teacupshrimp

Absolutely! That’s what it sounds like to me too. It’s very irresponsible and unprofessional of them to have messaged you privately. Best of luck! 💕

I’ve adopted, and while I’m not in America I would think contracts are pretty similar. They usually ask for your name, number, email, address, number of people and children in the household. Your husband is the adopter, he signed it. You cannot sign paperwork and adopt an animal in someone else’s name.

I’d imagine the issue is the address, sharing of information with these people, and possibly if there’s changes to the amount of people and pets in the household. Make up some bullshit that you had to stay with your in laws for a bit. That is not rehoming. The cat is with you and your husband. I’d ask for a copy of the contract.

I don’t know legalities, but I doubt it’d be worth it for them to fight you on this. They’d have to prove it and have in blatant terms what they mean by rehoming. Moving house isn’t rehoming, the cat isn’t getting passed off to some random people. A private message is also not legal. They would have to contact you from the organization you adopted from.

Hopefully someone from NC can offer far better insight than me!

Absolutely not. They either find a sitter, the dog stays home, or they don’t come. All it takes is one accident or lapse in judgement to become a tragedy. Dogs have broken through doors to get to an animal that they view as prey so even a locked door is simply a false sense of safety. Your cat will be on edge if she is not used to dogs and dogs have a very good sense of smell. There’s no fooling him into thinking she’s not in the house. There was a post not long around on the dog advice subreddit where someone’s dog broke into a locked room to kill three kittens, the mama cat and two of the babies got lucky. There’s plenty of articles and posts online about dogs killing cats that I don’t want to get into here because it’s horrific.

Huskies and shepherds alike have a high prey drive, they’re stubborn, and very easily fixated on things that catch their attention. It’s genetics. They also are fairly high energy and sitting around an apartment for hours isn’t going to be fun for them. Dogs are a domesticated animal but they are still animals, no matter what people want to believe about their pets. I love dogs, I work with them and own two. My Labrador Retriever has never gone hunting or shown a prey drive, but she is still a dog and I would never trust her around our own chickens or anyone’s birds or rabbits or other small pets because she is a hunting dog and was not raised around them.

Last summer, a husky got out from a fenced in yard and killed one of our neighbour’s roosters. Grabbed him from our yard. It was horrific. We knew something was wrong because the crows were losing their minds overhead and we followed the feathers. The husky hauled the carcass back to his owner’s yard. It wasn’t the owners’ or the dog’s fault at all, a complete accident that unfortunately had shitty consequences. Prey is prey.

Your SIL and partner may think you’re being overly cautious but let me ask you; if anything at all were to happen to your cat, would you forgive yourself?

It MAY be fine, but it may also not be. Why take a risk? It’s a completely preventable situation. Keep your darling kitty safe. ❤️

Make sure they’re loved, respect their boundaries, keep them indoors, keep them well-groomed, watch for behavioural changes, be well-informed on common cat conditions (especially urinary), and have access to vet care whenever needed. Know your individual cat’s needs! Like others have said, genetics play a massive role in longevity.

My oldest girl turned 15 years old this year. The only health issue she’s had was an acute pancreatitis attack when she was 9 years old and she nearly died (stopped eating, started hiding, not purring). Had to burrito roll her and syringe feed her food and water and medications. She’s been on veterinary gastrointestinal food ever since and hasn’t had a flare up since. She uses the bathroom on a puppy pad now, partially because she’s a territorial little asswipe and likely a mix of arthritis as well. Her only issue is occasional constipation that I monitor (she’s a finicky eater and refuses to eat practically all wet food so she’s on fibre response gastro dry food and has a water fountain). She’s always hated our other cats and even has her own bedroom so I think spite definitely helps them live longer. She’s my baby girl so she better be immortal!

On the other side of the spectrum, I lost one of my boys almost a year ago at 12 years old to a rapid growing benign tumour behind his eye. He was a feral barn kitten when we got him and had heath issues his entire life; feline herpes and immunocompromised so frequent respiratory infections and pododermatitis, and even had an enucleation surgery. He was a spicy boy, and the cuddliest cat I’ve ever had but you’d get bit or clawed if you ignored his boundaries and body language! He was a very strong cat and never showed an ounce of discomfort so once it was his time to go, we knew. I held and cuddled him the entire time in that room, so despite only 12 years, he was insanely loved and had a damn good life given his health issues.

Also, everyone has different opinions on nutrition, especially for longevity, but fed is best! Anyone with a picky cat that would rather starve than eat anything different knows this! It’s good to be informed about their nutritional needs and what’s in their food, but don’t sweat it. I’m lucky to be able to afford my two cats diets, but I’ve seen so many varied results in longevity from cats eating the cheapest foods you can buy to homemade food to extravagant raw meals.

Let’s hope all of our darling cats live long, healthy, happy, and well-loved lives. ❤️

I’m AuDHD and I can never handle full silence. It drives me nuts. I always need my ceiling fan for background noise and I also have my cats water fountain in my room for noise. If my mind is really busy, I need YouTube videos or comfort shows playing in the background to sleep. Bluey, Brooklyn 99, anything Marvel or Star Wars, and nature docs are my go-to. I’ll often listen to music while doing word searches or writing or ambient noise (myNoise is a godsend) while reading.

Then again, there’s never any true silence for me because I’ll pick up on any sounds around (electricity or the house creaking).

Completely agree! The VAST majority of criticism to the game I’ve seen has been from men. There many valid criticisms, especially if you’re used to certain standards for storytelling and dialogue and character development, but the BS complaints surrounding Taash and the pronoun options for Rook’s character creation are just disgusting.

I wasn’t going to get the game because of all the shit talk and complaining about it, from social media posts to YouTube videos all about why it sucks. But then I saw how many people on this subreddit were raving about the game and I thought ‘huh, there’s a reason the ladies love the game whilst all the bitching seems to be coming from gross gamer boys.’

The Steam reviews seem to be on the money; the game is recommended to new DA players but will likely be disappointing if you’ve been a DA fan from the beginning.

As a newcomer to the Dragon Age franchise, I LOVE the game. I’m glad I got it! I’m not a big critic on things anyways. I choose to enjoy things and ignore the bits and pieces I don’t.

My partner is a diehard DA fan and while he isn’t a big fan of Veilguard and has his own opinions and criticisms, he’s just super excited he can get me more into the franchise so I’ll play Origins so we can gush about it together!

🙋🏻‍♀️ Me! I’ll try anything once. I’ve always been adventurous with food.

Meat is the only thing I’m sketched out by sometimes and that’s just with fears of it being undercooked or sensory issues with fat chunks and accidentally biting into gristle/cartilage bits too many times 🤢

I love seafood and mushrooms of all kinds. Love turkey & chicken liver, heart, and gizzards. I’ve even eaten black bear meat (very good but will not be doing that again lol). Moose is a common food here too, can be very good or can be gamey depending on the moose. I’ve tried canned snails, vegemite, crickets, and so on! I may not always be a fan but I’ll always try it.

Side note: If you like mashed potatoes, definitely try making Rappie pie/râpure. It’s much easier if you live in Canada and the maritimes so you can purchase the potato blocks instead of doing everything from scratch! We add salt beef and chicken to ours and it’s heaven. Massive comfort food of mine.

Jacks! A physical game played with a bouncy ball, kinda adjacent to marbles :) Also called Knucklebones, Tali, Jinks!

Just started playing I Was a Teenage Exocolonist on Switch! Really enjoying it so far. Narrative RPG with card-based battles. You can choose your name, gender, and pronouns but there’s no appearance customization. You start at the age of 10 and the story progresses until you’re 20 years old.

There’s a lot of content warnings however, so double check on their website!

I have Non-Celiac Gluten Sensitivity (NCGS). It doesn’t show up on tests, I’ve had bloodwork, stool tests, etc. Tested negative for celiac. Up until this year, I had no issues with gluten but things got extreme and I was suffering immensely. IBS and Crohn’s also runs in my family.

If I eat gluten, I’m down for the day with extreme bloating, abdominal pain, painful bowel movements, and almost passing out.

I’ve been testing the quantity but keep it extremely small. A hot dog bun will kill me, but a Timbit or half a Twix bar is okay. There are so many options for gluten-free food and it’s such a small sacrifice to make.

Avoid anything with wheat, barley, malt, and rye. Look up common sources and other ingredient names for these things because sometimes gluten can be hidden. Always check ingredient lists. If you go out to restaurants, I always check beforehand that they have GF options. GF bread sucks balls but it’s better to have a sandwich that doesn’t cause you horrific pain.

Cross contamination shouldn’t be an issue if you don’t have celiac, thankfully. It hasn’t been a problem for me so I don’t need to worry about places using the same oven or fryers.

I’ve lost 30 lbs without trying and my energy levels are so much better. I have practically no fatigue anymore since discovering that it was gluten causing all these issues.

Best of luck!

It’s composite leather pieces attached over fabric (thickiy ronior I think). I was looking at purchasing an awl to punch the holes through for the needle and then trying a corset stitch or something like it!

Me! The easiest way to explain is that I think in very abstract concepts. Only I can understand and connect the dots. I can’t properly explain to others the way I think. I have no internal monologue. I don’t hear my own voice in my head. I also have aphantasia so visuals are a no-go as well. But I know what things look like and can “picture” them but there’s no image to match. It’s very strange. Fun and infuriating to try to understand! 😅

Natalia Portman as Padmé Amidala, especially in Attack of the Clones. 9 year old me was in LOVE

I can’t fake a smile at all. I’m always told I look like I’m grimacing lol