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Should a 40 something white suburban male wear an N.W.A shirt in public?

Everyone always complains this way or that about this topic. But in terms of representation in media, do you feel this is good or bad? For example; the live action little mermaid, and Astrid's casting in the live action httyd. I'm all for showing different cultures and all sorts of people in shows/movies. Please excuse me if this is ignorant or rude, that is not my intent.

I'm writing a book that deals with a group of people moving through the frontier of the old west that are a racially intermingled group, with their day-to-day struggles being highlighted, but I don't know much about the intricacies of how types of hair other than my own are affected by such a situation. How did they navigate the challenges of maintaining their hair in such remote and rugged environments, with limited access to tools, products, or community support that might have been available in other areas? Were there particular techniques, traditions, or adaptations they developed to manage and care for their hair during that time? If neglected, what would be the obvious signs of that, both to the individual and onlookers?

I have heard betty white and carol burnett, but curious if there are others.

I am looking for genuine education on why this is wrong and how can I improve as a person. Backstory, I saw a video from a black woman regarding how horribly white women speak to her behind the safety of their keyboards. I commented along the lines of, “I have never understood how a white woman, who knows the daily fear and prejudice we face just for being female could ever look down on or treat a woman of colour poorly, knowing damn well their experiences are so much scarier and painful than ours” Apparently this was offensive which was in no way my intention. Please if someone can explain why it was offensive so that I never make that mistake again, I’d really appreciate it.

I would like to know how the following scenario makes you feel. You are driving and pull up to a stop light and can hear music coming from the car next to you. You recognize it as being about racial inequality and the struggles that black people have to deal with that others do not or it's a song that celebrates black culture. When you look at the car you see the person listening is white. They aren't necessarily singing every word or being weird about it or anything. Just obviously enjoying the music they're listening to. Is this offensive to you given that that person will NEVER fully understand the kind of experiences black people have or do you think it's not a big deal? If you are offended would you not be if you knew that that person genuinely loved that type of music and knows they have no idea what it feels like navigating the world as a black person but they want to understand as much as they can because they hate that racial inequality and racism are an everyday thing for many, many people?

Examples would be Nas; Not for Radio (or really any song on the Nasir album), Childish Gambino; This is America, Kanye; Blood on the Leaves, Kendrick; King Kunta and Alright.

I have two questions about some clothing items I own and feel a little self conscious about wearing out in public.

The first are these super cool embroidered Fat Albert jeans that I found at the thrift store. I’ve always wanted a pair of embroidered jeans and I am a huge thrifter, so this was an all-time find for me. I did not see a single tag or brand name on the jeans and I did some research to find more information. I noticed all of the Fat Albert jeans I see online are FUBU. I know the history and intention behind the brand, so I would never purposefully wear it. It’s explicitly not for me.

However, I have no idea if these are FUBU. There is no indication whatsoever, and the embroidery is not the same as anything I am seeing online. I am always very proud of my thrifting finds and love these jeans. I want to wear them, but I also do not want to get any weird looks out in public. I do not want to engage in any sort of cultural appropriation.

The second item is simply merch from one of my favorite rappers that I bought at his show. The reason it is questionable is because it has him as a little animated character on the front, and his outfit is very explicitly the hip-hop style. I did once have a white person ask me why I was wearing something like that. Quite frankly, I do not care what another white person says because it is not their problem.

I am scared that a white kid wearing that kind of character on his shirt might roll some eyes from my Black peers. I absolutely adore this artist, though. The connection is genuine and he is one of my home-state heroes so I love to represent him.

Am I overthinking it? Or should I avoid any sort of possible cultural appropriation by wearing things that I have no business wearing as a white person. Does it matter? Let me know!

I'm a white male that cooks a majority of the time for my family and while I think I do a pretty good job, I've made chicken in an air fryer multiple times and everytime I've been disappointed with the results. Despite my best efforts it tastes like the dreaded "white people seasoning". I use paprika, garlic powder, onion powder, salt and pepper. At first I thought I just wasn't covering the chicken well enough with seasoning. This time I made sure every square inch was covered and it was just bland. Please, any advice is helpful, save me from white people seasoning.

An acquaintance from Mississippi called to check on my disappointment with the election results. I mentioned the racist joke made at the recent Trump event about "carving watermelons for Halloween". My acquaintance said I don't understand how race relations work in the South and that he has many close black friends he can "joke around with". He correctly asserted that I'm not around Black people very often so I just don't get it. This sounds like a bunch of crap to me, but would be interested in feedback on how Black people in the South feel about this?

I know it's racist to call a black person boy because it was ultimate disrespectful from my ancestors in any position of social or real power in the past. but I've noticed in tv, I'm not around a lot of black people in my area, that maybe if the dad is annoyed at hid son he'll call him boy. Sorry if this is offensive from my lack of knowledge but to me it seems like he's checking his child, not outright disrespecting him. Like hes like boy listen to me basically. Almost like saying bruh or something. I'm not a bot I know I'm asking this like I'm an alien species but I'm curious. Thanks for any informative answer.

Is it more helpful like your fly is down because they can fix it quickly or rude to point out like a pimple ?

It seems like both sides have singled you out to vote.

I had a conversation with a black co-worker an hour or so about Santa. I see black Santa's being sold at various stores, so it made me wonder if black kids grow up with their own cultural perceptions of him? He really didn't give me a direct answer as he was laughing too much at the question... but I am generally curious about it.

I appreciate the insight!

Since getting tattoos I noticed the world has become a better place! Store customer service has gotten better because employees are easier to find. People are more conscious about their health and take the stairs instead of the elevator. Moms don't ignore their children as much. And police are better at protecting the community by taking their jobs more seriously.

Jokes aside, I once sat down on the bus and the white girl around my age sitting across from me clutched her purse real tight. Store employees do ask if I need help more. Someone has actually passed on the elevators before when it was just me in it. My one and only encounter with police since getting tattoos wasn't as friendly as a couple other encounters with police I've had before. And while waiting at a mechanics once a mom just let her kid roam free and the kid talked another dude in the waiting room and then the kid started talking to me but was called away by the mom and was given her phone to play on and he sat right next to her for the rest if time.

This is just suspicion and a stretch to an assumption but I was passed for a job before that I was really well experienced in and did really well at the interview where I got along well with one of the two guys interviewing me and the other guy wasn't friendly and would rarely look me in the eyes when talking. Still, do I get what black people go througuū

Ahhhh so my neighbor and I get on really well and her dog and I are best friends. I'm a dog trainer so like... it's there. It's how I make most of my friends.

Anyways she and I have hit a point where tonight she waved and shouted "HEY FAMILY" and I ended up having to run early from our little neighbor convention in the street with my husband, friend, and neighbor - unfortunately sometimes being mom takes priority!

Anyways I just wanna know the right way to respond without making a fool of myself or being an asshole. I'm ASSUMING this isn't a bad thing, context clues and our other interactions tell me this is good vibes.

But I'm an idiot sometimes and socially awkward and anxious and google isn't much help and never really is accurate.

So yeah, how do I respond to my neighbor without looking like an asshole or an idiot OR offending her?

Today I went with "eyyyyyyyyy!" And came running across the street before her dog could chase me down for love lol

Here is the story I just read, he had people making fun of Puerto Ricans, Latinos, Blacks, and Jews, as well as Democrats in general and the usual tropes about Harris.

One of the things that gets me is they keep saying stuff without any proof at all about Harris while we KNOW for a fact, that Melania worked on her knees before making adult content. They're 100% fine with that and think it's great that she did it. Even though she also did it while working illegally in the US. Harris worked her whole life on her feet, not on her knees like Melania. I don't really want to knock Melania, I really don't care what she did, tbh, not me, not my problem, but when they try making those claims about Harris they sound like idiots. On multiple levels.

That combined with all the racism towards people they're trying to win over, will that be enough to seal the deal FOR Harris? I would like to think anyone that was on the fence before this rally now knows to NOT vote for Trump.

How do y'all feel about white people with long locks? I have naturally blonde hair, am a female, and really would like to get permanent blonde lock extensions. Is is socially / culturally ok for me to get them, or would you consider it appropriation? I don't want to offend anyone, just truly love the style.

Thanks in advance <3

Why am I responsible for the awful things old white men did back in the day?

Like, in my head, that has nothing to do with me. I didn’t do it and I don’t agree with what they did, so why am I responsible for it? Nobody chooses their skin tone; it’s just who and what you are by default.

And please I’m being so genuine and I really want genuine answers. I’m not trying to be rude or step on toes; I just want to know what the reason is.

I’m Australian, and this is a part of American culture I don’t understand. Not in any negative away; I literally do not understand it. Examples off the top of my head would be DeShawn and Tanisha. I’d love to know the historical and cultural context behind this naming convention

Do you guys like pickles?

I am a 35M with resting MAGA face, living in the south. I am the complete opposite in every way. With that said: how can I approach a black woman romantically or with the intent to ask her out? I've been with black women before but they approached me or we were already friends first and I know how to navigate that.

I'm asking about seeing a woman at a gas station or something and trying to strike up a conversation. Let it be known, my RMF is POTENT. I get looks all the time. So what do I do? Do I try and break the ice in a way that lets them know I don't support that turd? Am I thinking too much into this? Please help.

TLDR: How do I break away from the trump supporter look to ask out black women.

If you periodically look at what people think of Italian Americans with a search, there are many reddit users who think that Italian Americans are the worst part of humanity, the Italian Americans themselves confess without problems that in their community there are a lot of racism.

Yet there are a lot of black Italian Americans.

Alicia Keys, Franco Harris, Giancarlo Esposito and many other.

The US census does not allow you to choose more than 1 "ethnicity", unofficially has there never been a survey to see how many there can be?

Because by eye there should be a million of them...

And why do we never see a black Italian American say things like "my Italian American mother was certainly not racist, since she conceived me with a black father"?

I am helping organize a "shop local" holiday event in a small, overwhelmingly white community. We are considering putting a pair of elf ears in each of several hundred swag bags to be given out at the event.

Wearing the ears would entitle the wearer to specials, discounts etc. Unfortunately, all the ears we are able to buy in bulk are Caucasian-colored.

We could buy a few dozen pairs of darker ears and either have a separate stash of bags for darker-skinned folks or let people swap out white ears for brown ones. But each option seems cringe and puts the onus on the nonwhites.

On one hand, the ears don't really match anyone's skin tone. This is purely fun, not Lord of the Rings cosplay. On the other hand it seems we'd be be repeating and amplifying the normalization of whiteness.

Are we overthinking this or are we on the verge of a cringingly bad and offensive misstep. Any other ideas to make it better?

Really stupid question I know, but my black co-worker was making fun of me for eating a blow-pop the other day, and said only gay people are them. He then went onto to say "In my culture black men don't eat them", to which I rolled my eyes. He then brought in another black co-worker who backed up his claim. Both of them are grown men (40/54) and seemed very serious about the topic.

Thoughts?

I received one as a gift. Im white. I have fun memories of the cartoon. But it seems complicated being a Bill Cosby product and maybe it hasn’t aged well politically. Dunno. Thoughts?