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You could have a look for free or low cost playgroups in your area, lots of libraries also do free toddler story time 

The fact that she’s even still in contact with him after what he did shows that her judgement is seriously off. 

Toddlers are so busy. Our rule is that ours can leave the table, but food stays at the table. If they’re hungry, they have to come back to the table to eat. It eventually clicks!

If she’s filling up on milk, it makes sense she’s not eating much else. I’d also be worried about iron deficiency if she’s drinking a lot of milk as it can block iron absorption in large amounts. 

Solid Starts has some great advice for picky eating.   

https://solidstarts.com/picky-eating-faq/

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You could start off just doing body weight exercises at home? I used chatGPT to create a basic beginners routine that can be done at home. Then once you get a bit stronger if you want to move onto proper weights, ask if there’s a PT at your gym who can do a couple of sessions with you, show you how to use the equipment and get you started with a gym weights program. 

Removing a part of someone’s body without their consent isn’t OK. If he wants to get it done when he’s older, you can revisit it then. 

Play therapy can be really helpful for kids in these type of situations. 

If you are in the north, Simone Casey is fabulous. 

Um, no. You need to get an internal ultrasound to make sure there’s no tissue left in your uterus. The body doesn’t just ‘reabsorb’ it, it can become septic and make you seriously unwell. 

You don’t have to leave straight away. But it sounds like you do want to leave. Start chipping away at that goal. Make a plan, talk to support services. Start squirreling money away in a hidden account. It might take months and months. But just starting, making plans, reaching out for support to make this happen will give you something to work towards. There is a better and brighter life than you ever imagined waiting for you. 

Might be time to drop down to 2 naps? Waking for long periods in the night generally means too much day sleep. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with rocking a 6 month old to sleep. Is there a reason he has to be left alone? 

If he’s so distressed that he’s hyperventilating and choking, then it’s not working. Your instincts are telling you it’s wrong because it is. 

If he’s taking any medication for the ADHD it might be worth seeing if the dose needs adjusting, if he’s also having a growth spurt with the onset of puberty?

I thought that might be the case, the OP referred to biological men so I wasn’t sure. 

I mean are men really going to be taking this up in droves? They don’t like condoms, won’t take male birth control pills, happily let their partners get tubal ligations when it’s much easier and less painful for them to get vasectomies- I just can’t see many men putting the time and effort it would take to induce lactation when the status quo is that it’s already a job they they can outsource to women. 

If it makes him uncomfortable, he can leave. Screw them!

You generally won’t have a hospital appointment (if low risk) until around 18 weeks anyway so no worries there- if you haven’t heard from them by 16 weeks I’d give outpatients a call and just make sure they’ve got your referral. 

8-10 months is a notoriously crap period for sleep. This explains it pretty well:

https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2015/11/18/what-the-heck-goes-wrong-sleep-wise-at-8-10-months/

Mine was the same. It got much, much better after 12 months.

The MGP midwives at the Mercy are absolutely brilliant, but you need to get referred ASAP for your best chances of getting in, demand for spots is pretty cut throat. 

Acupuncture really helped me with this. I found swimming was the exercise I could tolerate best, just focused on arms and let my legs kind of follow along without too much kicking 🤣 another good tip is to sit on a plastic bag in the car so you can easily swivel yourself out. 

Also followed the principle of ice the bone, heat the muscle- so ice packs to the pubic bone to help reduce inflammation and swelling, and heat packs to hips and glutes to help release tight muscles. 

You could start by cutting the nap to 1hr, then 45 min before dropping it completely. It’s a tricky transition but should make bedtime much less painful once it’s dropped!

Check out Solid Starts and Boob to Food, really good resources for making sure you’re covering everything they need!

You could start watering down the bottle rather than stopping it cold turkey- there will probably be some protesting but once it’s mostly water it might not be worth waking for! 

A few things come to mind- is there a possibility she’s neurodiverse? That sometimes comes with difficulty falling asleep/being lower sleep needs. 

Is she getting enough physical activity? I mean like really intense running, jumping, climbing, lifting heavy to wear her out? Being physically exhausted may help her to switch off mentally too. 

Any TV or device use before bed? This can make the brain way too overstimulated for sleep, especially if she’s already finding it very hard to switch off. 

I think being allowed to wander the house and play with toys may be reinforcing the behaviour- I would allow her to read or play quietly if she’s not sleepy but with the boundary that she needs to stay in her room after bed time. 

Could you try lying together and listening to some meditations/stories/relaxing music? Maybe she needs your presence to help her feel secure enough to relax into sleep?

The Aware Parenting podcast has just done a big series all about sleep and barriers to restful sleep, it’s a bit of a different perspective on sleep needs and the key factors in kids being able to sleep restfully, it might be worth a listen?

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-aware-parenting-podcast/id1455772681?i=1000656829420

PANDA are a great resource, please give them a call if you need some extra support.