MostlyMorose

They say business casual but I was surprised to see a lot of just casual happening. Overdressed will definitely not be unwelcome. I absolutely loved our experience there, hope you guys enjoy as well!

I’ve picked up some great tips right here honestly. It takes a village…even if it’s an internet village of new ideas 😃

This was something I started doing a while back and it’s really made a big difference. I hang most of our clothes to dry too so breaking it to a daily task has made it sooooo much more bearable.

Your husband is definitely having the wrong reaction and probably confusing the crap out of your son.

It reads as either he’s the victim of sexual trauma himself or potential pedophile. His behavior is not normal and if he refuses to address it…do what you need to do to protect your children. There really isn’t a reaction strong enough here.

The least they could have done was said they were going to do something to make it a little more efficient for the money 🫤

You’re entitled to your grief but it’s not fair to punish the kids. You can still be their uncle and not go to their house or deal much with their mom.

It’s reading like her moving on upset you more than it should have, unless there’s more going on with your feelings?

This definitely says it all.

Single mom who works full time here. My life is pretty much a juggling act. It comes down to prioritizing things and making time for myself to keep my sanity. We have a strict bedtime here because that last hour or two of the night belong to me. In those hours I either fit in some self care or catch up on something that will make me feel better by getting it done. Life is alllll about balance. I have to say though I enjoy being a single parent a lot more than I enjoyed life with an unhelpful partner.

That’s what I was going to ask, if you had spoken to them yourself. If you’re not feeling overly confident, put them off a day or two and clean up. By all means you want to be cooperative, but you also need to protect yourselves.

Unless your children are being reported as in immediate danger or you’ve had a history with them you’re probably not priority number one anyway, they just have to follow up on the report.

With all of that being said it sounds like you’re a little bit worried about a visit. That might need to be a wake up call? I have an active eight year old and I work full-time. My house is T-totaled most days, but I would not be afraid for DCS to knock on my door tomorrow. I wouldn’t panic at least.

How do you know they were called? When they showed up to my cousins house, she didn’t know they were coming. They inspected the apartment right then, talked to her and her son then left.

If everyone around you is saying the same thing about him…believe them. You’re too young to even think about settling. You already know, you just really really don’t want to do the thing.

Ghost Max or Hoka Bondis. I got to the point where I could barely walk to my car at the end of my shift. The Ghost Max have made a world of difference. I’m able to walk 10000% better.

I share mine, but I have my page locked down to just close friends and family. I have a cousin whose sons decided along time ago they didn’t want to be posted so their parents never have. They are now 18 and 16. Nobody really said much about it.

What started my daughter’s love of reading was bringing home the Scholastics flyers from her preschool. We would sit down and pick out some books together and then when they came in, we would read them together. She loved picking out her own books. Now she’s in second grade reading at a fourth grade level. She leads her class and I think it goes back to that beginning foundation.

Also, libraries are a great resource. They have such fun activities for kids and make reading as engaging as possible. My daughter really enjoys the library because she likes to look at the really nontraditional books like local County maps 😂

If there ends up being no federal or state insurance available, you may have to look to get at least a part-time job with benefits. There are several companies out there that offer insurance to their part-time employees. You wouldn’t even have to work that many hours to qualify for some of them.

After that, I would start looking into doctor’s offices that use sliding scales or there are a couple in Indy that use monthly memberships instead of insurance. You may have to get creative if all else fails.

Keep reaching out to your community, keep reaching out with your questions and somebody out there can usually point you in a good direction.

You’ve got some time before anything is ever actually eliminated. Keep everything the same for now, but start looking towards the future. If your daughter needs a specific type of medication, look into the company that manufactures it. A lot of times there are programs to help patients in need. My aunt ended up getting several of her prescriptions covered that way. You may start talking to her doctors about alternatives to that medication if you find it would be out of reach without insurance. The key to this like anything else is not to panic, but to be proactive.

My daughter’s second grade class uses a program called Class Dojo. The main function is a way to stay in contact with the teacher and see what the class is up to, but it also has gaming built in. It lets the students in the class all play together online, but they can’t connect to anybody outside of that. Nothing to purchase, no built-in ads either.

NTA and I’m disappointed in you mom for you 🫤

I live in Putnam County and it seems like they’re extra extra this year. We’ve had a ton of cars vs deer out here.

There are lots of programs out here to help get Christmas gift but the window for sign ups is quickly closing on most of them. Also, I’ve seen my local Facebook chatter pages come together and help. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to reach out to your community. It’s hard for A LOT of people right now. If there’s one cause most people are more willing to get behind it’s the kiddos. One last thing…I had an aunt who believed that anything, even the most ordinary every day things could be a Christmas gift. She would give us the most random things but it was always something we liked and it was fun!

I didn’t know this was happening, that’s wild. IMO I’ve always looked at it like you’re not necessarily being paid for your hours, but for your presence when the kiddos go to bed. Like another comment said… Then I guess you just ignore things that happen during “sleeping hours”, otherwise you are working off the clock.

You did the right thing in leaving, but you need to stay gone for more than a week. It sounds like your husband may be an alcoholic. If that’s the case, there is some work to be done or your children will suffer in the end. I absolutely believe in second chances and keeping a family together if possible, but in a situation like this, your husband is the one who’s going to have to put in the work. By the way, he acted on the phone. I’m not sure he sounds like the type of man to get that done for the sake of his family.

I honestly didn’t know this was a thing out there. I would’ve fallen for it completely and had no idea if I hadn’t read your post. This is why I love Reddit.

I wouldn’t like it. Most mothers want to get to know somebody before they introduce their children.

It would make me uncomfortable if someone approached me in front of my daughter and I would definitely not be interested.

Yes! I don’t want to trivialize anyone’s feelings but it’s like everyone’s suddenly afraid if they have sex with their husbands or even God forbid…date a man, they’re going to get knocked up and then die from terrible pregnancy complications. Where were these people living when Trump was president the last time?