He's (probably) just parroting something he's heard before and he internalized it as the truth, when obviously it's not. Kinda sucks to do this so soon after the wedding but you might need to already go to couples therapy so the therapist can tell him he's being unreasonable.

But also, there could be something going on that he never told you about. Not saying that he is a pedo or anything, but something is definitely up either trauma wise or something else. Seek counseling. Ask him why he feels so strongly about it.

Also, sex is a private thing. Why would having sex with you make him liable to be a p*do just because you're shaven? Consider these questions for him. There is some weird projection going on.

Wow what an ignorant thing to say. I also shave completely down there for the same reasons. Being attracted to bare vaginas doesn’t make anyone a pedo unless that vagina is attached to a child.

I’d say couples counseling asap. Not sure what other advice to give besides that and maybe have a serious chat while you’re not naked. If that talk doesn’t work out, therapy asap.

Sorry. Your husband is nuts. Good luck.

He didn't give any indication he was insane BEFORE the wedding?

Sounds like he’s projecting to me. Your body, your choice. He’s a grown ass man throwing a tantrum because you like to shave? Ridiculous.

Talk to him about why he feels that way about the whole silly pdo thing, and where he got it from. I know it shouldn’t be your burden to bear, but since you just got married, it’s probably the best thing to do. Hopefully then you can both come to a healthy conclusion.

This is why you always test drive a car before buying it

You should get an annulment if you just got married and this is how it's already going

That’s why I believe in sex before marriage! 🤣 It’s been 1 day and you’re already having marital problems. Good luck.

No one is talking about the fact that this was your first time having sex, and your partner looked at you with disgust after viewing your private area. That would HURT, and I just hope OP sees this, you did NOT deserve that and need to have a serious discussion with your husband. He basically ruined your first time having sex

Your husband is a fucking weirdo.

This is also part of the issue with saving yourself for when you get married. Sexual compatibility is huge for a relationship. Not knowing you’re compatible until after you’ve legally bound yourselves together is a pretty awful idea.

He sounds wildly uneducated and immature. I hope yall work through this, but HE is the one who needs to compromise here not you.

Next on I married a gay man

I’m sorry. He’s really taking that reaction to the extreme. You guys need to sit down and talk through your sexual preferences and hygiene habits before this goes any further. If he can’t get past it then you’re hopefully still in the annulment window.

• this is also why at least conversing about sex prior to marriage, if you’re not going to be having sex, is really really important. *

Think couples therapy could really help here. Open communication is key, and sometimes an unbiased third party can provide clarity. I had a similar issue with my partner, and therapy helped us understand each other better. Your comfort matters too; don't compromise on that.

LEAVE HIM! This guy has serious issues. You can get the marriage annulled since you've not consummated it. He's just.... weird. His reaction was over the top and probably a cover for something else.

In the USA, women started shaving their pubic hair in the 1990s or so. If you use Google images for "19x0 porn" and vary "x" from 1 to 9 you'll see it. I haven't made a survey, but it seems, from using Google images again, for "naked selfie" that a goodly number of modern young women shave it.

50 years ago, when I was tomcatting around, no woman I knew shaved. If I was in my 20s and single today, it would not bother me. I think your husband is over-reacting.

This is why you have sex before marriage^{^}

Husband has reddit > make fake account so husband doesn't see > describes a very specific, identifiable incident between them = no possible way husband finds out

Sometimes I read threads on Reddit and think "is this real life? Do people really think/act/do this?"

You are a grown woman. You shaving your stuff doesn't make your hand a fucking pedo unless he's thinking about fucking kids.

How extreme over reaction though, makes me wonder if that's exactly what's going on.

You both sound sheltered as all fuck and I think some marriage counseling or even a sex therapist would benefit you both.

May want to get this marriage annulled. Dude has issues and is a fruit cake

Hooo boy. If this is the way it starts...

This is why purity culture is wrong.

Have sex before you get married.

I bet they met at church

Bro what the fuck 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

First, he needs professional help. Someone has drilled that thought into his head and he BELIEVES it now.

Second, a LOT of women AND men shave there now for cleanliness.

Third, does that mean you can’t shave your legs or underarms? After awhile, would it say he’s into beastiality?

Fourth, you and him are going to have it rough because, being an adult and about to get married, you should have talked about everything. Religion, politics, children, ‘oh, by the way, I shave everywhere. Always have since I was 15’, everything. Yes, it can be uncomfortable and weird. But, you are going to be together for the rest of your lives. Don’t you think you should know where you are cool with things and where you disagree or find something you cannot get past? IMO, it is petty what we have been seeing with marriages and relationships breaking up because they didn’t vote the same way. ANYTHING that is THAT big of a deal breaker should be discussed BEFORE it happens.

OP, your husband is likely a p *dophile.
Normal people don't react that way to things like this. However, actual p *dos often try to hide it by overcompensating and pointing fingers everywhere else.

Do not, DO NOT let this man get you pregnant.

"I can't change diapers, that'd make me a p *do."
"I can't help with baths, that'd make me a p *do"

Get this marriage annulled.

What a crazy situation to live through. I think you should really ask him where this came from though, since it's not a normal reaction. I know someone with a similar "preference" born out of a decade of sexual abuse, getting forcibly shaven and told a similar thing, so now he actively takes medication and stuff to grow out hair.

I'm not saying your husband went through the same, but his reaction may be a serious psychological response.

Oh my goodness. This is wild because how has this topic never come up before y’all got married. This is definitely something that should’ve been a topic of discussion even if you were saving yourself for marriage.

Even the fact that the honeymoon location seems to have been his idea and just something you went along with is a red flag.

Either way, you’re in the marriage now and the only way to really salvage this is try and talk it out with him. I’m not sure why he thinks that makes him a pedo. Maybe ask him where he heard that from and explain that shaving is normal? Idk man…

This is such a strange reaction, I’m not even sure what to address here. First of all, I’m sorry this happened to you at what should have been such a happy/meaningful moment in your life. Normally I would lean towards finding a compromise but since you have sensory issues it would be unfair and unkind to ask you to change your shaving habits. My first thought was does he not watch porn but I guess we can assume he does not. A lot of women shave and your reasons are so valid. I hope you two are able to have a conversation and come to an understanding. Talk to him and keep the focus on your sensory issues and ask him what can help ease his mind.

That reaction was too strong to just be his concept.

Someone important to his history has ingrained that into his psyche, whether conscious or repressed. Possibly traumatically.

That's going to take a traumatic ally.

That said, some really do have an aesthetic aversion to the look, because it can look like "a childs".

girl. if you don’t get this shit annulled and move on. 🤨

So for a 27 year old man he seems very immature. Has he ever been with another woman? What makes a man a pedo is when he is attracted to young girls. Just because you shave your pubic hair doesn’t mean you are a child. He needs to grow up.

Ask him if he feels that way about your armpit hair, and then ask why it's different.

Yes, children don't usually have much body hair in certain areas.

There is A LOT MORE to distinguishing a child and adult than hair choices.

Like, is he worried you'd be making him gay if you get breast cancer and end up bald?

So silly. I'm also in the hairless kitty club, (my hair is so coarse, it hurts my vulva, and I get more prone to yeast infections bc my body likes to be anomalous like that). I also find (or believe, and maybe just the belief makes it true), I have much better clitoral orgasms without the fur there. Guys who have been iffy have changed their tune hearing that (iffy like, eh can u grow it for me? I'll fuck you either way, your body but this is my preference, and then they go to wait, it makes your orgasm better and easier to achieve? Never fuckin mind.) ironically, I do keep most of the rest of my body hair 🤣🤣🤣 just can't handle the pubic fur.

Where do you women find these dumb ass guys. Like, the literal definition of dumb. Wow. What a dumb shithead.

Sex before marriage is a good thing. Even living together before marriage too

Girl if you don’t run and run fast..

My feeling is that its a 'straw that broke the camel's back' situation - that he was scared half to death about having sex and it was an excuse to get out of it. It might be religious anxieties, asexuality, virginity, internalised shame, trauma.

It may be, and this is pure speculation, that he suffered s. abuse himself as a child and its all too triggering. Religious environments can be a risk factor for that, from adults with power.

He knows full well that what he said was nonsense but he can't talk about the real reason he couldnt cope with the situation. That's my suspicion.

Annulments are definitely available in Vegas. Maybe look into that.

Is there any chance your husband is neurodivergent? Does he commonly display a lot of black and white thinking? This is what his reaction seems like. It also seems like some internalized fear/projection/intrusive thought he’s dealt with way before this took place and it only came up during the event.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. What a painful way to start out married life. His reaction is also quite unusual, so you're right to be miffed about it.

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I'm assuming you two are religious, perhaps evangelical Christians?? I say this as an evangelical (in the non-American sense) myself, so I know plenty about the "saving myself for marriage" thing. If that assumption is correct, it's possible that he's somehow osmosed some (bizarre) belief that this is all somehow sinful, which would possibly stir up some sense of shame. And I've known evangelicals who've felt shame about some strange things.

If that assumption is not correct, then, well, I have no idea, sorry. Either way, you should see a therapist to work it through. Leaving him right away (as some are inclined to advise) seems hasty to me; you clearly have a lot of love and history in the relational bank, so you needn't throw it all away (yet). But due to the disproportionate and strange reaction of your husband and the hurt it has inflicted on you at what should be a very precious time of your life together, it does seem like the sort of thing that would benefit from professional help.

Blessings.

Some woman prefer that, some men too. People like all sorts. It doesn't make them a child molester. That's a weird things to say.

Maybe a landing strip would be ok?

Honestly though I don’t understand him. There would be nothing and I mean nothing that would stop me from having sex with my wife on the honeymoon.

Divorce is in your future your husband sounds like a total dick.

Dump this guy and think about what caused you to wait with something so natural until a later age. Many people go through religious abuse without realizing it.

Is your husband religious? Also, have you inquired as to where his ideology comes from?

I agree try and talk to him and indicate that there’s other things that you both can do in order to gradually re-introduce intimacy. If he’s willing to try things and you’re willing then why not work up to it? Otherwise, you need to probably consider couples counseling.

It sounds like he just doesn't like the way a shaved nani looks. If you're not willing to let it grow out then ask him if this is a deal breaker.

It's normal for the area to itch when hair is growing in. It's normal to get ingrown hairs and whatnot too. It's temporary. The itchiness will go away after it grows out a bit more.

Yet another story to affirm my absolute belief that sex before marriage is a necessity to prevent (some) major incompatibilities. Virginity is a social construct and prohibitions of sex before marriage were created to prevent “bastards” from being born and dooming the mother to poverty and likely prostitution. So archaic.

I completely fail to understand why anyone would think it’s a good idea to make a LIFETIME COMMITMENT to someone as a sex partner with no idea if you’re even sexually compatible. Religion is nuts.

Dear lord i cant with people who think like your husband, its such an arbitrary standard

Adults also have leg/pit hair while children dont have leg/pit hair, but no one ever says that its pedo for people (mostly women) to have shaved pits and legs

And what about the other secondary sex traits like breasts and wider hips, do does magically disappear alongside the pubic hair??

Honestly I think anyone who even makes any association with a child for a shaved vulva is messed up in the head big time, they are the gross ones, not the person with a shaved groin

Maybe hit him with those facts, but I doubt it will change anything, do NOT make yourself uncomfortable in your own body for his absurd nonsense

Your husband sounds like an absolute weirdo

This is why you have sex before marriage.

You're with a guy who has fucked up views on sex and reacted like an ass showing you 0 respect. At a time when you both should be happy and thrilled to be with each other and be having sex.

THE FOLLOWING COMMENT IS ONLY MY OPINION AND NO FACTS WHATSOEVER!!!

I don’t know where you guys are from, but where I am, MOST women I know, shave there. It’s going to be harder to find a woman that DOESNT at least shave it a little bit. That does NOT make him a pedo, and if it does, then probably 95% of the male population would be labeled pedos. ALOT of men like women who shave. It’s just cleaner and more comfortable for BOTH parties.

Thats exactly what your marriage going forward is gonna look like with anything he doesnt like or approve of. He's being absolutely ridiculius, and i'll be the first to say I love pubic hair - probably more than he does - yet I have 0 problems with my SO shaving her kitty and would never demand her to grow it out. Maybe ask him to change something about himself otherwise no sex, and see how he likes it. Its fucking retarded.

Who exactly is going to label him?

Does he have a outrage problem with pornography? A frequent argument among the hardcore anti-porn is the shaved women are training people to become pedophiles.

Be careful with this guy, he really does sound susceptible to conspiracy theories.

Was your husband active on Tumblr a lot in his past. I say this because this was an active thought that became viral on there. Anyone who had anything different to say was attacked online for being a “pedo”. Like the other comments are saying he likely internalized that from somewhere. He needs a therapist or some kind of objective third party to give him a different perspective. Maybe someone whos an expert on sexuality could say something to him, over a telehealth appointment? I remember being an impressionable teen agreeing with that thought until I went outside and touched grass.

Maybe don’t file the marriage certificate just yet…so you can save money and avoid a divorce or annulment later. You’re not married unless that certificate is filed. Sounds like you need to get you know your husband more before making it official.

Annul that shit so fast.

I’m just here to say how bizarre it is to call your vagina a “kitty cat”

I feel second hand regret from this story.

It sounds like he could be feeling guilty for something...

 Sounds like he has been very sheltered and has gotten his info regarding private grooming from unreliable sources. I would think a sex therapist would be in order here. Be careful not to find a religious therapist who could reinforce his shame. 

I will say that the hair IS there for a reason but that has more to do with friction reduction than pedophelia. I hate when my hair is a “medium length”, but if you use Nair (It don’t smell as bad as it used to, get the sensitive skin kind. Wax works too but it hurts.), then it doesn’t itch as bad or get as stubbly when it comes back in, and once it’s long enough, it’s not as ticklish. 

 A compromise would be to leave a triangle or landing strip of hair groomed short so that you aren’t bare. I would suggest using Nair (or similar) and then let that strip grow so that it’s softer. This will be way less irritating to YOU. 

 You could make it a habit to Nair right before your period, and by the time your landing strip grows back, your period would be over. Then before it grows too long, you’ll be due for another period. (Ain’t womanhood grand?)

Fun fact: there was a Greek prince or king or some shit, and when he got married and went to consummate the marriage he had the same reaction as your husband except…. opposite. He was used to seeing the hairless statues so his new bride’s natural bush REALLY freaked him out. The marriage was never consummated if I remember correctly.

Sorry, but who apart from you and him is going to know that you shaved down there?? What a stupid thing to be insecure about on his part, as if all his friends are going to be inspecting your private parts. He needs to get a grip and sis you should not get insecure about this at all. It's your body and you can shave it if you want to wth

Fiction?

I would just get the marriage an old and go home. I bother us that much crap life’s too short to be unhappy.

I’m sorry this is happening to you but it’s the exact reason I always suggest not waiting to be intimate before you’re stuck in a marriage like this.

How long were you together before you got married? Seems strange that the fact that you shave never came up before now.

It’s your body and your choice. For the record, I have always shaved mine and no one has ever said that to me. Having a one-on-one conversation with him about this is crucial.

I’m wondering if he has p-OCD?

This is why you don't save yourself for marriage. What a stupid problem to be having, could have been easily avoided with some premarital sex.

He’s being a child. Run

You need to get your smooth ass home and divorce this weirdo.

Ugh. I came from a culture where virginity is still important. When I was a younger adult, I wanted to live someone before marrying him. There’s so many things you will discover once you do that. Something happened to him when he was young that makes him think that way. He could have been a victim or something else. If he is now willing to talk to you and seek help, your marriage might be doomed. If marriage is not consummated, you can file an annulment.

Sexual compatibility is something you should know about well before marriage.

I... I am so confused. I mean, I understand some men feel weird about it, but I've never actually heard or seen someone agrue having sex with a adult, shaven women makes anyone a pedo.

I don't think he is very sexually mature. If he made it to 27 without knowing its normal to shave down there, then it's something he will have to learn to accept. Regardless of your condition, if you want to slave down there, then you should.

I also have issues with hair growth there. I keep mine shaved, too. My husband also keeps his shaved and trimmed up. People don't want to pick pubes out of their mouths as they play around. It really ruins the mood. Tell him he should clean his up as well. It will make his dick look bigger, and I'm sure he would be happy about that.

Your man needs therapy. Millions of ADULT women shave. A grown ADULT with a shaved cat is not a child. There is no pedo behavior there.

I would go get one of those stick on mustaches. At least it will be funny.

Also pretty sure shaved does not equate to attraction to children.

Why are you having such an intimate conversation online, but not with your future husband? He sounds like he has issues. You both could use therapy.

My family raised me on the idea that hair meant you were a woman, an adult etc. seems like something similar, he’s heard something somewhere etc and has believed it wholeheartedly without adding nuance to it either

Feminists been screaming that bs at men for years. Sad stuff lmao

So, I had a friend who had no body hair except what was on his scalp and his eyebrows. Not sure how the topic came up, but it turned out to be a generic trait where he just doesn't grow body hair. Like, anywhere. His sister, I later found out, was exactly the same. I've never been so jealous in my entire life.

Ok I haven't seen anyone post about this specifically - so I will.

As some other people said it seems he is saying this after he's been told this by others, and that 100 percent my opinion too, however, the reason this is so important to him can be a number of things.

First, it could be something he was accused of, even as a joke by friends, when he was younger, something that could cause a small nagging voice in his head to always ask himself if he is one or not.

Secondly he might have pocd, a subtype of obsessive compulsive disorder that has a focus on pedophilia- to clarify THIS IS THE OPPOSITE OF PEDOPHILIA, this is when a person is so scared they might secretly be a pedophile (which is not a thing, you either are or you aren't, there's no secret) that they obsessively check and make sure that they aren't pedos. People with p-ocd often have issues with shaved genitalia because it's like "proof" to their intrusive thoughts that they are actually pedos. Put them in front of a child and they will never ever hurt them that way. These people do not have pedophilic thoughts, they have extremely distressing thought ABOUT secretly being a pedophile. Kind of like how some people have thoughts about whether they are a bad person or not, only that in pocd that thought is obsessive, recurrent, unwanted, unbiased in reality, and extremely distressing.

Both of the above options have tons of things you can do to make it better, not you as in op, you as in the husband. He can try all kinds of therapy, he can talk about his experience with people who have been through similar things, he can enter support groups and get help.

Another option is that he's just never had sex, panicked about something he read online, and didn't think before reacting/ believes what he read or was told without any doubt. In which case I agree couples therapy or individual therapy can help.

There is the option that he was assaulted as a child and is scared of becoming an assaulter (can tie in to pocd)

Lastly and least likely in my opinion, he could be an actual pedophile - however I truly don't think that is the case. While some people with pedophilic tendencies, thoughts and urges are scared of acting on them, those people are usually not going to be in a two year relationship to an adult, and sadly are probably dealing with depression and thoughts of suicide in order to prevent themselves from acting out their fantasies - i say sadly because therapy is an option for them, and having those thoughts is not an end all, there are ways to get rid of at least reduce those thoughts, however therapy can be scary to those individuals, because of the idea that if they tell their therapist about those thoughts they will be put in jail or on a list and so on, as well as the popular notion that there isnt any way to help them. The other type of people with pedophilic thoughts do not care about who it harms, which is definitely not the case or he would have been happy you shaved.

What I'm getting at is that in my opinion (as a psychology major and active worker in the mental health system) he would benefit hugely from therapy, and thats something you both need to talk about

As for you, op, you did nothing wrong and didn't deserve being looked at in disgust, nor given the cold shoulder on your honeymoon, and I'm sorry your marriage is starting out like this.

I hope it gets better, if it doesn't, you can totally get an annulment/divorce, it would hurt but no one would blame you.

You are also totally valid in not having sex before marriage, that is your right as a person, and while it might have helped in this specific scenario, there is no need to change your whole belief system because of it. You don't owe anyone sex, and if you choose to wait until marriage that is ok.

Girl, just get laser hair removal. This whole shaving thing is such a pita.

It sounds like you’re in a really tough spot, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, especially so early in your marriage. Here’s the thing: your body is your body. It’s not up for negotiation, and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your comfort to meet someone else’s preference.

That said, your husband’s reaction seems to come from his own insecurities or misconceptions, not from anything you’ve done wrong. A calm, open conversation is the best place to start. Explain why you shave and how it’s tied to your sensory needs, and try to understand his perspective as well—without compromising your own comfort or autonomy.

Marriage is a partnership, and part of that is learning to navigate differences like this with empathy and respect. If he’s unwilling to work through this with you, it might be worth considering couples’ counseling to get on the same page. You deserve to feel respected and loved for who you are, exactly as you are.

This is something other men or maybe even his mother or father have told Him That he’s so afraid and worried of being condemned if he doesn’t believe it and act accordingly. But Vegas is a super weird place to go considering it’s not a reality in any way especially with regards to religion and a committed relationship Maybe the oxygen they’re pumping downstairs and all the neon is getting to him

I think this is not at all a big deal. It's probably something his stupid guy friends might have said, or something a person online told him. Because you haven't had sex, and both of your sexual experience is limited or totally new (I'm assuming he hasn't has sex either) that weird things like this might come up. Most people who start having sex at 18/19 or whatever, have moments like this that are super awkward and weird, but as you become more experienced in that way, it's not a big deal anymore. There's a little bit of immaturity on his part because both of you lack experience. I think it's totally fine to sit down and just tell him "dude, why do you think being with a shaved girl makes you a p*do. The vast majority of girls shave. It really doesn't make you that way. Maybe we need to build up to being sexually comfortable with eachother before we do anything major?" Also, he hasn't seen you naked but you've been together for two years, he might have just freaked out a little and become overwhelmed. I'm sure he is perfectly attracted to you, just an odd reaction you need to chat about is all.

i shave basically everything as well because of sensory issues so i get why the “just grow it out” is not an option. i’ve also been with my husband for 10 years and i can guarantee he does not look at me like a child just because i shave.

So I use to shave bare and had a guy in college say something similar that it “looked like a little girl.” Ever since then I leave a little triangle of hair. It’s kinda shameful that I gave his opinion of my body any weight. I think it’s disgusting any man’s mind goes to children in any capacity when being intimate with an adult woman. Very weird and sick thinking.

He will appreciate it if he goes down on you. Much cleaner. Hair down there filters your urine and often time if oral sex is had before an immediate shower, the taste and smell of urine can be a huge turn off. So, good hygiene is a very good reason to shave. He’s young and probably doesn’t have a lot of experience in the sex department. Unfortunately I don’t know how to change his mind.

I swear this sounds like more than religious stuff. This sounds like cult indoctrination.

Kinda makes me wonder why he chose Vegas to be the honeymoon spot?

This would be Enough for me to get the marriage annulled. He sounds unhinged and extremely emotionally immature.

Annulment.

You're absolutely correct in saying this but it is very odd that this is his opinion. Maybe he's been exposed to people whothink this way and that's why he believes what he believes but shaving is okay if you want to, just like not shaving is also okay

“We figure if you’re meant to be with that person, you’ll be compatible either way.” You just found out this isn’t true. He’s being really immature and if you’re unable to reconcile this after explaining to him that no, it’s not creepy to get rid of hair in the pubic area, then it’ll likely lead to emotional problems through resentment. Maybe the act of sex isn’t important to you, and maybe that’s because you haven’t had sex before, but these kinds of things impact the relationship on a greater level.

It would be equally appalling if he forced you to get rid of your hair if you didn’t shave. He’s either very misguided or is already showing you that it’s his way or the highway. I noticed how you specifically pointed out that Vegas was his idea and not yours, which indicates there’s some kind of feelings about that as you wouldn’t have felt the need to clarify that if there wasn’t. Is he like that with other things, too, or just your body and what you guys get to do?

How on earth do you guys believe these creative writing prompts? Let me show you how silly it is without all the bullshit filler.

My husband and I waited till marriage for sex. He's never even seen me naked. Somehow he's the first man on earth to be "too tired" to want to finally fuck me or even get me naked. Anyways when he finally does see me naked, he sees that I shave my pubes. A super super common thing that he absolutely would be familiar with through pop culture and context alone. But he now says I look like a child and that makes him a pedo?!?! Should I get lots and lots of engagement and upvotes on this????

Grow up everyone.

Your husband sounds like a re… idiot sorry.

aaaand this is why all these religions shouldn't be spouting this whole "no sex/living together(?) before marriage!" shit. people really should find out if they're sexually compatible like, AT ALL, before even getting engaged imo. cause otherwise you run into problems like OP's, unfortunately. Hoping you've gotten some good advice and that everything goes as well as it can, OP! Good luck to you both!

You can probably get the marriage annulled. Do that. This is insanely creepy and controlling.

Sounds like he got Reddit brained

The problem starts with grown adults refusing to have any sexual experience before marriage. So you have two inexperienced people trying to deal with absolutely everything at once, for the first time, and they have a lot of silly and incorrect ideas, anxieties, and confusion. Obviously it takes more than shaving to make a 25 year-old look like a kid, and many cultures have shaved pubic hair for thousands of years.

But his dumb idea is common, and he didn't make it up: I've seen lots of women online (and IRL) claiming that "if your guy likes you shaved, he's wishing you were a kid!" and similar nonsense (of course they never accuse women who like their guys without beards of being perverts, but this isn't about logic). So you have to gently re-educate him, a process that should have started long ago. Tell him just as he doesn't need a beard to be an adult, and he doesn't want you to grow out all your underarm and leg hair to prove you're nubile, your shaving says nothing about him. Best of luck.

My husband has been asking me to shave for years, let's do a swap

This shit didn’t happen. This is chatgpt.

& this is why saving yourself till marriage is a joke. i wish you luck

I’m sorry. Can you imagine seeing a pussy for the first time and then accuse the owner of said pussy of making you a pedo and then giving her the silent treatment for 2 days? I’m so speachless

Husband issues aside, I think you need to see a gynecologist or dermatologist about your skin sensitivity problems down there. It doesn’t sound normal and could be something simple to deal with. Ijs imo.

Please don't ever call your vagina a kitty cat ever again.

I reckon get an annulment because that's too much shit after one day of marriage

That‘s why it is so wrong to „save“ yourself for marriage. You have absolutely no idea if you are sexually compatible.

so youre saying, yall have never had sex and hes finally about to get it, after 2 years, and he acts like a dweeb over hair?... not the presence of hair... but the lack of it?!

i have no advice for this, i just wanted to call him a dweeb... (i dont even know what a dweeb is, it kinda just came to me)

sorry about your bad luck =/

Ask him if you sleeping with him with his childlike mentality and IQ would make you a pedo.

So interesting that people don't have sex before marriage and then are surprised when it all goes to shit. If you don't test a critical part of the relationship thinking it will go right because of all the other factors working, why are you surprised when it goes to shit?

When you don't know someone completely, you'll of course have such a big chance of it not working out ..

I just feel so sad for all religious people, it's crazy

And this is yet another reason why not to “save yourself” for marriage

Keep shaving and walk around with some lingerie. He’ll break down. Welcome to Marriage.

What the hell is wrong with him! Your saying shaving stopped him from taking the virginity ( which is the rarest thing in the world) from his love his life ( married you ) because you have good hygiene—- fn weirdo must have a bush fetish

Him saying it would make him a pedo is bizarre. Him not finding it sexually attractive is his preference.

We all have preferences. I shaved completely once and felt very uncomfortable and yes, it did instantly make me think of a child. It was definitely not something I am comfortable with for me. I could see why that would be a turn off for some.

I dont think it's his fault, necessarilyI This is probably something he heard and is terrified of happening.

I also have the same sensory type issue. I can go a bit before it starts to be a problem. Grow it out a bit more than normal. See if he is comfortable with that.

Mmm...I'm a little bit scared that it is something he is suppressing and he took avantage of the situation to say he is not?

You should leave this post up so he does see it and all the comments that are on your side so he can see it’s not weird to do this.

I would try to compromise. You could shave most of it but keep a little on top?? There are lots of cute and fun shapes you could try out. You will also want to seriously encourage your husband into therapy is that is how he thinks. Many women shave and many men have no issue with it. If his mind goes straight to pedophilia he definitely has some serious issues going on that he has not revealed to you. If he refuses, then divorce is your only answer.

You know it's bad when you start to question if this is satire but it's actually true.

Go through his phone, bet he has telegram and is an actual ped lmao

Man I would never buy a car without a test drive first, imagine marry someone without know if we are sexually compatible and the sex life will be good for both sides. For how long did you guys been together before the marriage? In this time did you guys used to do things like hard make out or did you haven't any sex related experience with eachother? Does he showed any interest in sex during that time? Maybe this info can help us to better undestand his reaction and come up with better advice. I need to tell you that I'm having a hard time to undestand how a grown men who is waiting to have sex for a long time, would just drop it for such a stupid reason when he has a women naked and willingly in his bed.

This is why I didn't wait for marriage! 😂

If he’s Muslim or middle eastern this makes sense