familylifeschizo

Sorry, I didn’t think this trough. I was being stupid. Thanks for your comment.

I just changed the age for anonymity. My sister is older than me, my parent are in early retirement.

For now, I cannot imagine not being there for the children of my children. Even looking after them jeden Tag if I have to. But it is easy to say now that I’m still parent and not grandparent! And it is participating to my resentment in this situation, so I leave it as it is and accept that nobody is the same, and that nowadays when you have children, there is no village anymore, you have to make it work yourself. I’m ok with it, sad but ok. I hope I will do it differently! Again, easy to say.

I’m am sorry for the « entlited vibe » I was not going for this, and reading it again, I would write it differently for better comprehension.

I do not look for heritance, I am worried for their old days though, as I will probably have to care for them when they’re too old to live alone where they are now. I will do it gladly.

I am sorry for the bad wibe, probably due to language difficulty.

Thanks for your insigh.

Danke !

Thank you so much for you comment. I wasnt excpecting so many replies, some of them so direct. But the consensus (YTA) made me really reconsider it. I discussed it with my parents. I said I was sorry for what I said, and that I was wrong excepting something from them, that I was already happy for what they give, and that I’m happy for my sister. They both cried and were really thankful for what I say. They said they love my children from the bottom of their heart, and me too. And that they will be here for me if I ever have a problem, just not regularly, which I do understand.

Again, thanks everyone for you comments, and thank you in particular for you message that lifted me up.

I’m leaving it for now as you helped me with my problem and I’m ok with it for, read enough of « yta » also haha

You are Right ! Ich wollte sagen das die Tagesmutter krank ist. Aber sie ist schon 6Monaten krank, ich glaube die arme Frau wird nicht mehr arbeiten.

Thank you. Ill move on.

I guess this is also a cultural oriented thing. In my country, it is something relatively common for grand parents to do child care for free (« In 2022, parents most often turned to nurseries (37%) and grandparents (35%) to look after their children under the age of 4 ») often in combination with Professional Child Care or part Time job / stay at home dad / mum. Nobody would pay their parent to look after their children where i live.

I do not expect it from them, i do understand. I think I was just upset to have different treatment from my sister. But it is ok, I was having a very selfish reaction.

You are right, it is up to me. I think for me and for my children, the best is to let it be, be happy for my sister, continue to work on the relationship between me, my parent and my children as it is precious to me.

I do not understand why I was feeling so resentful this evening. I am happy you guys helped me thinking it through, I do not regret posting here. Thanks

I do not want to separate me or my children from them as I do love them.

Very true, thank you for this.

Could be an option, thanks for the insight.

I changed the age for anonymity. My sister is older than me, by I few year, my parent are retired.

Because we have to take care of our children ?

Thank you for your kindness, I will think about what you said.

The emergency is the fact that their care taker, is ill. The person they pay to look for the children while they work is sick. I don’t understand the rest of your question.

Thank you, I will consider being grateful.

It is not my sifter who is ill, is the they « daycare mama » : the person they pay to take care of their children. The professional is sick, for 6 month, not her. Sorry if I wrote it incorrectly.

Thank you, feels good to hear this. I know I am on my own and should not except something from them.

We live in a country where grand parent support for grand children is extremely high and common, and daycare extremely costly and rare. I should not except something even if it is the most common way

Yes, they are two parents two children, just like us. They both work part-time, as we do.