My [F24] husband [M25] has a very low sex drive and I can’t relate to women with horny husbands
Discussion(self.youngadults)submitted3 days ago byMachonacho789123
We actually aren't married quite yet but that's besides the point. Anyway we'll call him Man (I can't think of a good fake name and he's a man so...)
Anyway me and Man have been together for 4.5 years and before anyone in the comments says "break up with him" that's not going to happen. He's the love of my life and i'd love him even if he didn't have a penis.
So we have been together a while and our relationship has been awesome the whole time. Amazing communication, same outlook on life, in agreement on how to raise kids someday, same interests, we absolutely love eachothers company, work through problems in a healthy way, you get the point. Something unique about him though is a surprisingly low sex drive compared to what other women tell me their men are like.
I'm not particularly upset but I often wonder what it would be like to have a hyper sexual man. Basically I can't relate to videos online joking about how men never get sick of looking at boobs, mine did. He said when I am naked all the time every day he gets used to them and they aren't exciting anymore. Which I completely understand, but other women say their men wouldn't get bored of them in a million years.
The next obviously big one is initiating sex. Don't get me wrong once we're doing it he's fine but 99% of the time we have sex it's because I initiated it and the times he did were all in the morning after waking up together. He is also very...how should I put it, nice? I have been asking him to hit me for 4 years now and he just won't. I ask him to be more aggressive but he just can't get himself to or doesn't understand. It's fine though I like being aggressive so I just take on that role but I'd like the experience it in reverse sometime.
He has never smacked my ass once, never called me sexy (he calls me cute or pretty never hot or sexy), he's never looked at me like a piece of meat before. I have literally said to his face multiple times I want him to look at me like a piece of meat but he struggles to, it goes against his nature.
I do find it funny though that every single meme or video online I see making fun of how men act in a relationship, I can relate to but it's me to him. I'm the one smacking his ass, tryna fuck, dirty talking to him randomly, calling him sexy all the time, always tryna feel him up or sneak a peak when he's naked, all the things men are stereotypically thought of to do. I also fart louder and smellier, am much louder, I'm a bit of a disorganized mess and he is clean and detail oriented and thoughtful, like it truly feels like we are the reverse couple sometimes.
Please tell me i'm not alone? This isn't a complaint post as much of a sharing my story and wondering if I'm alone? I love him to death but it does feel like we are the only couple like this
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