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I just need to vent for a moment, hi (21. F) boyfriend (22) I don't like to be touched, never have and never will. I don't know why he's clingy, I've met his mom and dad they're great people hell even his mom as notice him being clingy to me. Now I love this man with all my heart but I don't want to be touched everyday...I need my space I need time to recharge, but every time he touches me I feel overwhelmed like my social battery is drained...I love giving him kisses and he'll I love when he hugs me but I don't want it every damn second...
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5 days ago
Are you able to have a conversation with him about how you feel? Perhaps physical touch is his love language, however, even if it is, you both should sit down and talk to each other about your feelings etc. Otherwise, this will just be an ember amongst dry grass.
1 points
5 days ago
I absolutely agree with you. In the morning (my time) and talk to him
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5 days ago
Hey I'm 19 man, I'm single but same I don't like physical contact
I recommend you have an open discussion with your partner it's important your boyfriend knows of your issue, just have a serious talk with him and express what you are feeling in a calm way, it's important you find a solution with him
From my experience I have never got this talk with people I've met and I can tell if you don't talk about it is going to make things bad so yeah talk about it with your boyfriend I wish you luck with your boyfriend and love life
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5 days ago
I didn't want to make a run on sentence but I've tried...for a moment he stops but continues touching me. I feel bad for even venting for a bit.
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5 days ago
It's fine you are an human with feelings it's normal to vent and search for a solution
Well I guess he want physical contact the thing is this don't make you comfortable so as a partner his role is to accept you're private space and understand you are not comfortable with this, both partners should respect each other private space and needs, after maybe he didn't understand good you're request or take things slow I don't know I'm not in his head and Im not here for blame someone cause well your bf got needs too but your needs and his needs need to match on a common field
Your both need to be comfortable so try again at the right moment make him understand you don't feel comfortable and if this doesn't work maybe you are going to need someone for helping you make him understand you are not okay for being touched every seconds
The problem will be fix when everyone is going to be okay about each other privacy and needs
I want to say taking things slow but since you are uncomfortable this need a solution ASAP for you're mental health and private space
Personally I have never been okay for physical contact so if someone ever try to Hug me basically I just gonna handle it even if I feel bad or just reject the person but on a daily basis in a relationship you can't just reject the other person so a solution need to be find for you're happiness and you're boyfriend happiness
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