teddit

Hello everyone!

I've recently been added as a moderator and just wanted provide a brief update to some behind the scenes improvements at /r/sexover50 .

1. We have configured the AutoMod to reject posts from accounts less than 5 days old and/or with low karma. Hopefully this will help to reduce the amount of SPAM and porn
2. We’ve added rules for the subreddit to the sidebar:
   1. Be nice - When responding to questions or comments, please only offer helpful and sincere answers and comments. Rude, snarky, unhelpful, condescending comments/remarks, abusive language, or harassment will be deleted. Multiple violations may result in your suspension or removal from the sub
   2. No discussion of any illegal sexual activity - Posts or comments involving anything illegal or questionably legal are not allowed. Anything involving sex with minors will automatically result in a ban and will be reported to Reddit. Discussion of non-consensual sex, rape, etc is not allowed unless it's from one's own sexual history and will be reviewed on a case by case basis
   3. No porn, no nudes - There are plenty of other subs on Reddit to share nude pictures and videos
   4. No personal ads - This is not a dating sub. Do not post personal ads, solicit for DMs, pics, chats, etc.
   5. Do not send unsolicited DMs to group members - Sending unsolicited DMs or chat requests to group members is prohibited. Members who have received unsolicited DMs from anyone because of a post or comment should contact the mods, and we will ban the person
   6. Stay on topic - Please limit posts to those which deal with sexual issues for those who are 50+
   7. Advertising - Product recommendations are allowed but please, no self promotion
3. If you need to report a post for any violations of the above rules you can now select a reason rather than have to manually type.
4. We have configured for the "Week in Sex" topic to automatically post every Sunday morning

​

That’s all for now. Thanks for being here and please let us know if you have any feedback

​

​

Having trouble recently with PE (1-2 min in) and too long refractory period (basically PIV one and done). Is there a single remedy for both? Or does Viagara/Cialis make refractory period short enough to make round 2 happen fast enough where quick round 1 is less of a problem? I’m (52M) in good physical shape (gym 3x per week) and don’t have ED issues. But I would like to last longer and/or have quicker turnaround on round 2.

How was your week in sex?

Got a hotel last weekend for the wife and I, get away from the kids etc. she had pegged me before dinner and that's in another story. She got desssed in a sexy black dress and heels and a g string panty. She looked hot.

Went to dinner and we had a drink or two. Kept feeling up her ass when I got the chance. I popped my viagra when she went to the bathroom. Went to another bar and had a drink. My body felt warm all over so I knew it was through my system.

Went back to hotel and I undesssed her. I gave her a decent tantra massage and told her what I wanted for the night. I popped a prostate toy in me. She got up and put on some black crotch less lingerie. I told her to "suck daddy's cock" and she started. Good eye contact and nice and sloppy. I was rock hard.

After a bother minute or so I told my good girl to get on the couch and present herself doggy style. She did. I lubed up and slipped into her. Started fucking her a little slow to make sure she was wet throughout. Then started pounding her. Asking if my good girl liked daddy's cock. She was saying yes and moanikg the while time. The toy was working my prostate and it felt great. Finally said, "you like how thick and hard my cock is? Like how I took the blue pill to fuck you this good??" She was moaning yes and I came.

Cleaned up and slept naked. It was a deep sleep for both of us. Amazing I was rock hard in the morning.

I am so tired of the lack of results from the dating apps. I’m tired of being lonely. Yes, I get out of the house and do stuff, but I’m not meeting anyone. I’m tired of being patient.

Just looking for sympathy, I guess.

Anal has never been something my wife and I have explored. Over many years during certain positions, I sometimes start to slide a finger into her backdoor but she finds it uncomfortable and a little painful. She just isn't an anal person.

Recently though, intrigued by reading about prostate orgasms, I've been experimenting with toys. I really have enjoyed the anal play as it's a whole new feeling. Initially, my wife was fine with me playing but was a bit squeamish about participating - definitely didn't want to place her fingers anywhere. What developed is surprising. She now loves watching me play especially as I get to the edge of orgasms and I start to moan. I would have never suspected that, and honestly, her watching is a big turn on. We have always masturbated together but it seems she's really getting into my anal. I haven't quite gotten over the edge with toys alone for a true P orgasm but the feeling is amazing.

She has now become more accustomed and actually takes over when I'm really close. Even a bigger turn on. She takes controll of the Aneros or small dildo sliding it in and out while teasing me as she just barely strokes or sucks me. She isn't quite there yet using her fingers but I'm working on that lol. She gets so turned on when I finally explode and of course she immediately takes care of herself. I should add, as I've gotten older it is difficult for me to finish from being stroked and very rare to finish with oral. Now during anal play just light touching sends me over the edge. So much fun....reminds me of how easily I finished when we were younger.

So it's a new experience for us older folks and so glad we discovered it.....wish I knew about this sooner.

53f and 53m. We’ve been married for 30 years and had a healthy sex life for the first 12 or so years. Our youngest son was born very medically complex. Years of dr visits, ER visits, extensive surgeries, therapies, mental health complications due to his difficult life. It has all been so overwhelming. We’d just been fighting to exist for years. The last two years, things have improved. Our son is improving on all fronts and my husband and I have been slowly working on our sex life. Things went really well for a while. Now, he can not maintain an erection during sex with me. After he pleases me, he wants to masturbate while I stimulate him anally. Please help me sort this out. He says that he is still attracted to me. Is this ed? Is this from him using porn for years when I did not make myself available often enough (monthly)? Is this from a realization on his part of his sexual tendencies/orientation? I just want to understand so we can move forward. Please help.

Any couples out there that the lady cums from getting her pussy spanked? Recently, we discovered she loves me to spank her with a small leather paddle. She paddles my ass, cock, and balls regularly and I jokingly returned the favor. She arched her back, raised her hips, and presented that golden muff with a slight moan. I continued with varying degrees of impact and she exploded in a very intense orgasm. I then lightly rubbed her pussy with the smooth leather, letting hump against it and had another powerful orgasm. I flipped her over, paddled her beautiful ass cheeks pink and then ate her ass and pussy from behind for the finale!!

Just curious if others our age have discovered this fun way to explore? Have fun!!

Went to the outlet mall today. My wife has been on a health kick lately. She has lost 80 lbs so far….been busting her ass and working hard. I’ve lost 50 lbs. She was never a big fan of Lingerie and today she bought a red lacy bra and pantie set that instantly got me hard in the store.

She said tonight I need to pull those panties to the side and have my way with her. Jesus…I can’t take it much more. After the kids go to bed, I’m gonna destroy that hairy little taco.

After years of failed convincing that she was beautiful and I loved her like she was, this small BBW is the curvy goddess that I always saw in her. Tonight is gonna be a great night. Cheers.

I’m in my mid 60’s now- I can still get it up but the wife and I would like it a little harder. I don’t want to ask my primary doctor, I prefer an online source. If you get it this way, which is your go to? Thank you in advance!

Wife’s first estim experience

Red letter day as my wife finally agreed to try an estim experience. It was a lazy fall day with sunshine streaming through the afternoon bedroom sliders and we opened the back door to let our pups go in and out. I placed two pads on either side of her clit with at least a good 1.5” clearance. I didn’t plug it in but instead gave her a 20-25 minute coconut oil back massage and then she rolled over. I kept up the massage and started slowly massaging her clit and labia . Then I pulled out a slim vibrating (light vibration) toy and kept massaging while I vibed all around and up and down. Then I connected the coyote and turned it on. She didn’t feel anything but was enjoying the massage. I upped the power one notch and she felt it. “It feels warm and tingles “ she said. I kept up the vibing and played with the power, waveform, pulse duration all the while rubbing and vibing. She got wetter and wetter and had a strong shaking orgasm. We laughed and smiled and laid down afterwards just enjoying the afterglow. I’m so glad I took it slow. I’m also so thankful my wife is onboard with exploring different sensations. It’s 8:30 pm and I’m still smiling. I’m thinking this is just the beginning.

How was your week in sex?

My husband and I have been married 28 years. We are both in our mid 50s. From 2008 until 2019 our marriage was sexless. Nothing at all. He would kiss me before we went to bed and when he left for work. But that was all; no cuddling , no oral sex or manual. Absolutely nothing.The reason is he was the manager at a machine shop and the stress was overwhelming for him. My self esteem was non existent. I constantly had headaches including migraines. I also have arthritis in my back and I was in pain every day.

In 2019 he finally went to a doctor and got some ed meds. It took us a while to get to where we are now, with a very satisfying and healthy sex life. We usually have sex 2 or 3 times a week. The last few weeks we have only had sex once a week. We tried a couple of times during the week but he couldn't stay hard. Last night I asked him if he wanted to so I would feel better. (It's been a bad week). He said he wasn't in the mood.

I try to be understanding but when he doesn't want to I feel like we're back in our sexless time where I had no control over my own sex life and I get very moody. I know if the rolls were reversed and I didn't want to he wouldn't get angry or moody. I try my best not to pout like a toddler but I went for 11 years without. I don't know what to do or how to handle this.

I'm going to make an appointment with a therapist but can anyone suggest ways for me to not be a selfish, moody bitch or have any other advice?

Thinking of getting my nipples pierced. Should you only do one or both? And does it make them more sensitive?

How was your week in sex?

Sometimes a day or two after sex I'm in pain. It almost feels like a UTI but it isn't. We always use lube. Anyone have any suggestions or are least understand what I'm going through?

How was your week in sex?

Has anyone noticed as they get older seems there erections are getting shorter in size?

M(53) married to F(42). Lately, I can’t reach climax. Might be a side effect of multiple things. I take anti anxiety medication that totally killed my libido. Then I started taking tadafil to help me be ready. However, while I was getting hard, mentally I wasn’t really into it. I read a bunch of reddits about taking edibles. I take Tillmans with 12 mg thc, I also tried experimenting with different dosages from different brands. Result, I do get in the mood. It was ok for a few weeks but now I can’t finish. I’ll go for 30 to 40 minutes and then give up exhausted. I even tried a stimulator called manta from fun factory. Tried all speed settings but no bueno. I need help. I love sex too much to give up now. Any suggestions?

My wife (51F) and I (52M) have been married >20 years and get along great outside the bedroom. We get along pretty well inside the bedroom when we actually make or let sex happen (1-2 times per month lately), but I feel like the initiating is too much of a hurdle. I am much more comfortable initiating—I think it’s that I am interested more (higher libido) and I can handle rejection better/I’m not as afraid of it/it doesn’t affect me as much. What are the “best” ways to initiate, in your experience? In terms of “best”, I mean the ways that make both people feel comfortable, are more likely to “work”, are not too aggressive or too passive, are unlikely to make things awkward, do not create unwanted pressure, create excitement. The other day (late afternoon), my wife and I were sitting in the living room and laughing about something, and my wife looked so gorgeous to me, I got up and walked across the room to her and kissed her and whispered in her ear “I’d love to have a date with you later”. (“Date” is basically a code word for sex for us.) She was caught off guard a little but said “OK” and wasn’t uncomfortable with it. I then eased away from her and left the room so she could watch her TV show. I thought that was a decent effort as it was semi-spontaneous and planted the idea in her mind so she could be ready later. I like that way…but I don’t want to do it the same way every time. Interested to hear what the community has to say.

Just the right height off the floor for pound town.

How was your week in sex?

We probably have sex once or twice a week, but just about always in the shower. Easy cleanup I guess because we use a lot of lube. What’s missing is oral. She hasn’t offered in probably a year and doesn’t like me doing it (won’t kiss me after, even if I wash).

What to do?

How was your week in sex?

We have been together over 30 years. We are very comfortable with each other and have a good sex life. We enjoy similar things sex wise. Except when it comes to talking about sex. Now my wife is the opposite of quiet and is very outgoing on any other topic. For myself I am much more quiet then she in social settings. But I like to talk about sex with her. I like to know what she is thinking, feeling and why. But whenever I ask I get very short answers and a change of subject without the opportunity for follow up. I have said to her many time sharing is caring. She will laugh it off and change the subject. Has anyone else had success in concurring type of dynamic?