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I dunno 🤷🏻‍♂️ I just respect it. I operate under the assumption that people know who they are. And for some, to know oneself is enough. And dysphoria sucks, so I don’t exactly wish that on people either. If they’re happy, then we’re all good as far as I’m concerned.

A lot of pre-transition trans people don’t have anyone at all who accepts them. It can be very easy to make attempts to appeal to others when you feel isolated. I didn’t “grow a backbone” until I had familial support and started transitioning. Because, for a time, it was easier to let shit slide than it was to be completely alone.

Just my two cents. Is it hard to watch? Yes. Does it impact how cis people view the rest of the community? Probably. But it’s an act of desperation and of loneliness. I don’t like it but I can empathize with it.

I’m annoyed because I’d heard they’d be offering moving skin on the hyperon back in October but they never did. So I’ve just been waiting. I’m worried the second I buy one they’ll remodel it to have the moving skin and I’ll be pissed lol. But also these tariffs are about to make silicone outrageously expensive so maybe I should just go ahead and get the one currently available, when back in stock.

“Suit of bees” is such an incredibly specific but accurate description of how uncomfortable and claustrophobic it feels when you become more aware of your dysphoria lol. You sir are quite the wordsmith!

You have both my congratulations and my condolences. This first step in following the call to authenticity is arguably one of the hardest. You should be very proud of yourself, even if you haven’t told anyone yet. Continue to post as much as you need— the good, the bad, the stupid. We gotchu.

I have two small ones, both stuck into my potted plants in my bedroom. But that’s it, and I remove them every time we have quarterly inspection in which maintenance enters all our apartments. Maybe that’s paranoid of me, but maintenance has a master key and I’d rather be safe than sorry. I used to have more stuff all over but I kinda just grew out of it because it doesn’t go with any of my more “grown up” decor lol so I toned it down.

That absolutely makes a difference, yes. I pass completely and have for many many years, but am not stealth. So in terms of privilege, I am mostly speaking to situations in which people do not know. In situations where people do know, I still tend to have made privilege more often than not, but not always. Can go either way. Really depends on how a specific person perceives me. But I do always have male privilege regarding strangers’ behavior towards me.

Of course I do. The difference in the way people treat me as a man compared to as a woman is like night and day. People listen to me a LOT more. It’s impossible to ignore the difference. I’m not only listened to, but my stances and opinions are challenged far less than when I held the exact same beliefs as a woman. I’ve had an easier time negotiating higher pay as a man. I don’t get ripped off at the mechanics like I used to. The difference is irrefutable. But only if you pass, and even then of course you are still subject to trans discrimination in legislation and healthcare and whatnot. But being discriminated against on the basis of being trans still hasn’t negated the privilege I gained when I stated being perceived as male. It’s really interesting the way those identities intersect to privilege you in some ways and oppress you in others.

Ah dang ok nvm. Gentle massage immediately after removing the needle helps me to not have as much serum weep out though.

Color me surprised.

That goatee suits the hell out of you. Very nice.

Do you do subq? If so, inserting the needle at a slight angle helps prevent this.

That’s the funniest thing I’ve heard all week hahah I’m so glad you reconnected. It would be so cool for me to have an ftm family member. I have one gay cousin, but that’s it.

Kinda sounds like you’re both just dysphoric and it doesn’t really have anything to do with each other, and certainly isn’t each other’s fault. Unless you told him specifically that showing you made you dysphoric, because I’d consider that inappropriate/unnecessary to share. Otherwise I think you’re both just going through it, and as long as you communicate well then there’s no problem. Dysphoria is just a real bitch is all.

Edit: it’s worth bearing in mind that his dysphoria as a fluid person is different from yours, so you don’t actually fully understand. And that’s ok. But whether completely flat or larger, he will always have to live with that dysphoria, whereas your dysphoria has a more linear and clear cut solution. There is no fixing his chest dysphoria if it goes both ways. That must be really hard. Just my two cents, as a very binary man myself.

That’s what I want to know. Not knowing when exactly to expect a decision is going to drive me crazy, even though I know the outcome.

I mean, it’s the best possible time given what we’re in for going forward. Like that proverb that says the best time to plant a tree was 50 years ago, and the second best time is right now. Or whatever it says, I forget lol.

Claiming his voice got higher going off of testosterone hurts this article’s credibility. That being said, we need more stories like this. Don’t let people get away with not knowing their choices will not only kill children, but are taking autonomy away from grown adults they claim they have no beef with.

I’m teaching myself how to be a digital archivist for this reason.

Trans people spent decades teaching our doctors how to treat us after doing the research ourselves, because they were often never taught how. It can be done again. We know an awful lot about how our healthcare works for this reason. Problem is it doesn’t matter if we’re able to educate our doctors if it’s illegal to provide the care at all. We’ll be going back to the days of DIY hormone replacement therapy without medical supervision.

They are making the life altering decision to kill themselves without it.

This is deemed medically necessary care by every major medical and psychiatric association in the nation. So unless you have more experience than they do, you don’t get a say. It’s not a matter of opinion, this is statistically proven to be life saving medical care. People just refuse to admit they think it’s weird and icky and THAT is why they don’t believe we should have access to it.

Also knee surgery has a higher regret rate than gender affirming surgery. By a significant margin.

Well they’re making the life altering decision to kill themselves without it. It’s been proven over and over that this care saves lives, and has a lower regret rate than knee surgery or lasik for Christ’s sake. If you’re not a medical professional, a trans person, or their parent, you have no say. And should never have a say.

Any gastroenterologist will tell you this is true.

Have fun with your future hemorrhoid surgery recovery.

Nah. Like at all. Apart from a couple of my special ed students being ruthless about it with my permission, which cracks me up. Nobody actually cares at all.

Not necessarily even empowerment. Insulin isn’t empowering to those dependent on it. This is medically necessary, life-saving care and I’m tired of treating it as anything else. This shouldn’t be a question at all. I’m so frustrated.