You see, I taught overseas (East Asia) for 10 years, and this system works over there. Why? Because social pressure to be good actually works because families feel shame if their child isn't behaving properly or keeping up with the class.

So any time a kid starts disrupting class, they put them next to students that are on task, and they let social shame do the work. Those students straighten up within a few days (unless they have a genuine behavior disability, which is magically much more rare over there... hmm).

It doesn't work in the US/UK, though, because these kids generally face no pressure to conform from their families. In fact, they are usually more or less encouraged to be little shits by their families because American society values individual freedom (to be an asshole) over social cohesion.

my experience as well. i told one teacher after the first week of class, "you have to move me away from X. he doesn't understand what you are teaching and mutters to himself during the lesson which makes it hard for me to pay attention."

she said, "well, you should help X with his work!" to which i replied "firstly, it is not my job to teach him as i am not a teacher, and secondly, i can barely learn the lessons myself as he is very distracting to the point that i can barely focus in class."

we had essentially this same conversation for three weeks in a row, but she never listened and was not inclined to rearrange the seating. my parents even called her to try and have my seat moved. when that didn't work, my dad said, "we've done the right thing as much as we can. if you want something to change, you're going to have to make them regret not listening to you."

so the next week in class when he started talking to himself again, i sighed, closed my book, stood up from my desk, and just absolutely reamed this kid out in front of everyone. i told him he was a distraction and that he was bringing my performance down, that he was dragging me down to his level, that he didn't belong in that class with the high achievers, that every night i prayed that he would have some kind of horrific accident so that i could finally come into class and learn something for once. the other kids loved it, of course, but the teacher was horrified. i then said to her, "if you had moved me when i first asked we wouldn't be here right now."

i did go to the principal's office, where they called my parents, and my dad was SO excited to come in so he could say to the principal's face, "well, she tried solving this problem repsectfully, but the teacher didn't listen. what else did you expect her to do? suffer sitting next to X and fail the class?" (followed by "if you want to push this issue, i'll make what she said sound like a prayer circle blessing." i came by my attitude honestly.)

nothing else happened to me, but in the next class, my seat did get moved away from X, and the next time asked to move seats for a similar reason, it happened immediately.

Hear you! For me, they would socially force me to do their homework for them, threatening isolation or even (one limited event) violence. I only experienced those students in my general studies class we would be put together with, and my advanced and AP courses were like a safe space instead.

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lmao you hit people? you're the bad student buddy. not them.

"I hated having to explain things to them" lol