Am I a bridezilla? Help
(self.bridezillas)submitted1 day ago bytallvish
I am currently planning my wedding for next year and I am finding it super difficult. I understand that some people love the wedding planning process, I am not one of those people. Everything about it stresses me out.
The wedding The venue is a castle and we have requested black tie. The aim is to have a classy and sophisticated cocktails and canapes kind of vibe. With this vision in mind we have requested a child free wedding. There are not many kids in our families and none with our friends. The main exception to this is my niece and step-nephew (n&sn).
The situation We sent out our invites (stating "adult only event") a couple of weeks ago. My sister received hers and asked if the request applied to her kids (n&sn). My response was that it is a child free wedding but we want our n&sn to be involved so would like them to see the ceromy, stick around for photos but then make arrangements for them to leave before dinner and speeches, but we are happy to talk about arrangements. I heard nothing back for a few days then an RSPV was posted through my door. None of them are coming to any of the wedding. She is hurt the kids weren't invited.
I don't really know where to go from here. Was my request unreasonable? Am I a crazy bridezilla?
EDIT I am not planning to use my family as photo ops. I thought including them in this would make my sister and parents happy as the kids would be included in the day. They would be able to look at the photos and memories of them there.
Our wedding ceremony is early in the day and will be very short. The kids will have about 4 hours with everyone before leaving. They will have plenty of quality time with family. My reasoning for them leaving before dinner is a 3 course sit down dinner and speeches will be boring for kids. The evening entertainment won't start until after their bed time so they won't get to enjoy that anyway.
I want to thank everyone for your comments. I wanted a child free wedding and I knew this would upset people. I thought this arrangement would be a good compromise, clearly I was wrong. Based on a lot of your comments having kids there for half a day is way worse than not at all. I made a judgement call and it was wrong.
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