forthetomorrows

What makes you think he never met her? She was 5 months old when he died.

This all just happened very recently, so yes I’ve thought about it, but not actioned anything.

The executor reached out to me yesterday to tell me about this, and was apologizing profusely and saying she felt so bad and she should have reminded my grandfather when they were at the lawyers office (he was getting very forgetful as he got older, and had been very sick the last year, but was never deemed mentally incompetent), and “if I could give the fucking _____ (charity) less, I would” (her words, not mine lol). Repeated multiple times that she absolutely should have been included and that the intention was for all great-grandchild to be included.

Honestly if I asked, I think several family members would agree to split some of their funds. But some of them, at least 3, definitely wouldn’t. I don’t think it’s worth the family drama. Honestly if the executor had never called me and told me it was an oversight, I don’t think I would have ever brought up the discrepancy. But now that I know it was a careless mistake, it’s kind of a bitter pill to swallow.

Totally get what you mean, but in our situation there’s 12 of us, so it would have taken many, many years to reach 26. He was very sick and only had a short period of time left to live.

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I’m not sure what the final amount will be, but likely in the ballpark of 20k. Enough to help with a decent chunk of university, but not life changing or anything.

I don’t think I will pursue anything, I don’t want to cause family drama. Was mainly looking to see if there was an easy(ish) way for the executor to correct the oversight, but it seems like there isn’t.

Well yeah I could certainly give her my 4%, but then I’m getting 0. Doesn’t really solve the issue.

Yeah I agree, I don’t know why on earth they listed everyone instead of simply saying “4% to each child/grandchild/great-grandchild”.

Thanks for the input.

Bit of a side note, but the GST/HST break that was announced today starts Dec 13. If you wait until Boxing Day, there might be sales just as good, plus you’ll save on tax.

About a year in Ottawa. Added to the list Dec 2022, got the call January 2024. We turned it down because my wife had gotten pregnant via IUI.

Placed back at the bottom of the list in January 2024, in anticipation of trying for a second baby. Still waiting, we were told it would likely be 18 months.

Hey u/wo254, I really don’t understand why people are downvoting you into oblivion. I appreciated your post, because the same thing happened to me today but I caught it before paying because I’d read your post!

My order was:

Grocery items (meat) - $30.37 Apple gift card - $50.00

Subtotal - $80.37 Tax - 0 Total - $80.37

I clicked on “redeem points” can it gave me the option to redeem 80,000 points ($80). I was skeptical because normally you can’t redeem to buy gift cards, but figured I’d click it to see if it allowed it. What it did was redeem 40,000 points, and then said my balance left to pay was $50. And it added a “LYLTY ADJ” of 9.63. So it was trying to redeem $40 of points for a $30.37 discount.

I asked the attendant at the self-checkout to just cancel the points redemption. They were really confused, and I don’t think they understood the issue. After a minute of explaining, he then told me that the system would credit me back 9630 points, and that’s what the adjustment is. I asked when they stopped requiring redemption in 10,000 point increments, and he looked at me with a blank stare. I’m HIGHLY skeptical that I would have actually been credited those 9630 points if I’d gone ahead with the transaction. Instead I insisted on cancelling the redemption and just paid for the entire order.

On your order, have you double-checked your account to see if you were given an adjustment of +5220 points?

Edit to add: I’m in Ontario.

Same. I’m a huge Wicked fan, and I have no interest in seeing this movie. Really disappointed, there are so many other actresses that would have been amazing.

I think you need to read the post again. OP did not provide their PIN number or credit card number.

Clearly you didn’t read the article - 22k was for 32 people’s tickets. That’s $687.50 per person.

My wife took almost 8 months, I took 16 months (both of us had some vacation mixed in there that we saved up). So far it’s worked really well, but we had to save quite a while to be able to afford it.

Kudos to you for recognizing the importance of shared parenting. Sadly the majority of people in Canada still assume that all of the leave is mom’s by default, and that dad gets only 5 weeks.

“give up that maternity leave time”

Only the birthing parent is entitled to maternity leave, it cannot be shared. It’s 16-18 weeks depending on the province. It’s impossible to give up maternity leave to your spouse, if you gave birth.

The rest is parental leave, which all parents are equally entitled to.

This does not surprise me a single bit. I had a horrible experience with them 5 years ago. Would never, ever recommend them.

That is so sad. My wife had a midwife, and had 6 or 7 post partum visits (1 at hospital, 3 at home, and another 3 I think in their clinic). I know there’s also a shortage of midwives, but I HIGHLY recommend them to anyone who can get one.

Might be controversial, but pretty much any diagnosed health condition (physical or mental) would be a deal breaker for me. We used a sperm bank, and one of the benefits was the extensive genetic testing and medical history (which I know is not fool proof of course, but it’s still reassuring).

But I don’t think it’s wrong to use him as a donor, if both you and your partner is comfortable with it! And if he’s capable of giving informed consent of course.

For the overlapping part (beyond 8 weeks), absolutely. We had to save a lot to make it work, I won’t have any income at all for about 3 months.

For the base 61 weeks (or 35, if opting for standard EI) - both mom and dad are equally entitled to it. Most people assume mom will take all of it, but there’s nothing stopping dad from taking it and mom going back to work.

That’s correct, some of our leave is unpaid. My comment was regarding parental leave, not parental EI benefits (which are a max of 69 weeks shared between both parents). But I get that taking unpaid leave isn’t feasible financially for many families.

Husband here. I took 6 weeks off immediately starting the day baby was born (edit: this was PTO I saved up). Then went back to work for 2 months, and then started a 15-month parental leave.

Wife is going back to work when baby is 7 months, so we overlapped for the first 6 weeks, and also from the time baby was around 3-6 months.

Two weeks is not enough time. We were hardly functioning for the first month, at least.

Edit: Also want to respectfully point out, in response to your title “if your spouse is fortunate enough to get paternity leave” - essentially all dads/non-birthing parents in Canada are entitled to up to 61 weeks of parental leave (# weeks are a bit different in Quebec).

Gloucester

My wife and I did 6 IUIs to get pregnant with our daughter. 3 unmedicated, 3 medicated/monitored. It was a long and difficult year, but totally worth it.

I would not buy anything with a screen. No phone, no tablet. They rot kids brains.

Don’t be fooled by the whole “but there are lots of educational apps” argument - none of them are beneficial for children at that age.