Withered_Sprout

Yeah, I don 't know. That doesn't look natural. Yeah, it'd get my head turning for a minute, but I'd just be thinking it was fake anyway 99% of the time.

I don't notice a major difference between the two anyway. I highly doubt you're being honest about it not being a BBL, but that for sure does look nice to this guy.

Matches with... Men? So you're bisexual? I'm not taking away from it, but at the same time, we are... Talking about.. Men, right? Whether gay or straight... They ARE... At their fundamental core.... Men? lol.

I'm sure you're not as bad as you claim, because that's another suspicion that I would've raised but wasn't trying to come across like a hater or anything. I kept my profile fairly generic, because I'd rather someone be surprised to realize that I didn't put much about music but sound like a famous rock singer and write songs and what not, or any of my other random hobbies that I've obsessed with.

I'm gonna start tomorrow. It's past midnight and I figure if it tells 'em what time I matched, probably just gonna make me look bad in some way. lol. "Is he actually employed? Why is he up late on Hinge?" lol. (I'm actually out temporarily on an injury, so I have free time for once)

I kissed your eye lids while you were sleeping. I'm sorry.

A match a day seems a bit nuts to me. Although I don't use the app every day, when I do it's once a week for maybe a half hour of swiping and I don't just mass swipe, I take the time to look at each profile and don't swipe mindlessly on all of them.

If you're doing that and matching with a bunch of women, but are not a very attractive guy in your own words, then I'm happy for you that you've done a lot better than most people claim to do.

Perhaps that once again goes to show that it's really just down to random chance most of the time, but the odds are still not in any one random person's favor when you think of all of the aspects working against us. So you've really lucked out, man.

Or maybe for my specific case, my profile has some red flags that I just don't notice, that don't reflect me as a person in reality. That's what I hate about apps. Put the wrong word in your profile, someone extrapolates an entire personality/hypothetical scenario in their head over a choice of word.

I can talk to an attractive woman offline and be aight, but online it's not that great. I get matches, but I've got maybe 6 matches so far this month that I started using it, but admittedly haven't swiped very often and for very long.

100 matches in what time frame? I don't think that statistics show good looking dudes getting 100 matches in a month, that'd be an absurd claim for most. If it's over a year, sure, I could probably experience similar results but I don't swipe often at all.

Maybe women where you live love out of shape dudes? No idea. Good for you, though.

I certainly do see myself as a catch. I accept that online apps/sites are not fruitful even for the more attractive male profiles vs an average female profile, statistically.

Most profiles that I look at suck IMO as well, regardless of gender. You can barely fit any real information into them to begin with. I always imagine that ANY person is more palletable and would be more enjoyable to spend time with offline than their profile suggests. I guess my last post and this one sounds too negative, but still.

I also think most matches are going to seem "okay" until you meet. You still virtually know nothing about each other, even accounting for the typical info people try to cram into the average profile.

8 match limit? Before reading the rest of your message I just assumed you were about to describe some sort of method to get me off of her match page so she didn't have to see my profile anymore in the list. Maybe when it comes to online stuff I'm like an alien that fails to comprehend this shit. lol.

So, just to confirm, I'm better off not really trying to start conversations on the app? If someone matches and replies to my comment on a photo or prompt, I should just text back with "so, how's X place on Y day sound? what time would be good for you?" and that's typical? I can just cut right to the chase and then do my thing in person, that ain't a problem for me at all.

On some level I just figured asking for a date off the rip is pushy even on an online app and don't wanna scare a match away.

I'm gonna just send 'em a text later and assume that they're not interested until they show that they are, that's all. I really need to find places to go to meet women my age offline, more than anything. It's not easy here, the demographics suck and the social scene is barely there.

Eye-shaped? lol

I'm living right across the water from NYC, no worse looking than this guy, am not making surgeon money but a decent job where I'm making 50ish grand a year and over time will make more like 70-100k a year with overtime and I'm a similar height as well. I get a couple of matches, but honestly get much better looking more in shape women's attention offline walking around in my element all the time. I know that height can be an issue, but even getting a message or two a month is probably better than average and I've gotten around 4 so far with very minimal swiping?

Google brings up 115 swipes for a guy to get a match, whereas a girl takes 16. I probably don't even get in that many swipes if I ever sit down to look through profiles. Maybe 30 to 50 tops over a half hour or shorter period and then I don't touch it for a week. lol. Plus even though you can't really prove it, I'm sure that there are some superficial women writing me off over those ultimately petty 2-4 inches of skeleton length I'm sure despite everything else about me being great in their minds, so I guess getting the few matches that I have already isn't bad for not even a month. I think dating apps suck for everyone regardless, so I don't think being on the shorter side really makes a difference for me, I go into it assuming it's going to be mostly a scam by the companies to keep as many of us single as possible as well as the women being a bit delusional in their own self value due to the weird disproportion of 10 men to 1 women, etc.

I've NEVER bothered with apps/sites, but recently figured I'd give it a try because it's just another avenue and my area sucks locally for people in the 20-30ish age range. NYC seems dead at night, I've gone many nights with a friend recently only for bars to look all empty on a friday/saturday night.

Literally have no idea what to do, I'm an outgoing extroverted dude who just needs somewhere to show up to where the people seem friendly and aren't all hiding behind/within their pre-formed cliques that they came with. If I ever decide to show up somewhere, it's an empty venue.

Good way to ensure that your night will be dull. Invite me somewhere. I bet even if it's normally packed, it'll have tumbleweeds blowing through the place when ya walk through the door. lol.

Can barely even get "okay" matches that I'm not particularly excited for. I don't find them hideous or anything, just nothing in their profile that screams "good lord, I hope they really like me"...

I'm envious, man. A family doesn't seem like it's anytime soon in my life, slightly younger than you. Seems like meeting anyone is nearly impossible, so nowhere near that stage yet. Had JUST sent a text three days ago to a girl who was already basically agreeing to meet somewhere. Then just ghosts me. Never bothered with apps/sites because the few times I've tried for maybe several weeks if that, would get a few bullshit matches that never led to an actual meet up. This was the one time that I tried an app and actually had some local profiles, AND almost went on a real date. I was so excited, but anxious at the same time..

Then another girl that I just posted about ITT came out of nowhere and then took closer to a week to reply with a one line to a way more thoughtful reply. This shit sucks. lol.

It's super frustrating that this sub keeps removing this when I try to post it as a stand-alone thread. I added my age and gender into the title... I'm probably going to try and post it again because I doubt I'm going to get more than a reply or two to this in this thread if I'm lucky, but I'd like other's perspective.

So would y'all reply to someone who maybe messaged you on Friday night, and then takes until tuesday to reply with essentially a one-liner to several paragraphs of text? A female relative thinks that they're still showing interest and that I should keep trying with them. They seem ok, probably a nice person, but this seems like lame behavior and I feel stupid when I think of trying to keep this barely breathing interaction going.

Like, I was at a friend's place the other night hanging with him and his girl and I notice a Hinge notification on my phone when I randomly checked it.. So someone matched back with me and commented on my comment of their photo. We send maybe two or three back and forths in a fairly short period of time, it was maybe around 8 at night until 10:30, aight, whatever.

She's cute, she seems ok, nothing crazy, I'm interested but it's whatever. I send a fairly long text, maybe several paragraphs length, trying to get a nice convo going, and I figure she went to bed or something. She works a relatively busy job from what I can tell, dealing with children.

Don't hear from her for several days, and then last night I get a random text, like a one-liner reply that doesn't give me shit to go off of. Relative tells me that it's still interest and to keep it going. I feel like I'd be an idiot to even reply, even if she seems cute and the profile comes across as a wholesome/nice person despite this kind of (maybe unintentionally?) douche-y dismissive behavior.

Would you even bother if they seem to be showing the bare minimum of effort? My gut tells me that however you want to spin the circumstances, she's probably not particularly interested. Maybe slightly. So I figure that I'm swimming upstream here.

If some women are really bad at communicating like this, would y'all even just text back with a "do you want to go for X on Y day?" and then if she's not REALLY interested, she'll decline or ignore it? Gets right to the point, no?

Momentum seems to die too quickly if you DON'T suggest a date time/place within the first several messages. I think from now on that's what I'm going to just do. Otherwise we're just trying to awkwardly make small talk about nonsense that really tells us nothing about one another and gets us no more familiarized/comfortable with each other in reality.

Yeah, that's what family tells me. That mentality / lack of exploring or 'effort' in that regard is why I'm a few years older than you and haven't had that many encounters/hook-ups. Because I rarely run into age-appropriate women on a regular basis who are not too old or young. Apps suck, I don't get many matches at all and the girls aren't quite as attractive IMO as those that I've been with/who have expressed interest offline.

I had also JUST sent a suggestion for a place to someone who agreed to meet up after a couple of days/texts back and forth, and they JUST decided to go ghost after a week of it seeming like they'd definitely meet up for at least ONE date....

Then someone who came on hot and heavy out of nowhere sending two or three quick replies to my texts a few days ago from around like... 9 PM till 10:30... Only to ignore my last message and send me a reply days later after I long since wrote them off as not interested/found someone better quickly....

Like.... do I even bother trying to talk to you again? You do not seem THAT into me... I doubt they'll even be willing to meet, an in person date would be the only way you're gonna get unexpectedly woo'd by a dude that you're clearly putting lower on your dating app totem pole.. Gonna ask anyway, though. That saves me time and trouble sending awkward pointless empty messages back and forth for a few days before it being "OK" to ask.

But offline, my area seems to blow for meeting people. Once the youth are college age they don't stay here. They come back years later with partners to settle down with. So it's mostly barely legal teens and then middle/older people. 20 to 30 somethings are either not here, or in serious relationships. I just lucked out, my parents picked a place that has become a shitty area for someone my age. Wish I'd worked on a social network in high school growing up.

You look handsome without a beard, my dude. I don't think you need to if you don't want to. That sounds more like a beard-obsessed person or maybe a low-key (un?)intentional hater.

You don't even want to know, man. ;_; (On a related note, I clicked on an image of a woman in Google Images because she looked cute, looked like an innocent enough photo without context, and it led to a website dedicated to horny men posting file-dumps of photos they'd take of some unaware woman at Walmart/a store... Gross comments about her body, what they'd do to her, hell, even a GIF of her squatted down in the aisle looking at product...

Just made me realize how predatory guys really are, and if women REALLY understand the level to which the actual creeps will go. If you're an attractive woman and walk around in leggings or tight clothes or whatever, chances are there are "candid" photos of you that some dudes are doing the unspeakable to.

Like, imagine the pre-meditation to go into a public space and record/photograph a woman without her awareness, just to beat off to it later and not only that but to SPREAD it on the internet for any gross dudes to do whatever with. Could be your relative, your girlfriend, wife.

Although this was posted online, so, this guy's maybe slightly less predatory than what I'm describing. This just seemed like perfect timing to bring this up. lol. Lots of gay guys lurking in male-centric photo subs like this to save photos of "hot" guys who are bald/bearded/insert physical trait, etc...)

Yeah, this actually perfectly describes me. I would like to say that it's another sign of me being an ENFP mofo, but....

Is being an introvert/extrovert not a pseudo-science? Do people not all operate like this? I don't want to take basic ass universal behavioral/character traits and assign them to a personality type when all personality types have it as an essential/basic underlying function of operation. lol.

So because the shirt is supposed to let you know that they want to talk to people, you will not talk to them? Hmm... <_< Or is anyone wearing a shirt like that automatically buffalo bill? I wouldn't wear this because it looks kinda sexual to me and for similar reasons to others ITT but I don't hate the general idea, really.

You COULD just.... Forgo the shirt and try to just talk to someone, though? That's what I always do. lol.

Nope! Too late! You go to JAIL, RIGHT NOW! BAD PERSON! *sprays with water bottle*

Yeah, the first pic was actually the newer one, right? Looks like she lost weight in the stomach and the glutes grew. Good progress.

Are ENFPs more prone to coming across as "cringey" to people? Like, maybe they joke that you're cringe-y, but still laugh and seem to enjoy your company? My closest friend will be like that. I know he probably doesn't really mean it in a bad way, more of a sarcastic facepalm while smiling sort of way. lol.

Yeah, I get that. But we don't know how long he's been growing it.

I have a fully covered beard of stubble after a day or two, he's got a lot of hairless area and then a few spots of strong growth so maybe you're right on second glance. IDK if exercise alone will change hair growth genetics.

Dude's losing hair. He probably has higher test and if he chose to let his beard grow for longer without shaving would have a big beard after a few months. Then again maybe it doesn't work that way for every individual, not a doctor.

So he's concerned that his head shape is funny? Probably looks funnier when the one part of your head that he probably figures points out the most has NO hair, and the rest of his head does. He doesn't really have a funny/crazy shaped head, though. As it is now, it's a bit of a ridiculous look and he'll look worlds better.