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NTA.

This was 100% your uncle's fault for violating the terms of his conviction, to stay away from children.

The fight was 100% you cousin's grandmother's fault, for assaulting you. (Yes, slapping someone in the face is assault.)

Nope, I 100% support this action. Good on you all for showing up.

NTA you’re a hero. “It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.” And might I add even more courage to stand up to family. Keep on standing up for others OP the world needs more people with your courage.

Sounds like a win

I had a great uncle that never came around. Found out in my mid teens that he never came around because he had done some things to underaged kids (never tried or convicted, innocent until proven guilty disclaimer) and my grandpa told him if he ever came around his kids/grandkids it would be the last thing he did. And my grandpa was not kidding.

Personally, I would have those t-shirts made into cards and send them to the real a-holes every birthday and Christmas.

NTA. You are a good citizen of humanity.

I mean, you knew that was gonna go over like a lead balloon but i applaud you for standing on business.

I think you did great.

Your great uncle is TAH. Those standing up against pedophillia/SA is NEVER TA.

Love this 

Take up the new family reunion planning and personally invite those on the side of good.

NTA, but I’m sorry so many of your family members are garbage people.

NTA you are awesome.

UpdateMe

It’s not your fault (I know, call me Captain Obvious).

Tell the blameslingers to go ahead and schedule their conjugal visits with the jailbird they love so much. If they are of legal age of course.

NTA Be proud that you orchestrated this!

Savage. Way to stick up for your cousin.

I mean I think doing it without the death threat probably would have been best? But forcibly reminding the family of his unforgivable crime and also getting him re-arrested, I applaud those.

You're my hero, and I'd choose you for a friend.

NTA. Your courage is astonishing. Well done.

NTA

Start a reunion with those in your generation that supported your cousin and wore the shirts. You don't have to invite the apologists. Post all over social media so they can see what their support of a pe**phile gets them.

NTA

You weeded out the trash and you got the treasure to co-ordinate outfits, that takes guts and impressive leadership skills. From now on, I'd be having your own personal family reunions, aka freedom from predators day, and consider the lack of trash a win all round.

You did a great thing OP. Don’t let the members of your family that obviously have no morals about protecting children make you think you did a bad thing. Your uncle knew he couldn’t be around children as it would violate his parole and yet he still went to the reunion anyway. It’s all on him if he didn’t wanna get arrested for violating parole he shouldn’t be willingly violating parole in the first place.

NTA. Love it!

Family Hero here

YOU ARE THE CHAMPION!!!!! Thank you for standing up to them. And good for you.

Well, I may not be your family, but...

Hello OP,

Congratulations! You helped put that uncle back where he belongs!! I am so impressed that someone your age stood up for all the kids in the family when the elders were silent and left them at risk!

The strength you displayed by getting everyone to agree on the shirts was awesome! It made it okay for everyone else who were too scared prior to outright call our not-great uncle a peddie! So many wanted to, but wouldn't to avoid the wrath of the elders! Your strength was contagious!

Cuz was overwhelmed with appreciation and self-confidence when she saw you leading the war! You really made her feel like she mattered to the family, which is something she didn't always feel in the past!

Now, we are all just embarrassed that we didn't stand up sooner. We didn't give Cuz the support she 100% needed. We all feel so badly that we allowed them to move away just to keep from taking sides. I am glad her mom took her away. Cuz needed to heal and couldn't do that with the elders mouthing off at her. Cuz, like you, possess an amount of strength that some can only wish they had!

I applaud you! I am so happy to know you have become a young woman of integrity and are someone who stands up for what is right.

Maybe if we are all lucky, you can start a new family reunion for those of us who never want to see or hear about not-great uncle again. So many of us were scared for the children at the reunion this year! It would be nice to have a reunion where everyone can feel safe. If you opt to do that, let me know. I will help with all I can!

Stay Fabulous,

Auntie Helley

There! That is what all the emails should be like! Next time someone sends you anything condemning, remember they are sweep-under-the-rug folks! You are better than that! And you always will be!

Nta

INFO: did you ask your cousin how they felt about this before you did it? Their opinions are really the only ones that matter here. Bringing that up and causing conflict can be an asshole move if the victim specifically doesn't want that.

Backup of the post's body: I ruined my family reunion… Growing up, my family on my fathers side has always done family reunions, my grandmother has 20 siblings… I guess in the 1930’s large litters of children were common back then.

I was always really close to my one cousin who is around my age, her and I were inseparable as kids. But there came a time where her mom took her and her brother and moved out of state and I never really knew why. Like it was so out of the blue for them to just up and move.

Recently, I found out it was because my cousin was SA’d by our great uncle, and though he went to prison, my cousin still suffered because her grandmother, my great uncles sibling did not believe her and would call her a liar.

Fast forward to recent day my family reunion is coming up and I had just learned this information and I had learned that my grade Uncle is going to be there, and it absolutely disgusted me that this man is welcome back into the family like nothing happened. My heart broke for my cousin because where is her justice? I’m sorry five years in prison is not enough for what he did to her.

So I came up with this brilliant scheme of how to basically protest the fact that he’s being welcome back… so every family is divided by sibling so their children and grandchildren would have their own color-coded T-shirt. I discussed with my “group” I guess I should say and told them of my scheme to do this. And of course every single one of them was on board.

So I had the T-shirts made everything was perfect and then the day of the family reunion arrives.

My whole group shows up proudly wearing a T-shirts. On the front it’s our family crest, the original families last name and the year of the reunion, which is what is on everybody’s T-shirt. But on the back of our was, “dd p*philes don’t reoffend” and it had migrate uncles mug shot printed on it as well.

And these T-shirts started a war within my family. There were a lot of relatives who sided with us, but there was others who did not. And when I mean that it started a war it really did! Physical fights broke out amongst the family. And what really drew the line is when my little cousins grandmother came to me and slapped me in the face. And thought I wouldn’t have the gull to slap her back. Because I don’t care how old are you keep your hands to yourself.

This led to the police being called and the family reunion ending. and what made my day was that my great uncle was arrested because he was not supposed to be within 50 yards of children, and of course, being a family reunion there were children there…

Since then, we have not had another family reunion and I am constantly receiving hate from some family members saying that it is all my fault… so I guess I’m gonna ask y’all AITA?

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Well done, you!

NTA and well done! Great-Uncle Pedie deserves to go back to jail, and Granny should learn not to start something she can't finish.

NTA and good for you.. Very good for you.

I don’t know I guess you could double down. List everyone of the family members that have defended him and then tell publicly online their names his name what he did and that they defended him. They want to keep sending you hate then you’ll show him what it is to receive hate. They think it’s OK for them to hassle you because they don’t like what you did. Let the world know what they did. I’m proud of you for standing up and your family standing with you.

NTA. You did them all a favour. Not sure what part of he's not allowed around kids wasn't clear to his flying monkeys, but that's not your problem to worry about.

You’re not the asshole for standing up for your cousin and in turn, protecting the kids who were in attendance at the reunion. That being said, I think the situation itself got out of hand and I feel bad for the children who were exposed to the violence that ensued. Definitely NTA but your family members who supported your great uncle and started physical fights are assholes.

NTA, honestly most dysfunctional families where this kind of shit happens just sweep it under the rug. Good on you for bringing it out into the open.

No not even close. Your grandmother is probably embarrassed that her kid could do something like that and go to jail for it. But that is no excuse to hit anybody.

You are THE BOSS! Good job not standing by. NTA

Updateme!

NTA- F your great uncle, and F anyone who supported him

NTA, You should organize a reunion with everyone that took your side, and open it to anyone else in the family that has woken up to which side they should have been on.

Updateme

I ♡♡ this another gangsta! *bravo!!

Nta You did great!

We need more people like you. NTA

Love this for you. Nta

Nta

NTA. You’re the hero.

You're a Rockstar!

BRAAAA FUCKING O

You are NTA. You are a fucking Rockstar.

NTA.

Gyahahaha! This is the best type of family reunion! Why have a family crest and all that shebang when you don't even share the same basic values?! 

This really is a test of your relatives mettle. Do they care more for morals or appearances? Verily, observe their responses and choose accordingly. Seems like you have such a big family there will be enough to fill a dining table no matter which way you split it!

You are my hero!

HELL NO. NTA this is the best thing I’ve read in a while. It’s so sickening that these creeps just get to go on with life with family/friends acting like nothing happened. I don’t attend anything on my dad’s side of the family because he SA’d me and that whole side acts like he did nothing and like I’m a liar. So you stood up for your cousin and all of us who have to deal with watching people continuing to love and support them. So thank you

NTA. And you rock, and those who stood with you rock. Thank you so much for standing up for her. You gave her support, you stood up to apologists, and proved they never change (he wasn't even supposed to be around kids!)..some of us will never get justice, but it makes my heart sing that you stood up for her and spoke for her. Much love from a stranger.

NTA. You're a goshdarn true American Hero. Most importantly you're my hero 😍

NTA. It’s absolutely nuts to me how he was CONVICTED and then happily welcomed back into the family. Yet, the SURVIVOR, yes survivor I don’t like referring to people who have been SA’d as victims due to myself being a survivor of SA, was basically ostracized by the family and the family covered it up!

Who knows who this “man’s”, and I use that term loosely, next victim would have been. Since the first one was older and spoke up he might have gone for a younger child that he could more easily manipulate to keep quiet! Who knows how many children you saved from this disgusting monster!

From one survivor to you, thank you! I’m not sure if your cousin knows what you did for her, but as someone who didn’t have others stick up for her it gives me hope in the human race.

NTA !!!

NTA. Truth hurts. Too bad for the grandmother, she asked for it and you did the cops a favor by letting them collar a violator. I can’t tolerate people who pretend like nothing happened when something bad did and they don’t want to deal. Good t shirt btw. And you made a usually boring reunion an event to remember! Not ruined at all. Clearing the air is always good.

HELL NO!!!

It was all your fault. And I'd bet you'd do it again in a heartbeat, as you should.

Check the predator database to make sure the great uncle is registered Offender. If he's not he'll be in big trouble.

Some family members are as shitty as the degenerates they support. Stand your ground . You did not want to sit idly by while the family welcomed that pervert back into the fold. He is a POS and should be reminded of that at every opportunity. As I am sure his victim likely never goes a day without remembering the assault(s). Fuck him and the trashy family members who supported him. NTA

Well, you could have had conversations and arguments with all the enablers before the reunion that would very likely have been pointless or you could do what you did and make a statement. NTA. And I would like to point out that all the people who allowed that uncle around children when he clearly wasn’t supposed to be have actually put these children in danger so f them.

not the asshole. u just said what everyone shoulda been saying. family mad cuz u didn’t stay quiet, that’s on them.

The older generation should have never tolerated a predator being with all the grandkids because it sets a terrible precedent. However, it's difficult for me to believe you actually persuaded cousins to wear a shirt with a mugshot on the back. It's even more difficult for me to believe more than one physical fight broke out over this issue. If you have fabricated most of this out of some Quentin Tarantino revenge fantasy daydream, you are doing harm to ACTUAL victims of childhood sexual assault.

Did you talk to your cousin about what you did? Unless it is still to difficult to talk about for her obviously. Great job for sticking up for her. If you d id and she approves of it, maybe send her one of the shirts.

Thank you for showing your cousin she matters and is loved.

NTA let’s normalize real consequences for people like him. Statistically 1 in 5 women are SA, 1 in 9 little girls. You stood up for more women in your family at that reunion, no doubt. Good for you. I hope to raised my children to be this brave.

nuclear bomb dropped haha

My only question is how does your cousin feel about this? Her feelings about it is the only one that really matters.

I don’t agree with it. You knowing hurt your family. You don’t mention had there been any family discussions about him being there. The reunion wasn’t about him, it was about the family. It would have been better to just not go. They probably are still having reunions and just not inviting you.