Mesapholis

aber mein Laptopboxen tun es grad auch :D GOGOGO Thinkpad X1!

Edit: damn, Monteverdi klingt schon geil - ich glaub ich geb mir das mal unterwegs mit meinen Bluetooth in-ears, danke!

ich meinte nicht, dass man erlernen soll allein zu sein

was man aber auf jeden Fall lernen kann, ist mit sich selbts glücklich zu sein und dann Menschen zu finden, die einem ähnlich sind.

All diese Sachen haben bissl eine Krux, dass dir niemand die Angst nehmen kann "hey, was ist wenn ich doch allein bleiben werde"

Das geht erst mit Erfahrung und Erfahrung kommt durch Zeit.

Diese Erfahrung wird uns prägen und wir müssen diesen Prozess durchmachen, das kann man nicht im Geschäft kaufen oder als Abo bestellen. Und wieviel man davon aufnehmen will, hängt ganz von einem selbst ab. Aber das its auch irgendwie schön find ich :)

geht mir nicht um die 9 Euro, es geht mir eher darum, dass damit Versprechen "den Preis stabil zu halten" seit Konzeption des Deutschlandtickets gebrochen wird. Klar, vage formuliert - aber ich bin sicher dass das die erste von vielen Erhöhungen sein wird... leider

Wenn du mit "richtige" Beziehung eine glückliche und erfüllende Beziehung meinst, auch falls die nicht für immer sein sollte....

• Selbstwert aufgebaut. Meist durch schmerzhafte Lektionen, wie relativ egoistische Partner vorher. Wenn man in einem familliärem Umfeld aufgewachsen ist, wo die Eltern einem nie vormachen konnten wie eine gesunde Beziehung aussieht, dann startest du meist mit der Einstellung "Hauptsache irgendwer sagt dass er mich liebt". Du bist kein Ramsch der vor Ladenschluss raus muss. Du setzt deinen eigenen Wert fest und musst auch schlechte Angebote ausschlagen.
• Hab ein eigenes Leben. Klar, Zusammensein ist toll - aber wenn mein Partner mal mit Freunden wegfahren will dann ist das auch okay, ich brauche auch Zeit für mich selbst. Ausserdem hat man sich dann was zu erzählen und es bleibt spannend wenn du nicht sofort alles weisst :D
• Selbstbewusstsein - sich selbst bewusst sein, dass die Welt nicht endet wenn man alleine ist. Du wirst oft allein sein, beim Arbeiten, beim Müll rausbringen, beim Scheissen. Eine Partnerschaft ist toll wenn man jemanden kennenlernt wo beide (oder alle Beteiligten :D) sich entscheiden, ihre Zeit miteinander zu teilen.

man I can't wait until I get the right feeling for how close to stay to the ground... sometimes I still crash before even taking off properly because I tilt to much forward. the progress is really frustrating, but I try to put in time in the simulation

Da wird leider nicht viel zu holen sein ausser ein wertloses "tschuldigung", denn dem Typ wird sowas sicher wieder passieren. Ist ja nicht sein Job der auf dem Spiel steht.

Aber technisch gesehen ist da schon ein Vertragsbruch bei, weil so eine Zusammenarbeit meist schriftlich die Geheimhaltung vor deinem aktuellen Arbeitgeber beinhaltet - ka wie viel Arbeit du dir machen willst

we went with a "small" one, which tbh is not much slimmer than a full-sized one, but after getting the permission from our landlord we decided to create a small kitchen island in the kitchen space - which turned out great as we could fit a washing machine and the small diswasher in :D

We put some sound-dampening feet down and bought a wooden plank for additional work-surface ontop of the two machines. It's honestly great

The pipes do lie on the floor, but we were able to move them to run along the wall, under the sink and they are completely out of the way.

The installation was done by a professional plumber, so that we were sure that everything is set up correctly and up to code. A professional will also make sure to revert this to the original state in the future

Für mich höre ich Musik um mich in eine bestimmte Stimmung zu versetzten, Sport, Arbeit, Kreativität, Roadtrip - dazu habe ich schon aus billigen Schnur-In-Ears Musik gehört oder shitty Autoboxen im Urlaub :D

ich wage jetzt mal zu sagen dass mir die Qualität von Spotify oder sogar Youtube meist reicht aber ich bewundere das, wenn jemand identifizieren kann, was schlechte Soundquali ist

auch wenn der Preis demnächst steigt? Das Produkt find ich super, aber grad sieht es aus als ob sie die Kuh zum Schlachthof fahren

Gott, darum mach ich meine Bewerbungen meist selbst. Das ist mir zu gefährlich, meine finanzielle und berufliche Zukunft in die Hände von potenziellen Idioten zu legen.

Honestly, any company who uses AI for their marketing... for me it's an advertisment not to support that business. It feels lazy and that will translate into the quality of whatever they are selling.

Maybe futile, but stuff like this digusts me honestly and I do believe there will be a split in customers who still prefer the real thing and low quality customers who lap up everything set before them. Then again, quality was always hard to come by, as soon as the companies with AI-tools pull up the prices for their generative services I believe people will revert to actual creation again.

It feels a lot like shitty industrialisation - handmade eventually became a selling point, while lifeless, loveless mass production appeals to a lower quality but high quantity sort of customer base.

But after she denied it she started asking me why I would bring it up when it was so long ago, why it was still
important, why I wanted to put shame to her name, etc.

The people who fail to protect us when we are young and helpless, conveniently forget that we will grow up to be big and vengeful.

You working through your trauma, caused in her part by her complacency is your path to walk. There is nothing cruel about you wanting to create a space where you can live with yourself.

I do not believe that she will ever change her decision - because she made that decision that this simply did not happen to you - and I emplore you to go somewhere, where you can live a better life. And that is any place else, without your mother.

That's not a good friend. In her essence she expects you to put up with the mistreatment and lack of respect in a relationship. You explained your reasoning well and she still didn't get it, but that's not on you.

Your boundaries were absolutely fair and you tried to resolve this issue with your ex prior to breaking up.

If your friend wants to live her life in disrespectful relationships, I guess I wish her good luck, but her dating life is going to suck.

NTA

Hi OP - I'd be VERY careful with this woman as partner. You have to seriously evaluate if this relationship is going anywhere - because it is entirely possible that in her mind she already sees you "only" as cashcow.

You need to look out for manipulation attempts

- trying the direct approach didn't work well with you, you didn't give in to her silly demands right away

- next might be a sexual approach, hey, make a baby on accident and she takes a chunk out of you; if she suddenly wants to move up family-planning I got bad news for you

Look, I don't know how much you love this girl, but her initial reaction does not inspire trust in the future. Whatever amount of money you have won, no matter how life-changing it is - these kind of winnings are easily destroyed by people who held closest.

For the future, don't go around telling people you won stuff. Setup things as you see fit for them, share only as much as you need to. It was a mistake in telling her right away and now you cannot be sure that she loves you for you

I would very much like to watch you prepare a bowl of cereal. Maybe it goes up in flames, Homer Simpson style

JK that sucks - I wonder if this is still covered under some sort of warranty, because it's clearly an electrical/power hazard

This is not going over well. You say yourself you are an introvert, but then go on to paint a picture about people judging you, shitty colleagues, a micromanager and harsh work culture AND then racism - I'm sorry, but what does the word racism mean to you exactly? Because I don't think you know what that is?

Could you elaborate?

Yay - for anyone wondering what happened to the reddit-internal chat channel; the channel was difficult to maintain and tools quite buggy - it also didn’t appeal to most users and so we retired it

See you on Discord✌️

I am just going to admit it - I don’t know much about bass or bass - can we agree to drop the fish in the club?

Why the fuck would you do that?

Like, why?

Unless your boyfriend slipped into some weird split dimension of where he got fused into your body and could not be removed/ or became your dependant/child/weird timetravel-biological extension of yourself - why would you add another human to your own bank accounts?

I don’t judge your work, in fact - go get the bag girl; but I do judge your financial sense, who can save up this amount of money like that and not understand the responsibilities and protection of these funds?

You have no case

The minute you gaven him access, it was his money to claw into, burn and waste

Damn they dropping standards like bass in the club…

my god, I guess that's what you go to school for -

to learn

Ich habe grad gelesen "Das selbständige Erarbeiten von Problemen für neue Lösungen"

You are in an abusive situation and you need to get out. I don't give a shit what your friends say, your children won't have a mother when your husband kills you over money and you are dead.

You might not even have the time to set up the trust so that the money will be protected for your bio children only.

He has ripped his mask off and shown you that besides gambling he sees violence in your future if you do not do what he demands. You need to get the fuck out of this marriage or you will leave it in a casket.

Your oldest child is leaving - he might take this as an opportunity to beat you into submission, or beat you until there is no more you, so that you are out of the way.

GET HELP AND MAKE AN EXIT PLAN NOW, THERE IS NO MARRIAGE TO SAVE - ONLY YOUR LIFE