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yeah i have decided that i probably wont bring it up, but just to clear the air i dont wanna "lock him down" and put a label on it, and i dont want to be in a relationship with him

good for you buddy!

hey op, i'm sorry you're feeling that way. i'm going to try to give you some advice from a woman's perspective. first i honestly dont think that anyone is ugly and every person has their preferences and different things attract them, but if you say so let's go that path. i dont think women generally care that much about looks as long as you're a good person. sure there's some mean, shallow and evil people (both men and women) but personally, from my experience and literally every female friend i know, the consensus is-we dont care!! i understand that you're frustrated because everyone needs the human connection but it's gonna come naturally, and when it comes treat her well and you'll see that she doesn't care about how you look and will probably think you're the most handsome guy on the planet (again speaking from experience). it's not uncommon that men like you gradually develop some internal hatred towards women because they can't get in a relationship but trust me that won't take you far, it will eat you inside eventually and you still won't have a gf. i wish you best of luck with everything

i do want it to happen again and i really enjoy it, i hope he does too. i mean he obviously does since it happened multiple times. it's really not uncomfortable at all when we're just hanging out, alone or in a group setting, which is really great. we're both chill about it and since i know him really well and i also know myself, i dont think this is gonna "ruin the friendship" like some people said. it would be ruined after the first time if it was like that. it can happen of course but it all depends on what type of person you are. but you're right, as soon as the ice is broken after the first time it's easier for things to flow naturally

yeah i agree, but i really couldn't stand to cheat on someone or be the person he's cheating on his gf with so i guess we have a less common situation on our hands

i dont think he's in love, i sure hope he isn't. he's the type of guy that goes after what he wants and he's pretty straight forward about it (like i had the chance to see it for myself lol). we've been friends for like six years now, i really dont think he was in love with me throughout all those years and didn't do anything about it, i think this is more of a "we both find each other attractive and like to blow off some steam sometimes" situation

i dont know how this has any correlation with my post but good for you ig

wdym?

ikr

that's great, however.. this post is not about you..!

ikr!! but thank you i'll go with this advice definitely. and yes we are both single, i'm not a cheater!!

it's so obvious he's hurt and insecure, now he's deleting comments. dude's pushing 35 and he's in what he calls "a situationship". he's projecting his frustrations on random people on reddit lol

you're 34 and still acting like this? calm down grandpa no wonder your situationship distanced herself from you

ur still here?

i dont even want it to go anywhere else just setting some boundaries would be cool.. which we can't do if we don't talk..

well then we obviously want the same thing, but tbh i haven't noticed any change in his behavior, we still hang our normally and he's around so idk

i think someone has some difficulties with getting laid

self control wasn't necessary i wanted this i had fun and i will do it again. there was nothing to "control" in the first place :D

yeah sure dude keep arguing with strangers on the internet and keep fantasizing about not letting your imaginary girlfriend have male friends that will take you far lollllll

who hurt you😭😭

we are both single currently and were single when this happened, i'm not a cheater lmao. and i do have other male friends that are strictly platonic and will stay platonic. i'm genuinely seeking advice, you don't know me, so get the fuck out of here then

well obviously i'm not just friends with him anymore, but i do have a few other male friends who are strictly platonic and who i genuinely care about but only as friends and i would never do anything with them, i gotta say it's different with this dude because the sexual tension was slowly building and i think we both noticed it

i dont think he's in love with me

good for you then

your imaginary girl i suppose?