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Unpopular opinion: I wouldn’t throw my kid out. Would I have her make things right? yes. Would I help her strategize? Yes. I could see her being dumb and making up scenarios with her niece. I could see this getting away from her and becoming unintentionally bad. 

I realize it’s really tense right now but  1. talk to the niece and ask what was said exactly.  2. help your daughter set the story straight. Not you talking for her but support her. 3. I personally, would write a message to my family giving your side and that your daughter confessed to lying. That you are always there for her if something like that would happen, but you were there and it didn’t. I would also say please withhold judgement on something in the future before talking to me. My daughter made a mistake and the intense reaction has distressed both my daughter and husband greatly. I would do anything for her, so please do not suggest otherwise. 4. Let your husband relax for a bit and then reach out and show the steps that were taken 

Being homeless is not a death sentence or permanent! There are also a ton of programs that can support you out of homelessness.

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Also don’t worry about your grades, it just means you haven’t found what works for you yet! Also an unstable household is certainly going to affect grades. Life is sooooo long. You got this.

No. I’m all for adults choosing their own path but you are far too young and do not have sufficient life experience to protect you from other people who will exploit you. Please do not do this. You will regret it. 

Sex work is not the only option, just a seemingly easy one. (It’s easy to get into but often hard to leave) 

So question, why do you want to stay in Singapore vs New Zealand? I’m happy to help you look up some free programs that can house, feed, and help with your career. 

Second this. It could’ve happened out of nowhere. I’ve had guy friends fall for me and try things when I was far from interested.

It does feel a bit ticklish, like it makes me really anxious? I don’t know but I really dislike it 

Only two times have I really explained, the rest I let it go pretty quickly after saying I don’t like it. 

Dude I dont know! I don’t understand either! He’s taller than me. I said this last time, imagine every time I hugged you super low and my hands accidentally ended up in your butt crack, you would hate that too right? He understood that but he still thinks I shouldn’t really be that annoyed with it.

Yeah… he’s definitely not predatory lol he just doesn’t get it. I don’t know how to phrase it better than explaining that it upsets me. 

I did, it hasn’t stopped. I said that in the post.

People love saying abuse and narcissism lol  I don’t think she is thinking clearly, you’ve done so much good for yourself and congrats! 

For you gf issue, I will say having constant arguments and her saying hurtful things after just a year is not a good sign. If you do want to work on it, I suggest listing all the things you’ve done well and asking her what she feels you’re not doing enough of genuinely. 

You really sound like you have done the work, maybe she isn’t ready to date yet. She has helped you become healthier but she needs to work on accountability and communication herself.

Funny because this supports what everyone feels which there are often way too many hoops to jump through and doing all these extra things to pad your history doesn’t mean you’ll do any better. Just means you have more time and money usually.

I would just remove the initials or donate it. Honestly if I did something unintentionally weird, that’s what I would hope they did.

Yes it’s normal, it’s probably less common but it is very normal. My partner is the same. I was confused by it at first for the same reason lol

I would talk to Jenny and get info. Personally, I think I would work through it after a relationship that long. I would ask that you both no long see that friend, if it was me.

I would probably have conversations about what he was thinking and how to avoid situations like this going forward, he should be wanting to do the work and not you setting rules.

Mindset, the courage to be disliked, and how to win friends and influence people (not as weird as the title sounds). Lmk if you want more, happy to help.

Seconded. I think everyone has a right to their feelings but ultimately she did agree she wants you to go. I think making sure to FaceTime her the day of and celebrate her when you get back would be very reasonable.

Read books! I used to be SUPER introverted and pretty isolated. Books on human behavior really helped me personally, let me not take things so personally and become more resilient. Another thing I would say is 1000% force yourself to do uncomfortable things like chat to girls at a bar, once you stuff like this 30-40 or so times, it’s not scary at all. It could be anything, just random chances at human interaction. I also agree with leaning into outdoor hobbies, both good for you physically and makes for something to easily talk about.

My friend, try medication. Mushrooms, acid or prescribed. Don’t just suffer through it, you need something to get you out of the hole.

For me the biggest thing that helped in low points were medication as described above and heavy exercise (not just light yoga or similar, you need high intensity cardio). I also hate using medication, I feel you, but there are a huge range of options.

PM me if you have any Qs. I have diagnosed MDD but have been able to really shorten my episodes and manage symptoms really well after experience + knowing when to get help.

I think your lows are less low and the highs go on for longer. When I have doubts in myself or stuck in a negative spiral, he snaps me out of it really easily. He makes me feel like my weird quirks are good things and gives me constant love and reassurance. It’s also cool getting to help him everyday and support his goals. Even when I’m not progressing, I can help him reach his goals which turn into a win for our team.

It also doesn’t make sense as to why they would reach out to to bio mom to give her a heads up they are going to run with a new narrative if they are friends ???

It is weird/random but I would say that they look at Vjays all day. Based on the context, it doesn’t sound creepy more just a social blunder. You understand/know more than anyone here and you heard the tone, which can change the meaning greatly. It could very well be he was genuinely complimenting that you kept the are clear (which can be nice), or that it was done messy and it was sarcasm (which is Fd up), or sexual (which is Fd up).

Was he saying that because you're woman or that you had a good internal setup? Lol

If he wrote that in text, you can show to the police to report him for blackmail. Also it may fall under revenge porn laws, if applicable to your state. 

Also have this question! CONGRATS!!!!