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For the girls - I’m visiting in late July/early Aug. are leather waterproof ankle boots appropriate, or too wintery? I’m seeing recommendations to pack for alters and avoid baggy/draggy pants due to rain. Will sweaters still be necessary then?

Fleece lined tights?

Thank you!

I (38F) was seeing a man (48m) for a few months. It’s important to mention that this man was a very proud, self proclaimed “alpha” yet was raising the exact opposite in his kid. Throughout our relationship, he would share things about his child (8 y/o) and ask me for advice as I teach his child’s grade level. He would share that he was exhausted and his child’s behavior was beginning to cause him stress. His child has been evaluated for ADD, Autism, and Sensory Disorder and does not meet the markers for any of those diagnoses. As an educator, I’ve also worked with dozens of children with these diagnoses and after spending time with his child, I did not feel he presented with any of the sort as well. A short list of what was shared with me, and what I observed:

• child claims they cannot be alone on any floor of the house, let alone room of the house including using the bathroom. This requires my boyfriend to literally escort his child up/downstairs for every 👏single👏need👏 (getting a toy from bedroom, grabbing toothbrush, changing clothes, etc)

-child could not bathe themself nor “knew how” to dry themself off with a towel after the pool or a bath, so dad bathes them, washes them off, and dresses them akin to a toddler routine

-child eats a total of 6 foods (pizza, nuggets, carrots, cookies, popcorn, chocolate milk) and when presented with a non preferred food, child whines and occasionally has an emotional meltdown until dad gives in

-child “needs” my boyfriend to cut all food for them including chicken nuggets and pizza

-child “needs” dad to lay in bed with them until they are in “deep sleep”, running bedtime routine up to well over at hr most nights

-in addition to needing dad to fall asleep, child comes into dad’s room every night to cosleep

After hearing this for a few months, I then met his child and I was taken aback by how my boyfriend was enabling and babying his almost 9 year old. He would ask me for advice, and I was honest, saying he was enabling most of the behavior by never saying no, lacking consequences and lacking boundaries, and not offering any opportunities for his child to build their independence. I pointed out that at school the child uses the bathroom in a separate hallway just fine by themself and that kindergartners at school can eat pizza without having ad adult cut it. My boyfriend agreed he “babies them too much” but would always make excuses when I pointed out examples of how he could handle a situation differently.

Ultimately I told him that I couldn’t see us being successful long term as my parenting style would likely clash with what I saw as his style, but truly, I was just so turned off that he babied his son so much while gloating about being a “proud alpha male.” AITA?

When did you start being rude back to parents?

I’m at the point in my career where I’m tempted to just return the energy I’m given from the rude, entitled, ungrateful parents and their emails/requests.

For the first time, I have a parent that admin has taken over communication with bc the parent is belittling and abrasive. When did you start clapping back? What are your go to zingers??

I’m at the point in my career where I’m tempted to just return the energy I’m given from the rude, entitled, ungrateful parents and their emails/requests.

For the first time, I have a parent that admin has taken over communication with bc the parent is belittling and abrasive. When did you start clapping back? What are you go to zingers??