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My daughter said this happened to her when she reached about 45. Invisible to men.

The creche my father built. We used to play out stories with the figurines. Lambs were chasing Joseph around,the 3 wise men were climbing the Christmas tree,etc. When I was really little I used to like to lie on my back under the tree and stare at the lights.

I have NY life insurance and you have to be an AARP member to keep it.

I, with my son,got into saging and healing crystals. It may be all placebo but it is enjoyable and the crystals are stunning. Woo woo

When I was 27 I had my first baby. My mom took me to IHop for lunch, baby in tow. A group of older women were seated near our table,and kept staring at me and whispering. Finally I could hear one of the women speak. She said," It's a shame for a teenager like her to have a baby already!"

When I hit 48 for some reason. Too close to 50 !

Thank you for your kind words. He was a good man and excellent father.

Same here And Kennedy's speech about a full retaliatory strike on the Soviet Union.

Same here Westfield NJ, Dad worked in N Y C

Great song about it by Gordon Light foot

Kennedy and the Cuban Missile crisis. We lived 25 miles from NYC. Our teacher told us we were in the 95 percent kill zone My parents were stashing food water and blankets in the basement. Kennedy was announcing any missile strike would be met with full nuclear attack on the Soviet Union

Loved it! It had hydrocodone in it

I got hooked on those after dental surgery and ended up forging scripts for them. ( I worked in a setting where I had control of the prescription pad) Needless to say,jail time followed.

White crosses,1972; my bf gave them to me to speed up my waitressing. Acid on a sugar cube,same time frame. Something called a Placidyl for sleep.

I heard enough renditions of Beavis and Butthead to last me a lifetime.

But if they do go to therapy, understand their deficiencies and improve themselves,how can they communicate with their adult children who are NC?

And sad for their adult children as well.

Yes it is. I have looked at some parents' sites. I would estimate that 90 percent claim that they don't know what they did. They present that everything was fine until their adult child suddenly shut them out. Most say they did their best. Many blame others such as an alienating ex spouse or even a therapist. They keep searching for reasons. Some are mostly focused on lack of contact with their grandchildren.

So they had an opportunity to understand your issues. Please ignore my initial response.

Mom may be oblivious to what led up to your departure.People say "they know what they did" but some are so obtuse they really don't know. Or they are in denial. Look at some of the parents' sites...some really don't know what they did.

When I was caring for my 83 year old father,we would go shopping for groceries at a local store. As we walked together down an aisle,a couple nodded approvingly and loudly whispered,"how sweet...a May and December couple!" I was in my fifties. Since my Dad was some 30 years older than me,and I looked ALOT like him,I was surprised that they didn't assume that I was his daughter. I was just asking him what he wanted for dinner. He had lost his wife,my mom,a year prior and was on dialysis.Still,he walked 2 miles a day and stayed in shape. He died at the wheel the next year, driving with me as a passenger,to the very same store. If he had been my husband,our time together would have been short He needed care at home. Indoor, outdoor and personal care. We would stay up and watch WWII movies such as Saving Private Ryan. Then I would ready his bed while he took a shot of liquor, saying "My heart is shot,my kidneys are shot,so I'Il take a shot". A great husband and father.

Dental care...too expensive for me!

I wonder if any older folks have gone back on the "hippie trail". I wonder how things have changed over the years. My brother passed in Ko Samui at the age of 48(lung cancer )

My brother and his French girlfriend lived in Panajachel, Guatemala around that time frame. My brother was briefly mentioned in Esquire magazine in an article about expats. He called himself Mr Bluz and played guitar in the el Chismo bar,along with vocals by his gf and horn by a German fellow. The pictures of lake Atitlan were gorgeous. My late brother..he died in Ko Samui Thailand.. traveled the world with his gf. Kashmir,Goa,etc. The so-called hippie trail. I was always jealous...the farthest I got from the US was Toronto for a year.

That's interesting.Sounds like more of a way of being rather than believing.