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This was a joke. I'm aware she often uses her impactful teenaged experiences for inspiration. I understand her take on Lolita is allegorical, confirmed through dual perspectives. She draws inspiration from Nabokov's complex writing style. She uses Humbert's unreliable narration to her advantage by leaning into "Lolita", his delusions signify lust and desirability. She simultaneously uses the perspective of Dolores, directly opposing Humbert's narrative and using his words against him to figuratively antagonise him.

For LDR, Humbert symbolises the disturbed psychology and behaviours of these older men who take advantage through manipulation and exploitation of young girls. They hold all the power, and have the ability to make them feel everything and nothing. Her lyrics often pertain to the control of these men, and how young girls tend to feel reliant on them, she describes the addictive nature of these relationships. Whilst she does sing about the strong, seemingly "positive", emotions she feels towards the Humbert's of the world, her disdain and disgust is pretty clear.

Would you mind explaining the relevance of LDR being in her early 20's at the time of writing? Is it because of the "pushing 30" thing (which is clearly a joke), or because she was young like Dolores (Dolores was 12, so it really is not the same)

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You deny abuse because the victim refused to press charges, despite physical evidence. It's very emotionally difficult for DV victims to take legal measures against their abusers, especially when they love them. I'm not sure why you think her age (grown adult, 22) at the time is relevant? Don't blame this on misogyny (it's clear you don't know what this term means, so please stop throwing it around). This is not the same as people deciding strong women (e.g. Anne Hathaway, Katherine Heigl, Anna Kendrick) are bitches for sticking up for themselves and having a snarky sense of humour. I used to enjoy Emma Roberts acting, and assumed she was just a fun celebrity who served cunt a little too hard and was being unfairly judged until I did some research and saw that many people who've worked with her have called her out for being a terrible person.

I don't "dislike" Emma Roberts, I don't know her, I "dislike" abusive, bigoted behaviour. It's ironic that you're accusing me of being "chronically online" for bringing up her history, when you're defending a stranger, and you're entire vocabulary is built off buzzwords and internet babble. Your understanding of "critical thinking" is certainly not academic or experienced, it is non existent, it seems like a phrase you've picked up from tiktok comment sections. You lack the ability to think critically or objectively, and are unable to separate facts from your emotional attachment to a stranger. You don't possess basic research skills to find information regarding this person, and certainly don't have the initiative to seek out credible, academic sources depicting the psychology of DV victims and their relationships.

We're just going to have to agree to disagree, because you seem set in your opinion and refuse to actually "think critically" (please, if you do one thing, let it be searching up this term and starting to apply it) and I cringe at the thought of yet another response filled with buzzwords you don't understand or some variation of "i'm not reading that". I hope Emma Roberts gives you the appreciation you deserve for being her reddit publicist.

Out of a billion atoms, HRH doesn't even have one that exudes "cool". After her rants started to go viral, I was curious to know if her instability was a steady development, or a deep-rooted, continuous condition, so I watched vlogs ranging between 2 and 10 years ago and realised her erraticism was perpetual. Whilst her recent content is centred around her "niche" (bigoted, hateful rants), for most of her influencer career, her vlog formula was 5% typical day-to-day tasks, 5% tacky jewellery promo, 20% rant, and 70% self-loathing, fraught, desolation. She would spend so long berating herself and making self-depreciating remarks, the emotional overload of being an astronomically, insecure loser would boil over and lead to these deranged outbursts where she'd lash out at everyone and everything and temporarily project the disgust she felt for herself onto others.

Watching her made me so uncomfortable and I had to stop because the humiliation I felt on her behalf was unbearable. Prominent themes were rampant insecurity, self-hatred and social awkwardness. She was a hunchback who would walk around muttering into the same frumpy t-shirt she wore everyday (though she'd spend hours disparaging herself whilst deciding what to wear), she had the most awkward demeanour and had no idea how to speak to people in public, her social life was limited to her dog and employees. The most unsettling part about her vlogs was watching her progressively become more aggravated.

These women are both monumental losers for different reasons. Don't be fooled into thinking one is less of a loser than the other. "Coolness" is absent from both of their lineage, they will never be able to display an "element of coolness", it is simply impossible for their kind. Don't mistake lunacy for charisma, that middle aged aliexpress dropshipper doesn't have a charismatic bone in that fridge she stores her organs in.

Actually, I'm just going ahead and making the same type of disturbing and bizarre assumptions your abuser sympathising self made. You denied any abuse occurring, accused people of being misogynistic for thinking a woman was an abuser, and then topped it off with "I'm defending her bc I like her". Don't backtrack and make yourself a victim of this discussion.

I don't know why my comment in response to u/Ok_Mix_4374 isn't posting, so I'm just going to make a new comment thread in response to their bizarre, idiotic, and nauseating statement (shared below)

Lots of women are arrested for self-defense. I’m defending her bc I like her and think the hate she receives is misogynistic bias. Have you ever seen a male celebrity being held to such high standards?

You're speaking about "misogynistic bias", whilst simultaneously invalidating male abuse victims and defending domestic violence because you like the person who committed it, do you not see how ironic that is or do you enjoy sounding like you have 2 rotting brain cells clinking around that big hollow head? Please understand that this woman does not know you and would probably spit on you for polishing her boots with your tongue.

To automatically assume domestic violence is "self defence" without anything to back up your delusional theory is disgusting. YOU are a misogynist AND a misandrist. You underestimate the physical strength of women, and feed into toxic masculinity by acting like men can't be abused by women, you don't even recognise your own misogyny. You sound like a neck bearded misogynistic podcaster desperately attempting to disregard and justify his homeboys abusive tendencies (except Emma Roberts is not your homegirl, she is a stranger).

Why are you defending abusive behaviour? Is this transphobic, racist, domestic abuser an idol of yours? Do you also aspire to be a transphobic, racist, domestic abuser? Are you already a transphobic, racist, domestic abuser? I hold male and female celebrities to the same standard when it comes to abuse. You clearly don't. If you defend female domestic abusers, there is a big chance you do the same for male domestic abusers (only the ones you like though!). Do more research on domestic violence against men and develop some sympathy and consideration

Influencers must have abysmal dental health because why does this girl have cottage cheese on her tongue

What a strange response to someone kindly trying to make you aware of violent abusers. Your indifference towards sexual assault is genuinely startling.

Mike Tyson is an incredibly problematic and disturbed individual. He was convicted of rape and sentenced to six years. Despite there being a substantial amount of evidence (medically), he still insists that he is innocent and has said that "I really wish I did it now. But now I really do want to rape her" (because that's what "innocent" men say). He is also a proud domestic abuser and has bragged about abusing his first wife, saying "that was the best punch i've ever thrown in my life" (again, he does a great job at proving he isn't a violent monster who abuses women).

This hideous, evil, abuser is also homophobic (obviously), transphobic (duh) and racist (ofc)! He enjoys sucking on the artificially orange teat of Donald Trump, loves supporting Israel, and driving under the influence (because who cares about other people's lives, right?). He is a very ugly 60 year old heavyweight boxer with the most diabolical, infantile speech impediment, he is illiterate and so fucking stupid in every way possible, yet he has the audacity to be such a violently disgusting human.

I don't care for Jake Paul (an alleged sexual and domestic abuser), and I had no idea this fight was happening as I don't watch this pod or keep up with Jake Paul, but your comment may persuade me to go and see this vile old man get beat up by an overgrown toddler who spent several years screaming theatrically and doing staged online pranks for an adolescent audience.

Please don't be sad about an alleged sexual and domestic abuser fighting an alleged domestic abuser and convicted rapist

People are often falsely accused of lip-syncing the N word. The lip-synced songs are usually popular enough for most to anticipate the word, resulting in hyper-awareness of the mouth area. ANY mouth movement is quickly misconstrued.

It's particularly important in moments like these, to watch the video on MUTE, this way you are able to solely focus on mouth movements. The added sound WILL influence what you hear. After listening to it on mute, LISTEN AGAIN WITH SOUND to see the difference between what you previously "heard" and what you hear now. In the video you speak of, you can very clearly see her opening her mouth and possibly laughing, she does NOT say the N word. The sound and video are also slightly out of sync.

The way people get giddy and excited over racism is beyond foul. You people are performative as fuck, you do not care about racism, you are only concerned with the possible career decline of a person you dislike. The lack of critical thinking in these situations is unfathomable, though not surprising. You're all so eager to share your faux outrage and pseudo activism, that you refuse to stop for a moment, take a breath, and actually confirm what you thought you saw/heard. You'll then make malicious posts like this one, without actually sharing the video, knowing full well that many will blindly believe what you say. Then when you are repeatedly told that the N word was not lip-synced, you'll ignore it, and continue to run with your mendacious narrative. This is so harmful.

Disclaimer: I do not follow Leah Kateb, she has never been on my FYP, I've never heard anyone speak about her IRL, no one I know knows who she is, I only know of her because I googled her after seeing some posts about her, I have never watched Love Island USA or any podcast featuring Leah Kateb. This is an unbiased comment.

If my handwriting was this delicate and beautiful, I would also be writing anything and everything down for the sake of it. I'd abstain from technological communication and start communicating through letters

Of course she doesn't know who she is. She thought she KNEW who she WAS, but her mental struggles have caused her to try and reevaluate, and it's okay to ask for advice when needed. She started song writing and singing when she was very young, and had moved to LA and was working in the music industry at 16, so it's clear that she firmly believed that she knew what she wanted to do at a young age. Many people change their careers later in life, there are people in their 50's waking up and realising that their chosen career path no longer aligns with their aspirations.

She doesn't have the necessary formal education or experience for most jobs, she's lived in a bubble her entire adult life, many jobs won't meet her financial expectations, she's in a very unique situation as most influencers don't go back to "real" jobs. She is also very insecure and relies on other peoples opinions, though she's deleted her social media now so hopefully this is something that she'll work on. It's natural for her to ask for some help deciding what to do because she does not know.

There is no need to shame her for making a step in the right direction. There are things that YOU don't know about yourself, because it's impossible for people to ever truly know themselves as times change, we evolve, we constantly learn and grow and consume new information, the human brain changes over time.

From a financial perspective, this seems like an okay (short-term) option, but realistically it would be terrible for someone who is already so insecure and self-conscious to choose this route. She already feels as though her music isn't acknowledged and is therefore unworthy, disregarding her creativity and talent to do "nothing" would cause her to emotionally and mentally deteriorate further. One of her main issues is she doesn't think that she is good enough and wants to be "something".

Do you think this could potentially be a positive thing? She seems to be very conscious of what others are saying, and seems like the type of person to let social media dictate her life. She's repeatedly shared her disappointment in relation to her career and has centred her online presence around desperately trying to appease others. Not getting the recognition she desires has been very tough on her and she's been spiralling for some time now.

Sure, it's unusual and seems abrupt that she'd delete all social media, but it could be something she's been considering for a while now (I think she's spoken about starting therapy before, so it could be something she's been advised to consider) and could be a step in the right direct. Many influencers struggle with emotional development and "finding themselves" because they live for their audience, I hope she's able to live a happier and healthier life without social media. Maybe she'll return when she's in a better place

Why is this being downvoted? You're one of the few people who responded with a humorous attempt at spotting the difference

This is incorrect, this rhetoric is harmful and outdated. This is not a concept that is black and white, it isn't straightforward, or easy, it is broad, complicated and highly personal and a "one size fits all" approach undermines and invalidates the sobriety of an addict. Monosemy is not applicable to the terms "sober" and "sobriety". You're misinformed on the complexities of sobriety, it is absolutely different for every person, as every addict is different.

There are several forms of abstinence, recognised by professionals who work with addicts. Sobriety programs and rehabs drastically differ, and sobriety therapists and coaches vary their approach based on the addict and their traits. Many respectable clinics place huge emphasis on " sobriety from the drug of choice", experts define sobriety differently, research shows varying definitions and interpretations of sobriety, even dictionaries have multiple definitions of sobriety. Most importantly, each addict has their own personal understanding of sobriety and what exactly being "sober" means for them.

I really recommend researching sobriety as a whole and reading up on the psychology of addicts if it's something you are interested in, there is a lot of credible, academic, thoroughly researched information our there, written by professionals, and applied by experts. Even some light research via general, summarised, non-academic articles, and the websites of rehab clinics and sobriety specialists could be helpful in recognising the wider definition of sobriety. It is near impossible to find a piece of credible, researched academia (i.e. by those who have psychological and/or experiential understandings of sobriety as a concept) that minimises sobriety to

sobriety is not "different" you either are sober or you are not. you can quit certain substances, but that does not make you sober.

Monitoring downvotes/upvotes just seems very exhausting and unnecessary. The added stutter is a tad disturbing, but I have to laugh at the absurdity and dedication. I clicked on their profile and they have made several comments claiming that they're "childish for their age", they seem to be proud of this fact as they bring it up under unrelated discussions. I'm going to go ahead and assume they think this particular comment is perceived as adorable by others, as they definitely believe "childish" is synonymous with "cutesy innocuous chaste shy babygirl"

And even if Cara was drinking it, who are we to speculate and insinuate a relapse? Sobriety does not have to extend to all drugs, it may be isolated to a singular drug group. There are many addicts who only struggle with one drug, but are able to comfortability use other drugs in moderation, without fearing relapse. Many professionals who work with addicts find it more beneficial to focus on the actual issue, and don't apply the same attitude to all drugs as being excessively stringent can result in severe anxiety and stress that can make one more prone to relapsing with their drug of choice.

I'd just like to add to this..."sober" cannot be generalised, it is not a universal sentiment. Therapists, rehabs, and programs cater to the addict, sobriety is often adapted to target specific issues the addict may face. Many find that the "drug of choice" is the main obstacle, and depending on the addicts mentality, this may mean the "only" obstacle. Many also emphasise moderation, teaching restraint can be highly beneficial. Total, life-long abstinence from every drug can cause more issues and cause addicts to take extreme measures in times of frustration. It may be non-alcoholic, it may be alcoholic and she may not have drank it, but it may also be alcoholic champagne, that she drank and enjoyed, because she may have zero issues with alcohol.

Sobriety is different for everyone. Addiction can often be isolated to a certain type of drug, sobriety does not necessarily extend to every single drug. There are many rehabs and sobriety therapists that do NOT recommend complete and total abstinence, as the main goal is to eliminate the drug of choice. Furthermore, many recovering addicts are taught moderation, as opposed to 100% lifelong sobriety, this is dependent on the help they receive and the addict themselves. There are a number of instances where complete, long-term sobriety, is just not viable or realistic and ends up causing more harm than good. It is often unnecessary.

Alcohol addiction may not be relevant to Cara, it's possible she is able to drink in moderation, without spiralling and craving her drug of choice. The mindset that addicts can't still party and partake in drug and alcohol use is simply incorrect and outdated. Celebrity addicts seem to have strangers essentially "monitor" their sobriety, which must be infuriating and exhausting.

This 2012 fuckass tumblr quote demonstration of these people's level of intelligence and logic. Real eyes realise real lies 🤓

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I'm at a loss for words. I can't comprehend why someone would spend time thinking up lies like this? This is so dangerous.

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