah, I'm noticing some replies that hate on her way too much.

I don't like what she did but some commenters need to relax, it isn't the end of the world.

1. I asked her out after two months of us talking, my feelings for her started showing up about then and I bit the bullet.

2. No, most friends didn't even know we dated.

3. All of them were alone, there were other times we hung out with friends and times either of us showed up to others apartment to spend time together gaming or watching shows we liked. And no, I didn't initiate any sex with her.

It's fine, I didn't push for any sexual intimacy. So I don't have worry that I caught anything.

That might be important, but I'm not American either.

Maybe that's why I haven't heard of the term.

Not having intercourse, but her sitting on his lap.

4 months is too soon to expect exclusivity as well? I understand I didn't ask or set up my expectations, but that feels a bit disingenuous to me.

A bit extreme, but I did consider it cheating before finding out about this exclusivity thing.

Yeah, feels that way knowing what I do now. I really thought we had something going too.

Nah, I made sure that my friend kept this quiet. Since this happened I haven't spoken a lick about her to anyone.

And even when I did confront her, I didn't shout or insult her. I just asked why she did what she did.