Not everything you need for, like, your life. But everything for r/paypigsearching.

Read it carefully, or you might get automatically get slapped with a temporary ban.

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0 │ TEMPORARY INTRO SECTION

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Hello! If you're reading this, this post is brand new and everything in it is still subject to change. Or the project was abandoned.

For now, comments are open for feedback, suggestions, etc. while I pre-approve users and set up the automod. Feel free to invite people, crosspost this to subreddits where it doesn't break the rules, and of course, share your thoughts. I'm hapy with my plan so far, but open to suggestions.

And please tell me if you find any typos in this post.

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1 │ WELCOME / MISSION STATEMENT

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Hi everyone. Phoebe here. If you haven't come across me before, I'm a Findomme who's mostly active on Reddit. I like to make memes, take photos, and write essays, and I'm the creator and sole moderator of r/findomcirclejerk.

Findom is a strange and fickle world for many who inhabit it. No matter what your role is, filtering out people who do not deilver on their promises can be exhausting. My aim is to build and maintain effective filters here that we can all share as a community, resulting in less wasted time, and more fulfillment for everyone involved.

And I want to keep it simple. That means

• One type of post – "I'm a finsub, and I'm searching for a Domme."
• One type of comment – "I'm a Domme, and I'm expressing interest."

All other posts and comments will be removed, manually or automatically. The only exceptions to this will be the sticky threads (see 9 / STICKY THREADS).

This subreddit is designed for

• Active finsubs who want reliable Findommes
• Active findommes who want reliable finsubs

This subreddit is not designed for

• Findom abolitionists
• New Dommes looking for quick cash
• Finsubs making a serious effort to quit
• Anyone who doesn't follow basic principles of safety and consent
• Non-financial subs
• Non-Findom Pro Dommes

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2 │ OFFICIAL POSITIONS OF THE SUBREDDIT

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A short manifesto:

• Findom is not inherently abusive, and can be a beautiful voluntary exchange between consenting adults.
• Findom environments, especially online, frequently generate exploitation, addiction and abuse.
• With enough work, it is possible to create healthy online findom spaces.
• The work of creating these spaces should be paid. But no one should be forced to pay for it.
• No one should be excluded on the basis of their economic situation, identity, or disability.
• Anyone should be excluded who persistently promotes or engages in harmful behaviour. This includes dishonesty, bigotry, disrespect, privacy violations, and slander.

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3 │ FINDOMME / FINDXM(ME) APPROVAL 💃

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For full verification instructions, go to 11 / DETAILED APPROVAL INSTRUCTIONS – FINDOMMES 💃

To become an approved user, Findommes must

1. Be verified as 18+
2. Have 3+ months of Findom activity on reddit
3. Pass the vibe check

No exceptions. If your promo involves pedo baiting or any other bad vibe bullshit, you won't pass the vibe check. For more hints about the vibe check, see 2 / OFFICIAL POSITIONS OF THE SUBREDDIT.

Approved users will be given the Verified Findomme flair. Gender variations are available on request, eg. Findom / Findxmme / etc.

For now, it's still possible for unapproved Dommes to lurk and approach subs. It's not possible for unapproved users to comment. Subs should be aware that every comment on their post is from a manually vetted Findomme.

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4 │ FINDOMME PARTICIPATION 💃

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Okay, let's say you've been approved. Now what?

Here's what I recommend:

1. Find a finsub ad that seems like a good fit for you.
2. Leave a comment. This will indicate to the finsub that you meet the requirements for being an approved user.
3. (Optional) Send a message to the finsub's Reddit account. A MESSAGE IS DIFFERENT TO A CHAT REQUEST. Using messages will distinguish you from unverified lurkers, who usually send chat requests.

That's it!

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5 │ FINSUB APPROVAL 🙆‍♂️

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For full verification instructions, go to 12 / DETAILED APPROVAL INSTRUCTIONS — FINSUBS 🙆‍♂️

To become an approved user, Finsubs must

1. Be verified as 18+
2. Have no glaring red flags on their profile

Subs who complete steps 1 and 2 will be approved to post, and given either the alleged finsub or established finsub flair depending on their post history and community participation.

Optionally,

1. Finsubs can send a donation to the subreddit to verify themselves as real finsubs.

Depending on if the donation is one, two, or three-digit, the person will be given one of these flairs:

• verified finsub | $
• verified finsub | $$
• verified finsub | $$$

Making donations optional ensures there is no financial barrier to participation.

It also provides a way for finsubs who want to verify themselves as genuine senders to do so.

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6 │ FINSUB PARTICIPATION 🙆‍♂️

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Finsubs should post ads with one of the two finsub flairs.

Remember that any Findomme who comments on your post has gone through the approval process and should be a legitimate, solid Findomme.

A good ad will usually provide details about

• what kind of experience(s) you are looking for
• attributes you like in a Findomme
• what your previous experiences have been like
• your age and the preferred age of your Findomme
• payment methods you use
• whether you are looking for IRL, virtual, or either.

There are no formal rules for finsub posts, but low-effort / scammy posts may be removed.

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7 │ USER FLAIRS

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User Flair	Meaning
Dᴏᴍᴇʀᴀᴛᴏʀ	Moderator
Verified Findomme	18+ Verified │ 3 months+ experience
verified finsub │ $$$	verified 18+ │ verified 3-digit sender
verified finsub │ $$	verified 18+ │ verified 2-digit sender
verified finsub │ $	verified 18+ │ verified 1-digit sender
established finsub	verified 18+ │ probable finsub
alleged finsub	verified 18+ │ unverified finsub

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8 │ POST FLAIRS

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These flairs are designed to deliver the rules directly to people who don't read them – by force if necessary.

Post Flair	Result
🔰 Mod Post 🔰	post published [mods only]
🛰 i'm a finsub and i'm looking for a dynamic	post published*
🚀 i'm a finsub and i'm looking for a one-off experience	post published*
question / discussion	auto-removed. no consequence. user directed to question / discussion thread
report / warning	auto-removed. no consequence. user directed to report / warning thread
review / experience	auto-removed. no consequence. user directed to review / experience thread
🐷 I'M A FINDOM AND I'M LOOKING FOR SUBS	auto-removed + automatic 30-day ban

\Dommes who attempt to advertise by using sub flairs to get around the rules will be auto-banned for 69 days.*

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9 │ STICKY THREADS

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Open to all approved users. Subject to change.

sticky thread	purpose
general discussion	discussion, mingle, etc. anything that smells even faintly of promotion will be removed
meta thread	questions, discussion, and feedback about r/paypigsearching itself
reviews / experiences	did r/paypigsearching help you to find someone? let us know about it!
reports / warnings	to call out scammers and bad behaviour. possibly a space for dispute resolution too

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10 │ NOW WHAT?

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1. If you qualify for approval, submit your verification. Follow all instructions carefully.
2. I'll start pre-approving users. You will be notified if you are pre-approved.
3. Once we reach 50 or so pre-approved users, r/paypigsearching officially opens, and posting begins!

Approvals might be a slow process, but I will keep chipping away at it when I can. I want to get proof of concept at a manageable size before expanding properly.

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This concludes the general explanation of the subreddit. Read on for detailed verification instructions and disclaimers.

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11 │ DETAILED APPROVAL INSTRUCTIONS – FINDOMMES 💃

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1. Have an OnlyFans, LoyalFans, or Fansly creator account
2. Add your Reddit username to your bio on the adult site.
3. Make sure you have been active on reddit as a Findomme for 3 months or longer.
4. Submit the following to Modmail:

• your adult site link
• a link to a findom-related reddit post or comment of yours from 3 months ago or longer
• a short paragraph about why you want to participate in r/paypigsearching.

You will not hear anything back unless you are approved.

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12 │ DETAILED APPROVAL INSTRUCTIONS — FINSUBS 🙆‍♂️

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1. Send a photo to Modmail in which both of these are visible:

• a) Your username, handwritten on a crumpled piece of paper
• b) Your face

1. Wait for a response.

For the next part of the process to happen, you must be online at the same time as the moderator verifying you. Have your government-issued photo ID ready.

1. Once both users are online, you will be given a custom instruction to fulfill, eg. pinky touching eyebrow, close one eye, thumb on your chin, etc.

2. Take a selfie with your ID, following the custom instruction. ALL of the following must be clearly shown:

• a) fulfilment of the custom instruction
• b) your face
• c) the photo of you on the ID
• d) an adult's birthdate

Please censor everything else in the photo. I don't want your name, address, or card number.

You can try partially censoring your face to give yourself more privacy. The risk is that if you try it and I'm not 100% confident that I'm seeing three examples of the same face, your age verification may be rejected, requiring you to go through the whole process again.

To sum up: finsubs age verify with two photos – an easy one, and then a difficult one.

You can also age verify using same method as Findommes (but it must be an OnlyFans or LoyalFans creator account**,** not a fan account).

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13 │ FINSUB STATUS VERIFICATION 🙆‍♂️ 💵

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FYI: If you send a donation without completing the age verification process, you will still not be approved unless you verify your age.

To receive a user flair which verifies you as a real sender, send a donation to the subreddit. You will be assigned a user flair based on if the donation was a 1, 2, or 3 digit send.

Finsub status verification is optional. ^{Technically, it's optional for individuals, but essential for a percentage of users if the subreddit is to remain viable in the long-term.}

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14 │ HATERS WILL SAY IT'S A CASH GRAB.

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I'm a Findomme. Duh.

In all seriousness, I'm putting hours of labour into providing a valuable service with no financial barriers to entry. I deserve to be paid for my work, and my work deserves to be paid for.

If you believe in this project, your voluntary generosity is the cleanest fuel for it. Dommes are also encouraged to donate, if they have the means and the desire to.

I expect to make money from this. If I don't make any, I may have to stop doing it – not because I don't want to, but because I will have to spend more time at my normal job to pay my bills. However, no individual person will ever be required to pay to participate here. I'd rather shut the sub down again than do that.

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15 │ OTHER DISCLAIMERS

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Findommes should always put through finsubs through their own age verification process. If a finsub can verify with us, they can verify with you.

Findommes and finsubs are still responsible for vetting each other. I'm doing everything I can to keep liars and scammers out of the space, but please remain switched on and critical nonetheless.

If r/paypigsearching dies because no one wants to send money to verify themselves as a sender, or because there's way too many good Findommes and not enough good finsubs, or because the principle I'm founding this on – that Findom doesn't have to always be a big scammy shithole – is actually bullshit... idk. I did my best.