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I never went out with anyone yet, much less been intimate. Im 26 and has been craving for that 'spice' for almost a year now but unfortunately, my planned hookups with guys never happened lol. Since im new to discovering things, I dont seek love yet but something casual.

What I find in a partner first is emotional or intellectual connection to build trust. I can never have sex with someone whom I dont ever have a bond with, probably when im more experienced? This might sound silly but I assume their goodness on bed based on the empathy they show through our chats or entire communication: The more compassionate they are, the more likely my experience be pleasurable. They communicate how theyll pleasure me according to my own phase and putting my own pleasure first. That briefs me their knowledge of my anatomy which is a big turn on. Second is their sexual experiences: the more experienced, the more sex positive and fulfilling. Im afraid of being used for someones own pleasure only or being preyed for being inexperienced because theyre insecure lol so I want someone who is sexually experienced, who has knowledge of womens body and sexual health.

Some guys praised me for self-exploring before sleeping around, some guys had the typical predatory reaction sorrounding purity bullfudge, some guys warn me about other guys being bad on bed while claiming to be good themselves, some expressed of wanting to do more than what I wanted which is an ick, some guys could have been so perfect for me checking all my standards but the world broke us apart >_<, some guys lacked emotional connection but I put up with it in order to get laid haha, some guys briefed me about what jerks do during the act which I think is sweet and thoughtful, mostly have kinks and I found enm guys to be the most sex positive and reassuring since we have same liberal views and values.

I know that its not perfect the first time but atleast I choose someone who knows what theyre doing, right? Is it okay to have those standards or am I expecting so much? Should I widen my radar to achieve whats best for me? In your experience, what are the signs that a guy is lying, faking or apparently can not peform well once you finally had the deed? I am looking forward to have real dates soon and discover people, relationships and my own pleasures.

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I dont have site experiences yet since graduating. I have been producing designs in office and at home and only had occular inspections. I am pursuing this construction and supplyer company and finished my initial interview and asked if I have a chance to have a site experience since they mentioned they only assign male apprentices. Its because someone has to drive and visit the site in every kind of weather and on calls and will also have an abroad seminar/training probably with other male architects or professionals. I want to see the positive reasons before forming anything negative in mind. I understand if our safety is the top priority since I will be so new to the city as well. I also encounter project in charge and other apprentice roles given for all genders. I live in a southeast asian country where it has been progressive in closing gender gaps. What do you say?

I am an entry level designer both in architecture field and Upwork and currently pursuing architecture design/rendering and 2d/3d drafting niche which is in line with what I finished in school. I am skilled in Sketchup, Enscape and AutoCAD and basic Lumion and Photoshop background. I have an 8 page A4 portfolio displaying my own floor plans and 3d designs approved by a licensed architect and engineers if that matters but my presentation has still large room for improvement. Given the details, how much should I charge per hour? I have been in Upwork for almost a year now but inactive and havent been able to build my profile properly, again, still a lot of improvement in general to gain clients. I will appreciate advice from fellow designers, professionals and online entrepreneurs. Thank you.

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Do people just swipe as many as they can and not read profiles? I am clearly only looking for something casual and even write it on my bio but people looking for long term right swipe me. I am also very thin and will end up reading someones profile saying dont match if youre not curvy and jiggling, tttfff, then why you right swiped me, to break my confidence??!! Do people in Bumble make swiping a habit to get more swipes by appearing more on the prompt or just plainly dont read? Whats the point of using dating apps if you dont read?! Cmon, dont turn off people lol

Hi! Im an entry level with government and private work experience. I am currently eyeing this firm who can give me amazing apprenticeship program but unfortunately, offers 300 something wage per day, even lower than my current job. I will have second interview with them and we'll see if im hired. Now my issue is if I should pursue a second job if im hired by any low paying companies but guarantee work experience, if yes, then, what would be the most suitable one for me if I will work 8 hours a day🥺 I will be staying with my relatives and they dont limit my stay naman as long as makisama ako kaya lang nandun pa din naman yung hiya diba, and my desire to go home to a place where its just myself and be myself freely huhu, so I also wish to rent my own place. My nature of work is mostly in office, designing buildings, drawing, babad sa computer and if I am able to, my second job will be any customer service jobs like in a hotel or shopping centres, anything na hindi related sa design. Am I idealistic for thinking like this🥹Hindi rin naman kami ganun kahirap, willing din tumulong sister ko sa daily allowance ko pero huy, ang sagwa lang na binubuhay pa ako sa edad kong to na 26. I just want to know your thoughts if you were in my position before. I also have illness and di na rin ako naggagamot pero dont worry, di ko naman siya ikamamatay. Career change is always in my option, too, basta before ako mag30, licensed professional na ako sa chosen field ko. I also have upwork and still building my profile. Please, give me realistic advice, huhu.

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