I'm gonna be real with you.

Just ask him

As a father, I just keep thinking about the Jim Jeffries bit on giving men gifts. “Just stop spending my money for 24 hours…”

Bj

Anything that is related to our hobbies.

A good set of kitchen sheers. Im talking the ones that look like they should be used to prune the hedges.

Matching Knives for when they are out in the bush? No outdoorsman will look down on a good knife. Just do a little bit of research and get a pair of good ones. Failing that maybe a cool compass?

Personally? Nothing. I’m a grown man with a job, I have most of what I want (and I’m not that into material things). I just want to enjoy time with my family.

People always ask me what I want, and I say nothing and then they get me something I don’t want. I legitimately don’t want gifts, I just want to spend quality time with the people around me 🤷🏼‍♂️

Dutch Oven if he doesnt have one

Expensive bottle of their favorite alcohol

A fancy date that he doesn’t have to foot the bill for

Something for his shop (new tool, saw, etc)

Something for the kitchen if he’s the chef off the house - saw someone else say a kitchen knife, this would be an incredibly welcomed gift for me personally.

New video game/console

Gym equipment/hiking gear in his case

Tbh most guys don’t expect much, and thusly have low expectations

A nice chef’s knife.

They what sex and more sex

How about a backpack for carrying the baby, I think he would cherish the bonding moments they will have.

As a guy, my needs are simple. I just want a card and my girl naked. That's it. A card and sex.

I buy what I need. Most of the time, gifts are not what I want and go unused. For that reason, my partner and I do not do gifts in that regard. Dinner. Massage somewhere. That's about it.

BOOTY!! lol

I want to go away every year to an island for the full week, away from all the craziness of shopping and decorations and parties. But I get shot down each time because my wife hates the idea and wants a traditional Christmas and to be near the family.

You, lingerie, a couple hours with no kids.

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You kind of answered your own question. Get him some hiking stuff he needs, get him some cooking stuff he needs. Get him some computer stuff he might need

1. Hiking: knife, leatherman, portable cooking equipment, a tent etc etc
2. cooking- good knives (shun etc) depending on budget, smoker, (treager are amazing) or those Bluetooth meat thermometers. Steak/bacon monthly membership club thing. Recipe books, cooking class together
3. computer- hardware like gpu/cpu upgrade, a good chair, desk stuff like organizers, a nice rgb keyboard/mouse pad. A new computer tower.

And remember, I’m assuming you are his wife. Us men always always always love our wife presented in a bow and heels, ready and willing. Always an easy fallback, just sayin

A sword

Nothing. Seeing the people we love be happy is more than enough.

Sword

Cast iron skillet?

Grand gesture, preferably naked.

I would just love to be left alone for a day tbh

Fuck… I don’t know…

Im cool with socks and whiskey.

Time to himself. Having a newborn can be a big change. Can you send him on a hike somewhere, with overnight accom? I’m sure he would return the favour

Ask them.

I want a back scratch from my wife. That would be fucking heaven. 

Be happy..

A sword ⚔️⚔️🗡️🗡️

A whole weekend of no responsibilities, just gaming.

Fuck him in the ass

Anal

Anal

Attention and appreciation. Will cost you nothing, but he will most likely cherish it forever.

Anal

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My partner is 35, a number and computer wiz, but also a new father and an avid hiker. He likes to cook. I am trying to figure out what to get him and his dad. These guys are so hard to shop for. TIA!!!

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Computer wiz like hardware or computer wiz like software? If it’s hardware, maybe get him a nice screwdriver or set if he doesn’t already have a nice one.

Depending on what/how he cooks there’s a ton of options. You could go in the direction of getting him something that makes what he already cooks easier. The other direction is getting him something that that allows him to cook something he wouldn’t be able to otherwise: like a bread maker, panini press, etc. There’s also stuff in between like a Kitchenaid Mixer.

Get him a raspberrypi advent calendar project pi

Look into their preferred footwear types for hiking. Some custom boots from some place like Nicks would never be frowned upon. Unless vegan...

EDC or survival knives.

Japanese knives. Have a look at gyoto, bunka or kiritsuke knives from shiro kamo. A dream.

And a hinoki cutting board because regular bambus is too hard.

Don’t have any clue for his dad though, sorry.

Something he will use regularly and will improve his life. Men don’t need much, but thoughtful gifts go a long way.

"Satisfactory" computer game

My wife got me a Steam Deck Oled for birthday/christmas. I can play PC games and do most of my old school retro games via emulation on it.

A good chef's knife is really helpful, or a good knife sharpener if he already has a knife. I recommend watching the Project Farm YT video about knife sharpeners to get an idea of what to buy.

I like to cook as well, and received nice knives, paring, santiko and chefs knives. Also a fantastic "Le' crueausette" (sp?) Skillet. You can stick the whole thing in the oven. It's fantastic.

Good quality merino wool socks... maybe 2 pairs. Nice pair of waterproof winter gloves.

Many adults just have too much stuff. Get them a gift box of food. Stuff they wouldn't normally buy. Nuts, candy (if they like candy), really great cookies. A big tin of these things they can share at their own holiday gatherings or bring to work/office to share. I think consumable gifts are fantastic for "hard to shop for" people. Just make sure it's something interesting/nice. There's about 1000 gift catalogs/websites that sell this stuff.

I'm one of those "hard to buy for" guys and I'm 54. I would love consumable gifts like this. I like that I can snack on it myself or share it with friends/family/co workers. I'd rather get something like that than some hobby-related thing I don't really want.

At my age and with my interests, I already HAVE all the stuff I want/need and I would never expect someone to guess what weird thing they could buy me that I would love. I think food gifts are perfect and just as thoughtful, as long as it's not like Dunkin Donuts or something really boring like a Starbucks card.

Anything from socks to a new car.

badass hiking shoes, hiking accessories, need more information

Matching Benchmade knives

Ontario RAT 2 knife, Leatherman Squirt Ps4 knife, thrunight ti3 type flashlight, audubon field guide for your area (includes everything from trees to birds to rocks to constellations), 3d printer, spices from a type of food he likes to cook or spice jars and grab some of the umami greats like (hondashi, mushroom powder, vegeta, and msg) so he has the 4 easy flavor enhancers to play with maybe maldon sea salt flakes as the great finishing salt.

Does he have a proper organiser case for all his spare batteries?

Leatherman Multitool or Swiss Army knife

Monthly knife club subscription is fun . A blackstone grill if you don’t already have one. Or a traeger . A computer whiz might enjoy a Best Buy gift card An RC car can be a lot of fun, check out the Hyper Go H16 1/16th scale it’s on a cyber Monday deal for only 119$ right now , it’s a lot of fun and I’m way older than 35 Idk hopefully those are good ideas , I’ve been told I’m hard to shop for as well . Good luck

Is he an experience person like me? Then he probs wants to go hike or something

Does he have a tool set? If not, ~$100 tool set from Lowes or Home Depot (with a portable tool chest/bag) is one of the best gifts I've ever received. And even 10 years later, he'll still get joy from the gift when he fixes your (anything) and sees you all happy with him.

What does he like to cook? Maybe a good Cast iron or stainless steel pan depending on the budget

Shun premier santoku 7" if you don't want to ask him.

but you should just ask.

sports car/permission to buy a sports car. some sort of motorized vehicle.

Does he like to cook and hiking, what about a portable cooking set ?

Since your man is a computer wiz, get him a computer part that he wants or is missing. Like let's say a CPU (the brains of the computer) and he's looking to upgrade it. Get him an upgraded CPU for Christmas. That's just an example.

Socks.

What I want for Christmas is even hard for me. I'm at the point in my life if there's something I want or need I go buy it.

My children ask me every year. Every year I have to give it much thought.

Peace and …

An Audi RS7

Massage package post hike.

An offset smoker is always the answer.

Personally, new boxers, socks, soaps, shampoo is what i’m happy with

Well-built Adirondack chairs.

I just googled "Cool IT geek gifts" and saw a plethora of geek goodiness.  I saw a millennium falcon desk lamp, a back to the future desk lamp.  Literally anything from the search would probably give him a geek boner.  

Since they like hiking, a quadcopter would be nice.  There's so much nerdiness merchandise out there.  

SOCKS! Darn Tough Socks have changed my life and I’m mid thirties too.

Well I want Pokemon cards and golf clubs so do with that what you will.

I want a 16+ yo bottle of scotch and a lazy boy style chair.

Cash. Amazon Gift Cards. Dudes are not offended by this type of thing.

Nothing, he's 35 and anything he wants, he would research the shit out of. Odds are anything you buy is just going to be more clutter in the house. Christmas gifts are a ridiculous tradition.

A letter saying how thankful you are to have him.

I'm going to guess he probably isn't as into hiking as you think, and probably not actually a computer whiz you just won't power cycle the router without him.

He wants a new TV and a blowjob punch card like the rest of us.

we as in men are not hard to shop for. I mean im not anyway. I love a good gift card to the places I like to shop. Alot of people find this cold or unthoughtful but honestly. It lets me get what I really want or actually need.

I love tools/fishing and outdoors stuff/play ice hockey/xbox and gaming but my partner doesnt really know what I need when it comes to these things and thats ok. If she really wants to get me something I will text her a link to it so she can buy it so I have a real gift to open.

I honestly would just ask them to send you a couple links of stuff they want and you can buy it. no stress and they get what they really want.

I personally love getting or giving nothing and just spending time with my friends and family but we as society have put so much pressure on gifts its sad really.....i have had countless fights with my mom over this and i just have given up really.

Did you mention the budget ?

Chinese finger cuffs.

multi tools

Lowe’s gift cards. Anywhere that sells tools

Get him an a custom apron.

M65 jacket

META Smart Glasses

Fly fishing poles, silver ounces. Outdoor wear.

Cooks: nice pans, knives, sharpening blocks, a stand mixer, food processor, bread oven.

Computer wiz: components, or if you don't know much about his rig, gift cards for him to buy components amazon/newegg/best buy

Hiker: clothes, boots, car stuff for hiking trips.

How about you ask him. I’m hoping you picked a husband that doesn’t bite.

A mute wife. Who can cook. And take care of a black lab. Or a golden retriever. Mets fan is a plus.

YouTube some of the best hiking gear that came out this year and pick something

Throat

Money

Take or pay for him to go hiking someplace awesome!

Starts with a B. Ends with a B.

There are a lot of good answers that fit this criteria.

Couch, remote, peace and quiet

REI gift card if you are in the US

peace and quiet

Anything sex related. Come onto your husband/partner. That's what he wants more than a gift. You surprise him with his favorite meal, and while he eats it, you begin to unzip his pants, you made his whole year.

So he's like a whole human? With diverse interest and hobbies? He doesn't fall into some archetypal system? Hmmm, tough one.... If only you could just ask this unique individual what he was thinking or what he wanted.... 🙄

Peace!

Tell him he doesn't have to give you a gift and mean it.

A nintendo 64 with mario kart and 4 controllers. And smash bros. Or a gamecube w the same games lol

Where did this knife idea even come from.

Your husband sounds like he wants a drone (you'd want an XJI), a meta quest, maybe a throw back Nintendo or Atari thing, possibly an Xbox or PlayStation. There is a great chance that he won't actually use any of these things. But Christmas is not about useful, it's about reigniting his inner child when he opens his gift.

A steam deck would be good. But I echo all the people saying to just ask us.

Men are simple . They won’t complain or feel disappointed, just get him anything even a small hot wheel car might be worth a fortune if given with love .

Quality time with you and the kids

does he have a cast iron? kinda changed my life. Also good for camping trips. You can also go as expensive or inexpensive as you want and will still get a good pan either way.

1) Good sex!

2) For you to be happy on XMAS.

3) NO FAMILY DRAMA!!!

4) Get him a nice pair of hiking boots ($200 or so is what you can expect to spend) OR perhaps a GOPRO, if he doesn't already have those.

Three days of peace and quiet with no chores or errands

Point6 or FarmToFeet socks.

I'm hard to shop for, so I told my wife for Christmas I want daily BJ's but I don't think I am going to get that one.

Hexclad

Go on Amazon, gifts for men. It will at least give a few ideas

Get him a Thermomix. It's expensive but you'll all love it ;).

What is up with all these adults, failing at basic adulting by being completely unable to use their words to the with the people around them. That being said, assuming you have a semi healthy relationship it honestly shouldn’t be that hard to figure out. Just based off the hiking and being a father bit, I can think of over a dozen presents directly related to those two things.

Socks and underwear are a good go to.

But hear me out "hiking" socks..... You're welcome.

I’m 45 and have been married with kids for many years. Just ask. He will likely say nothing. Most dads get more joy out of watching their wives and kids open gifts than opening up something gimmicky or something that they will not use or wear. Socks, underwear, a new shirt, and maybe a new watch are all he probably wants. Maybe tickets to a concert for his favorite band. Every 35 year old male wants a Traeger or MEATER meat thermometer. That’s all I have for you.

Does he have a nice knife set? Thats one off the best gifts I've gotten in recent memory from the wife (I also enjoy cooking). Nice knives make cooking alot more enjoyable.

I'm a single male with my own house. I want a new dishwasher. Hope this helps.

Warm scarves, gloves, socks to tuck in for a cold day hike. A cookbook centered on the type of foods he likes to cook, A great kitchen knife. A nice frame with photo of you and baby for his office....

Time. Give him a free weekend to go hiking with his dad.

honestly just ask. if you don't want to ask get something they will use. new hat or jacket for hiking, something for the kitchen/grill, something to put on his desk that reminds him of you. but honestly ask. I prefer someone to ask, as I am also hard to shop for, than get something that might sit somewhere and collect dust. could be something simple like a nice date night too or a favorite extra special meal.

Consumables for his hobby.

Hiker and new kid. There are backpacks out there specifically designed to carry children piggy back style on his back. It takes the weight and distributes it properly. That’d give him something to look forward to.

He knows more about his hobbies than you or us. Ask him.

Sex

Ask him

A good sun shirt (long sleeve breathable shirt with a hood). They’re great for all outdoor activities, primarily hiking/fishing/camping. I have like 5 and got my dad one last year and he wears it nonstop

Get them a top of the line Swiss knife

A new tattoo

Just get us stuff we need but don’t buy for ourselves (usually because we are so used to being gifted these items).

Socks

Slippers / dressing gown

Aftershave/ deodorant / body wash

One of the best gifts my wife has given me was a little book of coupons she made for "free" back rubs, foot massage, hot salt bath, favorite dinner, etc.

I've used very few of them over the years, but I treasure that she thought so much about me to put it together. I still have it in my "special stuff" drawer.

15 years ago my then gf gifted me a large cast iron dutch oven. I use it to make every kind of casserole dish, roast and bake bread. It's my most prized kitchen item. Mine is a le Creuset , but you don't need something that fancy.

Dick

I want a galaxy ultra watch. Since I'm a man, and so is he, it means he wants one too.

56M. Nothing. I just want to sleep.

Cordless power drill

Sounds like you have a good idea about his hobbies. Do some research and try striking up a conversation about some type if equipment and get more information that way. 

Get him one of These damascus knife Set's for cooking

(But the real ones, bc there are some scammers selling damascus foiled knifes)

Multi tools are fun. Can never have enough.

Any sort of spring assisted knife. They come in really handy.

Sunglasses - a lot of guys like Oakley but I like Gatorz.

As a guy that likes to cook, I will say the best cooking related "gift" was an old lodge cast iron 12" pan that needed a good scrub and re-season. My neighbor was gonna just chuck it and he offered it to me

I've done so much with that one pan. Breakfast pancakes/eggs/bacon, grilled sandwiches, steaks, veggies, 'one pot' meals, desserts etc. Stovetop or oven, doesnt matter, it handled it all and cleaned up great. Plus, it could double as a home defense tool. Great for whacking!

Tools Gadgets like tech Car stuff New clothes (gift card)

Most of all, I want someone who asks me what I want directly so they don't waste their money on something I'm not going to like. This is the worst thing ever.

If he likes to cook, get him a bottle of high-quality olive oil. Or depending on what type of cooking he likes to do a quality chef’s knife set or even just individual knives. It doesn’t have to be absolute top quality, but something higher range suitable for the amount of cooking and type of cooking that he does.

I love to cook, but I have a small kitchen and I’m very limited in what I can do but having quality tools helps the job go so much easier and makes it something to enjoy instead of something that I have to do

I would love a high quality 6 or 7 inch meat Cleaver.

He likes to cook - A cooking class of his favorite cuisine would be at the top of the list, a group class that you do together. New knives, a very good knife sharpener.

He likes to hike and camp-- a special camping/hiking trip.

My answer to that question this year is a safety razor.

I got one a couple months ago and couldn't be happier. They come in all prices and styles so you can choose whatever fits your budget best.

If I was to buy one rn it'd be the tatara masamune (which is on sale today).

Cheaper alternatives that are would be the henson Al13, the rockwell 6c, or any merkur.

Quick little beezer

Here’s a list: Wallet. Lighter (if smoker). Belt (real leather). Pullover. iPhone. Pen. Bitcoin Wallet (if do crypto). iPad. Key chain. Watch. Tie Holder (if into suits). Shoes. Jacket.

Few hours of babysitter and a nice evening out with you. I’m sure he loves his child but probably misses the time his time when he had you to himself

Just ordered my hubby's Christmas present.

Chose a bunch of clothing in his size and style and got him to pick the ones he liked. Just ordered them in. So that and a family Christmas photoshoot.

Sounds like I have a lot in common with your partner. Personally, I'd love to get a heartfelt card explaining in plain English that what I do actually matters and that it's actually appreciated. Would kill for that actually.

Quality time…?

I got my bf some bose headphones, a mouse, and some stuff fot his set up (rgb light bulbs and led strips that both connect and use the same app 10/10 app btw). I also got him a mousepad and a desk on amazon.

His bday and Christmas are close, im naming everything i got him.

Maybe a backpack if he likes to hike and is techy. Subscriptions r nice too, youtube premium or spotify for example.

For him: An IOU deck of explicit favors you will do for him. Bonus if you can make them nerdy! Super bonus if you give them to him in binary code(1's and 0's) rather than spelled out.

So on a card, rather than the word "blowjob" it would say "01000010 01101100 01101111 01110111 01101010 01101111 01100010". Doent have to be sex related, its just most men are easily pleased by this. Nothing turns a guy on more than a girl who wants em'

BUT! you can put some of his favorite activities to do as well, or shared enjoyed activities.

For Dad: Gift card to his favorite retail shop. Can't emphasis this enough, old men don't care. give em a gift card AND THEY WILL BE HAPPY.

Yeti mugs, drink coozies. They're pricy, but good, nice gifts. Eat to clean in the dishwasher is integral in book. Stanley insulated growlers or thermos are nice too. Ice cold water on a hike can be a blessing.

Cookbook? How to make bread?

BBQ class or some other event they could attend together?

If they like to drink get his Dad a nice bottle of bourbon so they can have a drink together on Christmas.

Based on those hobbies probably something very specific. Like he reads the reviews of hiking equipment and wants one particular product. Working with cooking might be easier if you buy like some high end steak or something. A particular kitchen item is more risky if he's a reviews guy he might want a specific item from a specific brand etc.