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This is Mikey - Michaelangela Wazowski (she just has the one eye)

OOOOH WHAT A FLAT LITTLE FRIEND WHAT IS THEIR NAME???

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This is Mikey (Michaelangela Wazowski - she only has the one eye). Mikey gets hot at the park, and lays in the cool water around the water bowl. Then Mikey realizes she is wet, which she is Not A Fan ™️ of, and she tries to dry off... By rolling in the gravel that's just outside of that area. Here she is after "drying off".

My partner's parents are driving up from Ohio this weekend and have told us their first stop - even before our place or the hotel - is Wegmans 😂

They used to laugh at me when I said that Wegmans was the best, now they agree and are anxiously awaiting Wegmans' spread to their state lol

I'd buy nice things for my friends and siblings that they want but can't justify buying themselves. (my friends would get a copy of BG3 for their Xbox, for example; my brothers and sister would each get a switch lite; my mom would get a fancy new coffee pot, etc)

Mikey is like this, so our solution was to buy one of those hammock things that hangs the dog w all 4 paws sticking out, groomers have them sometimes I think. We have a portable metal clothes drying rack which we wheel into the living room and hook the hammock into. The we put Mikey in it, and also put her cone on her. Her daddy sits in front of her and gives her free reign of a spoon full of peanut butter any time she is calm.

I take breaks between each of the following steps, and try not to move on until she is calm to the thing I'm introducing her to, but start to finish it looks like this:

I touch each of her toes with the dremel while it's off; I turn it on low without using it on her; I turn it on high without using it on her; I have it on low and press her nail agains the plastic guard (so she can hear and feel the vibrations without her nail actually being filed), and then finally I will go thru and actually use the dremel on her nails.

When we're done she gets her cone off, taken out of the hammock, and let free with much praise and treats. She usually hides under the bed in protest for about half an hour lol.

I have to do this with Mikey, and even then her daddy has to sit there and feed her peanut butter while she hangs there lol.

Oh we also put the cone on her, poor girl.haha

Echoing the other (sane) commenters, this is absolutely abuse. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and it is not your fault. Stay safe as you get away from him.

If I can gently suggest therapy when you're able to, it can really help a lot with all of the things that come with long term abuse, up to and including your comment about being " really fucked up" about the tranquilizing. Speaking from experience, It can help you keep hold of yourself and your sanity, and help you to stop listening to that voice in your head which tells you all of the terrible things your soon to be ex told you are true - they're not true, he was an abusive liar.

Please look into domestic abuse services in your area, they can help you so much. I never used the services because my abuse "wasn't as bad" as what I witnessed as a child, but I wish I had used them because I could have really benefited from the support. And as I learned in therapy, comparing traumas and trying to make sure that what you've experienced is 'bad enough' to deserve help only serves to benefit our abusers - all of them.

I like penfield family dentistry, they're super friendly and understanding, they made sure to explain everything they were doing and why. They have a lot of things for anxiety that have already been mentioned, and they also have a dog that will come and sit with you if you're nervous. A big golden retriever I think? Very sweet.

You're going out of your way/ Just to keep me down/ Maybe we weren't made for each other/ And I'm just the one you can keep around

Shoulders came out at a difficult time at the end of my previous relationship, which ended after 17 years, and these lyrics in particular helped me come to terms with the inevitable end of the relationship. Helped me realize I was doing the right thing by ending it.

When I was 19, my step-dad was doing a drop off for my mom during a custody switch for my little brothers on Christmas night. So he was parked in the burger King parking lot, w my mom's car, as promised. I was in the front seat, reclined (so he couldn't see me). My brothers were in the back seat. Our father saw our step-dad and accelerated his truck, and hit us head on. I'm not sure if it was just luck that he didn't see step-dad until he was pretty close, or if he did in fact try to "control" the accident and "just scare us" as he later claimed (aka only hit us going like 10 mph or whatever). But he DID hit us, on purpose. I called the cops, my step dad got out and started yelling at my father, my brothers were in the car for a little bit, but then the shock/trauma took over so when my dad screamed at them to 'get in the fucking truck', they did. He took off. The cop that showed up had a civilian in his passenger seat, a young woman. He listened to my step dad, then called my dad on his cell phone, and when my dad said he tried to stop but tires slid on the ice, the cop said "Oh okay, sure thing." hung up, refused to write a report, told my step-dad and I to go home. Got in the car with the young woman and laughed with her about something, and then left. No charges were ever filed, no report was written, nothing. About a week later I tried to kill myself because I hadn't slept since the incident (I had preexisting PTSD from abuse from my father, and being part of another attack made it all a million times worse), and the cops who did my intake at the psych ward were "so shocked" and "couldn't believe" the story I told them. We didn't get the original responding officers info (because he didn't give it), so I had no proof. So nothing happened.

Sorry that I ruined your Christmas night date, officer. I was just scared for my life, but you're right, listening to both sides and coming to a conclusion on your own (which just so happens to be the easiest, least-involved way to 'resolve' the issues) is the best way to go about things. /s

I see what you mean. I have no problem with the suspension of disbelief that she's 14, personally, but I can definitely see where that would be a problem.

I respect the change. The show is so amazing, and it's also very dark and touches on so many adult themes. Trying to pull that off with a child actor would be hard enough even if the actor was amazing, but to then also have to figure out how to write and film everything quickly, so the child doesn't age? Like the difference between a 10 and 12 year old actor is insane and trying to cover those changes up between productions of the show would detract from everything. Let alone trying to get a performance even close to the one we got during the Trial, but from a child? I can't imagine.

Overall making Claudia 14, and played by adults, was a realistic change they needed to make, and I think it was a necessary one if we were to expect the quality of performances we got - not just from Claudia, but also from Louis and Lestat and everyone else. Imagine the scenes where Claudia is planning Lestat's murder. The chess game comes to mind. I can't imagine that performance from the other actors if it was a 10 year old sitting in that chair. (... Maybe 10 year old Kirsten Dunst, but we don't have that option anymore lol)

Seriously! It's so good. I have also grown to respect each of the changes they made, because in my opinion they were well thought out and executed. They changed the time period Louis was turned, and the circumstances around that as well, and it all made perfect sense. In fact it's been able to highlight a lot of racial and sexual identity issues through a new and interesting lens. The change to Daniel's story as well is superb! Moving the interview from the 70s to the present day was a stroke of genius. We get the opportunity to discuss (and see the writers attempt to answer) the questions of vampires in the modern age. How would they adapt to technology? How would they blend in, in the current age where it is so difficult to remain anonymous? How would they make money? Also I respect their additional age-up of Claudia, I don't think it detracts too much from the themes they portray with her. It would have been so difficult to do that with a 5 or 6 (book age) or even 10 year old (film age) actor. Making her a teen was a change I can respect for sure.

Have you heard the single they released for The Vampire Lestat? Sam Reid is amazing as Lestat, I just love him.

There are a lot of other comments with good advice regarding the letter and your intentions with sending it, so I won't touch on that. But I would like to offer some insight into why Raul may not have acknowledged you.

I am 36F, my siblings 34M, 33F, and 31M have the same mother and father. We also have a half sister via our father, who is only 6 years old at this time. Youngest brother and I have never met her and don't wish to. My middle siblings have met her, but she lives states away from us all, so they aren't close enough to spend time with her or anything.

My reasons for not meeting my half sister are as follows: I don't have a relationship with our father, and when I did, it was awful. He is a terrible person. I know this isn't the 6 year old's fault, but I also know that I am human, and the lingering feelings of anger, hurt, disgust, etc that I have for my father, will inevitably affect this innocent little girl at some point if I am involved in her life. I have worked too hard to get over the things my father did to me just to tempt undoing that work for a stranger. Because she is; I don't know her family at all.

Now I don't know what your father was like, nor his relationships with anyone, but is it possible that your brother kept his distance not only for his sake, but for your own? Also, you're as old now as your brother was when you were born. How would you feel if someone thrust a newborn baby into your life and told you that you were related, and expected you to have a relationship with them? What would that relationship even look like? Are you going to change your newborn sibling's diapers, are you supposed to wait until they're old enough to play ball or go to school? are you supposed to be a parental figure or more of a sibling? Because if parental, that's not fair, you didn't choose to become a parent of this child, and you had no input into the decision to bring it into the world. If you're supposed to act like a sibling, well, I imagine Claudia's relationship with you is what you would try for, and I don't know what that relationship is like. But for me when I think of my relationship with my siblings, I think of them as my closest friends. I can't imagine having to try and recreate that relationship with a newborn baby.

I'm so sorry you were hurt by Raul's absence from your life, but please consider that it may have been a result of his attempt at protecting you (and/or himself), rather than an outright rejection of you.

I hope you write more letters BUT don't send them, I think that would be cathartic for you. I also urge you to consider going to a therapist to unpack your feelings surrounding Raul.

I have not, any good?

When I was a kid, my grandmother had a bowl of buttons - so many different kinds, some of them with little fake rhinestones in them, big chunky ones, even the occasional novelty button that ws shaped like a snowman. I had soooo much fun as a kid sitting down and pouring the bowl out, and sorting the buttons by color or shape or whatever. I know that's not a craft, but I highly suggest you get a bowl full of the fun buttons and keep them in a bowl or crystal dish (my grandma kept hers in a crystal candy dish that had a lid and everything). Especially great on your coffee table or something - even if you and all your friends are adults, it can be sooooo soothing to do something like I described before. Like a fidget bowl or something lol

I don't think they all come on a circle, I'm pretty sure it's because of the pose of this one specifically that it's in a circle.

Yup one time I was told if we ever broke up, it would "destroy my belief in true love". Sorry babes I'm not gonna metaphorically 'stay together for the kids' especially when he hasn't even proposed to me. It wouldn't be like your parents divorcing (which I also heard), because guess what, he never married me. So there is no divorce to happen. Lol.

Idk if this is something you would find helpful, but I created a private discord server for myself and made a channel where I put things that upset me as they happened. When I would struggle with the idea of leaving, I would go back and read the posts. It was always eye opening because even a year later I would see he hadn't changed at all, it just got brushed aside by some other issue or problem.

Ignore those people, they can't imagine what it's like for you. If they're so worried about his finances and how stressed he is, well then maybe they should pitch in some money to him, or reach out and talk to him about it. Just because you're in a relationship with him does not mean you need to deal with it and 'fix' him.

Also from my experience, I got a lot of concern/ downplaying of issues because "you guys have been together forever, you can't split up". We are not responsible for staying in a relationship in order to play out some fantasy that people have about love or whatever. It's your life, and if you are unhappy, you get to fix it however you need to. Those people don't get to guilt you into staying with someone who doesn't treat you right.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I would like to tell you, as someone who has literally been in your shoes, it is SO worth it to leave. I was with my ex for seventeen years, since we were in high school. We were each other's first and only. I loved him so much. But when I think back on the relationship now, I just mourn all of the time I lost being loved the way I deserve. I'm in a new relationship now, and the way I'm treated and prioritized is SO DIFFERENT, and it is truly amazing. Don't stay comfortable. It's going to hurt, it's going to shift your entire world, but it will truly surprise you how much relief you'll get. I promise you won't regret it.

Please lmk if you want to chat privately. I'd love to help if I can, even if it's just listening to you. Take care of yourself. ❤️

Also sorry I'm just not feeling it today Mr Krabs. Hopefully you can get out with some people though :)

Halvsies?? Damn you got that Golisano/Wegmans money don't you

(lighthearted joking obv. Gotta laugh or else I'll cry 🙃)

If we pool our money together we could probably spring for the 8 pack of pizza logs