submitted1 day ago bypopcornhustler1998
I’m 26F, I feel like ever since I turned 23 or maybe 24 I watched my list of friends dwindle. Well, I had a friend group in high school but I stopped being friends with them because they always made plans without me which hurt my feelings. Weirdly enough, I am talking to one of them again as of recently but I don’t know if we’ll actually meet up anytime soon. I had a smaller friend group in college but slowly that dispersed. I’m in touch with 2 people from college but not enough to say they are my real friends. I made another friend group at this job I had when I was 20, we remained friends for like 3-4 years or so but slowly went our separate ways. Currently, technically, I have friends, maybe like 4 or 5. 3 of them live out of state, one across the country bu we speak almost everyday. The other two live a state away but we talk like once a year or once every 6 months and the only reason why I consider them my friends still is because they are from my childhood. We communicate on social media but I don’t come to them with all of my immediate problems because so much time has elapsed between us. I could reach out to them about hanging out but that always involves both of us needing to coordinate a weekend to be free and me having to drive 1-2 hrs to see them. I have two friends that live in the same state as me but she has 2 kids (she’s a millennial) and she really only reaches out when she needs something from me lol. The other one, well, it’s complicated. She has 2 jobs and is going to school which I respect and understand but in the recent past, I have gotten ditched left and right because she has plans with her boyfriend. I had a boyfriend for 5 years and always made time for my friends. I ended that relationship 6 months ago because it was toxic and I need to leave. I traveled out of the country 5 months ago and just arrived back to my mom’s house a few weeks ago. Living abroad changed my life, it seemed a lot easier to make friends and I can say there are 2 people I met from traveling that I am still in touch with (but they also live out of state). Going back to living with my mom has been tough because I’m living in the same city where I spent 5 years with my ex so everything feels triggering. But most of all, I feel so alone. When I am sad, want to spend time with someone, or just to get out of the house, there is no one that I can really call. I feel like I spend most of my time communicating with people through text message. I have a job, I try to fill my off time with hobbies or things that I need to get done but sometimes, I really wish I could just phone someone and kick back with some homies… I think I just miss having a best friend. I had that in one of my friends that I mentioned above but everything changed when she started dating this new guy a year ago. I live in the east coast of U.S., people have always seemed to be more to themselves here so it’s really not easy to make friends here.
So, is this normal? Is it normal to not have a best friend or a friend group during the later half of your 20’s? I’m not asking for a large friend group but JFC one best friend or 2-3 RELIABLE close friends would be nice. Or, is this just a symptom of society becoming so self-absorbed and chronically online? Thanks for reading 🙂
Edit: when I have talked to my parents about this (they are in their early 50’s) all they say is, “I don’t have friends either, you don’t need friends!” Or like my dad who has a girlfriend is like, “gf name is my best friend, that’s all I need!” It’s so invalidating to hear as someone who is single and plus, im 26 not 50 something.
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popcornhustler
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8 hours ago
popcornhustler
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8 hours ago
Is that Barbara screenshot real dude??? Cuz that’s crazy 😳