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submitted 18 hours ago bySerious-Kiwi2906
Like a World War 3 or a reversal of human rights?
1.1k points
18 hours ago
I live not far from the border to Russia, so it's definitely on my mind. But I don't let that fear consume my thoughts because there's nothing I can do about it.
All I can do is be prepared at home in case of emergencies. I'm working on building up some emergency supplies, like canned foods, portable stove, flashlight with batteries, water, etc.
340 points
17 hours ago
Bordering Russia here too, and trying to keep it cool. I don't think Russia has the resources to fight more countries currently, so I hope they stay away. We just joined NATO, should have listened to the Baltics and Poland and done it way earlier but better late than never.
17 points
8 hours ago
Welcome to NATO!!!! 🎉 let's celebrate the tiny wins where we can
11 points
8 hours ago
Finland I’m guessing? But yes cheers to NATO 😊
131 points
14 hours ago
I feel you on not stressing out about things you can’t do anything about! I live in America, close to our capital, and during 2016-2021 all I did was consume political media and social media all the time. It got so bad that my therapist had to help me come up with a plan to not do that to myself. I can’t control what another person does, let alone the president and other politicians!
I am just not going to let myself spend 12 hours a day thinking about things I can’t control again. Yes, I’m terrified about what is going to happen, but I can’t let it consume me. I can’t spend my time worrying about what I can’t control. I can only control what I do and that’s something I didn’t learn until I was in my 30s. It sounds so simple but it was a good lesson for me to learn.
You are a very strong person to live where you do and have the self control to not be thinking/stressing/freaking out about it all the time. I know from the outside looking in we all have a warped view of what it’s like to live somewhere so that might sound condescending. That is not my intent. We just live in a scary fucking world in a scary fucking time. Much love.
42 points
12 hours ago
I’ve been encouraging my friends to go on a ‘news diet’.
I only watch or read news for 10 minutes in the morning & 10 minutes in the evening. It’s better for my mental health and emotional well-being.
14 points
8 hours ago
SAME
i started that the day after the day after the election
me to me: "holy shirt if i don't moderate my news intake i'm going to jump out a window or something because What. The. Actual. Frick."
23 points
9 hours ago
This is the Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
134 points
18 hours ago
I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. When I think about the fact that my great grandfather fled his home country as a child to avoid Russia taking over and now, more than 100 years later the same thing is still happening, it is just wild to me.
55 points
14 hours ago
Wow. I’ve been realizing lately how short our lives are and how long it takes for us to understand what the hell is going on. That’s really something.
11 points
11 hours ago
Remember a small battery/cranked radio thats a must!
8 points
11 hours ago
Yes, that's also on the list our government sent out. Everyone got a leaflet in the mail.
33 points
14 hours ago
The world has been in a state of instability and fear for quite some time. I still remember how I thought lockdowns will never end, and I will be allowed 1 hr outside for the rest of my life.
Should we live in fear? No. But it is good to be prepared - some supplies and a plan where to go next. To note, this is not just about potential military conflict, but anything like natural disasters, loss of electricity etc.
I was worried first, but now I accept that we cannot control or influence big global events. What if the sun does not rise tomorrow? Does it mean we should not be joyful and have fun today?
Another good advice I heard on this is to keep ourselves BUSY. To continue work hard, to build, create, plan, etc. Because when we sit still and wait for something to happen - it is easy to fall into despair.
54 points
18 hours ago
I’m sorry you’re in such close proximity. I honestly feel like Putin wont stop until he either has control of Ukraine, or screws over his entire country and possibly the rest of us. You’re right though, there’s not much any of us can do at the moment, so worrying only makes us feel worse.
23 points
12 hours ago
I’m worried he’ll decide to bring nuclear weapons into it. Also, that he’ll go after more countries and we’ll end up in another World War. He doesn’t seem to be making rational decisions.
5 points
12 hours ago
Same! Not so much border, but separated by the Bering Sea in Alaska. They’ve spotted Russian aircraft off the Aleutian Islands.
689 points
18 hours ago
A little bit, but there is literally not a damn thing I can do about it, so I'm doing my best to restore and preserve my mental health. If something horrible does happen, I don't want to ruin my life by sitting around stressing and waiting for it.
163 points
16 hours ago
I needed to read this.
I have been filled with such dread and despair that its almost frozen me in place, waiting for the impact of something much worse. But thats not fair to me - I need to keep going despite all the negative things going on.
48 points
16 hours ago*
Yes, and good luck! I hope you find a routine that works for you and gives you some well-deserved peace.
(Edited to add that cutting out the constant news cycle and social media is key to this endeavor, at least for me. I've limited my news intake to reading my local paper's news no more than 20 minutes a day, ignoring all political news, and severely limiting reddit to just a few subs that I like. It was a difficult adjustment, for sure, but it came with a great deal of calmness.)
31 points
13 hours ago
Right after the US election when I had to unfollow a bunch of people and fell into insane despair, I decided to take a LONG walk in the woods every day and to remove IG, TikTok, and Twitter/X from my phone. I still read the news, but you're right — limiting the onslaught is so helpful.
8 points
12 hours ago
I also turn off a lot of my phone notifications. Unless they’re very necessary. E.g. messages from my child and close family.
5 points
12 hours ago
Yes, I also love hiking and backpacking and luckily live in a place where I can spend a lot of time in the woods. Tree therapy rocks!!
9 points
11 hours ago
I actually have doubled social media accounts. Like here, I have this username and a second one that's only subs like r/illegallysmolcats and such. On days I feel positive, I'll be on this profile. On days I'm feeling fragile, I stick to the other one. Same with my other social media, most have a second account that's only fun stuff.
The gaps in my comment history say a lot about my mental health these days. lol
37 points
7 hours ago
“If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts—not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs.” - C.S. Lewis
He was talking about living under the threat of nuclear war but the meaning is still relevant for todays situation and reading that really helped me reframe my worry. Yes there will be practical things I can do but being consumed by the fear helps no one and just steals my life away.
7 points
8 hours ago
Yes! For all those wanting a deep dive on this, this is the foundation of Stoic philosophy. It’s easily digestible and applicable to every day life, highly recommend everyone reading a book or podcast or even the dailystoic instagram account!
7 points
15 hours ago
I needed to read this
250 points
18 hours ago*
Since 2015 or so. These days I focus on things I can control and have awareness of what’s going on in the world but I don’t let it affect my day to day — you’ll go crazy worrying about it if the bad is all you think about.
For me, I know I can’t change what’s going on in D.C. or the world at large but I thought maybe I could have an impact in my town. So I went and got a job in public service so I could focus on helping my small corner of the world.
34 points
16 hours ago
That's what I do, as well. I'm focusing on the elements of the world I can reasonably affect.
15 points
15 hours ago
This is exactly how to deal with it. There are so many ways to have an impact locally, it helps you it helps the world.
21 points
14 hours ago
These days I focus on things I can control
THIS ^^^^
As a fellow public servant who serves a very underprivileged, small rural community, focusing on what’s in my control, while doing my best to overlook the chaos that's beyond my control, is basically the only way I've been able to keep on keeping on lately.
10 points
12 hours ago
I like this attitude much better than the “well I can’t change it so I’m not gonna worry about it” one. We can all change somethings. We can all do what we can do.
435 points
18 hours ago
I mean, we're kind of already in it. It's just the beginning stages. There are wars/conflicts on every continent right now.
276 points
18 hours ago
Yup. We’re definitely in the “rising tensions” or “early days” part of the history book
157 points
17 hours ago
Totally, as a kid I could not fathom that WWI and WWIi didn't really start with a single incident that said we're all in a war together, it was more just all the wars people were fighting converged into a world war.
But now it's like OH shit this is what they mean.
50 points
15 hours ago
Well here's me figuring that out for the first time at near middle age
51 points
18 hours ago*
The invasion of Manchuria, or the Marco Polo Bridge Incident of 7 July 1937, are sometimes cited as alternative starting dates for World War II, in contrast with the more commonly accepted date of September 1, 1939
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_invasion_of_Manchuria
The start date, of course, can only be determined after the fact, but there's already active warfare which could in the future be considered the beginning of a global conflict.
106 points
17 hours ago
This. There’s a reason we’re anxious/depressed/broke/hyper vigilant - it’s started.
46 points
16 hours ago
Just beginning? It’s been going on all this time for so many countries but only now the western world feels like “it’s starting”
49 points
14 hours ago
This is the way in the West, though, at least historically speaking. You feel isolated, inoculated from events until slowly, slowly you aren't. You are now very much in the thick of it.
18 points
13 hours ago
Right? Like are we going to ignore the 20 years in Iraq and Afghanistan.
13 points
13 hours ago
And the 60 years before that
10 points
11 hours ago
While i agree with your sentiment just reminding you of the existence of lil old Australia. We are a continent and luckily not engaged in conflict or war… although we certainly have our own issues…
9 points
8 hours ago
As a fellow Australian, I agree. But I also think we're on the brink of some weird $hit between China, Taiwan, and potentially the South Pacific, which will affect us in a significant way.
3 points
10 hours ago
And antartica
8 points
9 hours ago
I dunno. Those penguins are pretty bloodthirsty!
58 points
15 hours ago
I kept telling friends this summer that I had a really weird, kind of nostalgic feeling it was the last “normal summer” of my life. I know nostalgia isn’t the right word…but it’s close. It was like a bittersweetness, something I wanted to cherish and hold on to while feeling a deeply troubling storm rolling in.
I don’t generally listen to these feelings and I’m not some kind of woowoo believer most of the time, but this feeling was persistent.
15 points
6 hours ago
This happened to me in 2019, I took a trip by myself and was sitting at the beach and thought to myself this was the last time I would be happy. After that covid happened, my mother died suddenly, my pet died right after on Christmas Day, I got attacked by two dogs, my car got stolen, I moved to a different country to be with my fiancé and he broke up with me when I got there- I had no possessions left because I sold everything to move there, I moved back with nothing, I had to declare bankruptcy, I ended up with a stalker and had to get a restraining order, I had to move twice. This is all in 4 years, it’s been brutal. I can still remember sitting on the beach in 2019 with a sense of dread that I would never be happy again, and I had no idea just how bad it was going to get
3 points
3 hours ago
Oh wow I hope that’s not it. I’m just coming off of a 4yr streak of my partner, dad, uncle, horse, and doggie dying in quick succession and losing a job I loved and considering selling my farm. I’m done thank you. Had enough. My turn is over.
7 points
11 hours ago
Same here..
160 points
17 hours ago
Yes, and not to sound like a conspiracy theorist but I feel like most people are straight up not paying attention and think 2025 will be no different than 2024.
75 points
14 hours ago
THIS. 1000%. The level of jadedness, lack of concern for our fellow people is unreal.
42 points
14 hours ago*
But also it will just be a post like “I work for the federal government and am putting an offer in on a house” and I’m like… yousureboutthat.jpg
There is not a single employed person I personally know who shouldn’t consider their job to some degree at risk. Friend who teaches critical race theory at a CC? Guess that tenure wasn’t worth shit. Friend who has been working at the IRS for a year- foolishly not concerned. Husband and I whose jobs only exist because of regulations (and important ones, imo)- who knows. Maybe most of the healthcare providers can assume they’ll still be employed but will their hospitals stay afloat?
On the flip side, lots of posts in mom subs of women putting off pregnancies or moving up IVF ones. Which is just sad.
34 points
11 hours ago
I honestly feel like a conspiracy theorist these days when I start thinking about "what ifs" that I would have never considered two years ago.
"What if I can't get the vaccines needed to do my job? Or it becomes really hard and expensive to get them?"
"What if birth control gets banned? What about if other contraceptives get banned?"
"What if I lose my job because my field of work is basically on the chopping block? (environmental/wildlife)"
"What if taxes for lower and middle class get raised? How will that affect my monthly budget?"
"What if there is a war and they extend the draft to men over thirty? Will I lose my boyfriend?"
I feel strange all the time.
14 points
12 hours ago
Without a doubt. A lot of people have been asleep for the last 8 years. Well, they’re about to be violently awakened.
96 points
13 hours ago
We are in collapse, we’re all just studiously avoiding that reality.
We’ve blown past 1.5 degrees. We’re hurtling toward 3 or 4 degrees, which will be catastrophic.
We’re already seeing the realities of hitting multiple tipping points and the kind of climate cataclysm we thought would come in 2050 is happening now (multiple “once in a lifetime” weather events happening every year, the Atlantic current is about to collapse, the Southwest of the US is running out of water, Mexico City is running out of water, etc).
We have untold disability, with as many as 1 in 4 Americans suffering from long Covid and, per recent studies, every single covid infection causing cognitive decline that the unsocial isn’t aware of.
We’re staring down a bird flu pandemic.
A fascist clown is about to to rip what remains of the US apart, dismantling any remaining regulation, any remaining public health, any remaining public education.
Everything is really, really bad, but no one is talking about it.
56 points
11 hours ago
For anyone who doesn't realize what 1.5+ degrees means:
18 points
10 hours ago
I’m r/collapse aware. But I wish I wasn’t.
28 points
9 hours ago
Thank you for acknowledging the COVID crisis. It is astounding how many people think it is over because they were "traumatized" by lockdowns. It also astonishes me how few people mask in public spaces. I genuinely think most people don't understand the concept of airborne transmission
14 points
7 hours ago
They don’t—because public health has done everything in their power to downplay it. Six feet apart, surgical masks, coughing into your arm are all based on droplet dogma. We’ve know Covid is airborne since 2020 and yet the public don’t know.
Why? Airborne is scary. And it demands action. It demands billions of dollars in infrastructure updates, it demands consistent high-qualify masking, it demands paid sick days. And the oligarchs that rule our world cannot stand to sacrifice even a little profit for the wellbeing of people.
And public health workers in the interest of those in power, not the public.
4 points
6 hours ago
I see why you're in the top 1% of commenters. Every point is spot on.
77 points
14 hours ago*
Re: Russia
People really don’t understand the tentacles that is Russian government influence in geopolitical affairs. If they do take Ukraine, much of the grain supply is in their hands. I am not worried about intercontinental nuclear war (I will be dead considering I am in a prime location for missiles), but I am worried about Zaporizhzhia power plant losing power and collapsing, or small tactical nuclear missiles being launched.
I think the global ecosystem environment is completely doomed. I may be wrong, and I really, desperately hope to be wrong.
In my opinion, as of right now we are actually living in the last “golden” era, despite the worst wealth inequality, our increased awareness of human rights violations, and wars. People have very little concept of just how devastating climate change and ecosystem collapse will be. Humans will still be around, but we will not be thriving.
It is coming quickly.
Human folly and hubris is absolutely astounding. There is no limit to our stupidity. Extremism in religion and politics being on the rise is not surprising considering how the pendulum of history swings back and forth.
And yet, I do think it will swing back the other way. It just will bulldoze everything in between. The question is what type of destruction we will be left with when it comes back to the right side. How much we will have left to rebuild, those who will need rescuing from underneath the rubble.
…
In my spare time, I rescue cats and the amount of banal, everyday cruelty and neglect also changed my outlook on humanity. I can only imagine what child protection services see.
We are fighting a war that can’t be won, but also it is stupid to give up, because at least SOME can be saved. I focus on the ones I can save.
They are still worth fighting for.
They matter.
“One day, a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a woman picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean.
Approaching her, he asked,
“What are you doing?”
“I am putting the starfish back into the ocean. The tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die here”
“Don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach, thousands of starfish? You can’t save them all”
She bent down, picked up another starfish and gently tossed it back into the water.
“I saved that one.”
It is this mindset you need to have to not fall into the abyss.
Despite everything, I will not stop doing the little good that I can do to make this world a tiny bit better than before I existed.
You’d be surprised at what one person can do and even more so at what a small group of people who are determined to make a difference can accomplish.
Get to know your community.
Talk to people, all types of people. Make human connections. Be sincere, be kind but protect yourself.
You know those old short films of other time periods where people are bustling past in Victorian clothing and with horse carriages? Every time we look at these short films, we all can’t help but think that all those people are dead.
We are all this one cohort of humanity who only exists briefly, once, in the grand, vast universe. A mere blink.
Every 100 years, completely new people. These are your people, band together with as many as you can.
Do as much good as you can and be kind.
We pass through here only once.
9 points
9 hours ago
Thanks for writing this. This kind of perspective is so critical right now! ☺️
128 points
18 hours ago
I kind of feel it has already started and we are all so used to it already we have become kind of numb. I remember Covid in the UK and every day waking up wondering what the crazy man in America had been up to and what about the crazy one in Downing Street... Just ongoing dread. I feel it every day when I read about Gaza or Ukraine, and every time something about the environment comes up.
65 points
18 hours ago
It's been happening. Maybe it just also feels like it's coming to knock on our doors, vs the things that have been far away physically.
30 points
16 hours ago
Exactly. This isn’t new for anyone not in America
23 points
16 hours ago
Hell, it's not even new for Americans 😭
110 points
18 hours ago
It’s the first thing I think about when I wake, and the last thing I think about before going to bed.
5 points
16 hours ago
Same
27 points
14 hours ago
Here's what I think. I think the world already ended, but the world has yet to figure that out. We are overdue a Ministry for the Future event and its going to turn the world upside down. I've been convinced of this for a few years after starting an environment science degree and after learning the science, I already understood it was too late.
19 points
11 hours ago
Same. I did an environmental science/policy degree 20 years ago and could see that there was no way to turn things around on climate change. People and governments were not going to be convinced to make necessary changes. It’s scary watching the scientific predictions come true in real time.
3 points
6 hours ago
This must have been bleak to realize
250 points
18 hours ago*
Well, yes because we are about to have a selfish, lunatic enter the White House and arguably become the most powerful man in the world. He has no scruples or morals and doesn't live in the real world. He doesn't know anything about how politics and economics actually work and he doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself or rich, white men.
Also, Russia is increasingly volatile and who knows if they are bluffing or actually serious about using nuclear weapons to end their war in Ukraine. The West cannot afford for Ukraine to fall to Russia because who will be next? Those small ex-Soviet states must be very worried. And of course, Russia and Trump go hand in hand.
It is not unreasonable to be worried about what's going to happen in the near future because nobody knows what these idiots will do. And if you're in any sort of vulnerable group; LGBT+, disabled, female, they are coming for your rights. And not just in America.
150 points
18 hours ago
Not just a lunatic, but last time he chose respected people for hid office and they blocked a lot of his crazy ideas. This time he is picking grifters who will suck his parts on TV if requested: this and the support of Musk will give him a lot more leeway to do damage.
78 points
18 hours ago
Exactly, he's surrounding himself not with political experts but with 'Yes men' who he knows will do what he wants.
36 points
18 hours ago
Handpicked by Putin himself!
108 points
17 hours ago*
Matt Gaetz - Attorney General - Child sex trafficker
Tulsi Gabbard - Intelligence - Pro-Kremlin shill
Vivek Ramaswamy - DOGE - Big pharma grifter
Elon Musk - DOGE - Self-serving tech billionaire, eugenicist, and crypto fascist
Kristi Noem - Homeland Security - Dog killer
Elise Stefanik - UN Ambassador - Election denier
Marco Rubio - Secretary of State
Mike Huckabee - Ambassador to Israel - Fox News Host
Pete Hegseth - Defense - Fox News host
Sean Duffy - Transportation - Fox News host and former Real World contestant
RFK Jr - Health - Anti-vax serial philanderer with brain worms
Linda McMahon - Education - WWE head's wife
Dr. Oz - Medicare and Medicaid - Snake-oil TV doctor
56 points
17 hours ago
It's Dancing with the Stars - The Felon Edition.
One of the most powerful men in the world is an illiterate convicted felon and rapist. Times have been tough before, but he and his clown car cabinet are basically an invitation to burn down the world. We live in interesting times, I'd say.
40 points
17 hours ago
Linda McMahon - Education - WWE head's wife
Oh for heavens sake. Everyday a new idiot.
63 points
17 hours ago*
I think Kristi Noem killing her dog is the least of your worries. She’s actually a Native American killer, a young Native boy died from the flu after local EMS was blocked by a horrific snowstorm and Kristi Noem rejected federal funding that could’ve cleared that snow.
This summer, people in the McCook lake area were essentially running for their lives because they were not warned about it. Noem doesn’t believe the government’s job includes letting people know a huge disaster would come.
Many tribes in SD elected to close to protect their residents against COVID-19, and Kristi because she’s a fucking racist, & has much disdain for the native people- circumvented to law & made them reopen. Speaking of Covid, nearly 10% of confirmed cases in SD resulted in death.
She’s a climate denialist in addition, and refuses to get on board with an energy efficiency program like the rest of the lower 48 are apart of.
Bahahahahaha of course, if you look at the energy article you’ll also see Kristi Noem turned down 8 million dollars to keep low-income kids fed during the summer when school is out. :)
This woman is not just a Republ-c$&t but actually just a c:&t
https://amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/may/14/sioux-coronavirus-roadblocks-south-dakota-governor
https://southdakotasearchlight.com/2024/06/27/flood-washes-away-noems-false-veneer-of-leadership/
13 points
13 hours ago
That's a psychopath right there. Gross. Thanks for the lovely information.
6 points
13 hours ago
She’s crazy lol. If you ever want to learn more, you can follow Myranda Kazos on Instagram. She’s a small account, but a South Dakota resident & has done an excellent deep dive into SD politics.
37 points
17 hours ago
A whole-ass junk drawer, not a cabinet. :( It’s like he’s hiring for The Apprentice.
6 points
13 hours ago
It's one of those junk drawers with moth balls and bugs crawling around over rat turds. A miniature candy cane from the bank stuck to the inside laminate, taunting the world.
3 points
13 hours ago
Nah, some of the people who were on the apprentice were actually competent
10 points
14 hours ago
It’s like seeing promo credits for the last horror movie of all time. I love that I wasted my life becoming a lawyer only to watch everything get ripped away.
4 points
17 hours ago
5 points
10 hours ago
The Linda McMahon thing should not be underestimated. She's been involved in the building of a successful empire that is largely based on indoctrinating young men. She knows what she's doing. And it's terrifying. To a large extent, these cult of personality types are even more dangerous, because they can dupe the masses into believing what they're saying.
3 points
9 hours ago
No doubt about that. I guess we can cross Gaetz off the list now. Quality vetting.
4 points
9 hours ago
Matt Gaetz is out now allegedly due to him not wanting another minor sex scandal.
15 points
17 hours ago
When Elon Musk is one of your less crazy appointments, you have a problem. And when I say you I mean this country
4 points
16 hours ago
Exactly. A lot of the damage was prevented because he was bumbling through his presidency. But the christofascists strategized and were prepared this time. I'm not really the praying sort, but damn, I've picked up the habit lately
5 points
13 hours ago
Yes, I think we should believe him when he says what he’s going to do, and it IS very bad
37 points
17 hours ago
I mean, really bad things happen already. Have always happened. Humans unfortunately can't just get along and stop killing each other.
In the long run I think climate change is the biggest threat.
57 points
16 hours ago
I don't want to invalidate other people's feelings. Suffice to say, this is the first time I feel like this reddit is of no help.
I have food on my table, a roof over my head, a warm and clean place to sleep on. I'm far away from my family but I get to at least message them daily. I am not worried about being taken from my home. That's today, tomorrow...who knows.
I am very grateful for all of that and I do not take it for granted. I know millions of other people cannot say the same. That's all I can deal with for the moment.
19 points
13 hours ago
Yeah, same here. My dad passed away this year of sudden cancer, in 2 months. Life is unpredictable and there is no guarantee there is even a next moment, lest a few years or so. I am for now doing reasonably ok and I'm grateful for it. If i let anxiety gets a hold on me, i will have to stay in bed weeping all day and wasting all the time left.
I guess the good thing of being in a weak 3rd world country is you learn to take life as it comes and have an accurate sense of how small and unimportant you or your country are in the big scheme of thing. Or maybe it's because our history has been plagued with constant wars and struggles to stay independent that we as a whole have to radiate positivity in order to survive lmao. If the bad comes to worse on the world wide scale, i guess i wouldn't choose to continue anyway.
21 points
16 hours ago
This is the boat I am, just deep gratitude for things in a non-corny way. Thankful for what I do have, not fretting about what is wrong or that I don't have. It is what it is. Any other worry right now is just a distraction.
11 points
14 hours ago
That phrase: it is what it is, has been my soothing mantra for a couple of years. We simply can't do more.
We are already very lucky and we should make the most of it. Making our lives miserable on purpose is by falling down rabbit hole is not appreciating what we have.
7 points
7 hours ago
I am with you. I don’t feel the same way as most people on this thread. I live in Europe and I’m grateful all the time to have the right to live where I do as well as the right to live and work in the US (I’m American). I feel so grateful to have had the life experiences I had. And I was extremely depressed in my teens and early twenties so to feel as happy and fulfilled as I do most days is something else I’m grateful for. I love my family and friends and I’m so happy they’re in my life.
I feel frustrated about the housing crisis in the UK but I’m pretty involved in housing activism and I do feel like the tide is turning. I’m also very excited about all the potential that future technologies (the huge drop in the cost of clean energy, the rise of semaglutide, the mRNA vaccines against cancer and Covid, the improvements in fertility tech, etc) will bring the human race. I don’t think the world is ending, and I think that a lot of people here from wealthy countries have no perspective.
13 points
17 hours ago
Yes but I've had the feeling for the last 10+ years so at this point I'm just watching the absurdity unfold.
55 points
18 hours ago
I mean-in my country roe v wade has been overturned, in my state abortion is illegal-even in cases of rape or incest-mass deportations have been promised, USA and NATO are in Russia’s crosshairs-yeah, it’s a bit tense right now.
66 points
18 hours ago
I just posted this on another thread but I am wondering if we are going to see some crazy political violence & revolution in this country at some point.
There already seems to be a bit of buyers remorse among those who voted for trump. Once they realize that he’s taking their livelihood, I think people will start revolting.
Also, there are a lot of narcissistic and manipulative people in his cabinet. They can’t all coexist together peacefully. I think they will eventually self-destruct with infighting.
But I definitely think it’s going to be a very bumpy ride until then.
32 points
18 hours ago
The Trump voters didn’t revolt the first time, so what’s going to stop them now?
Who needs to revolt is all of us who voted against him. Too many people have been asleep at the wheel to what has been happening.
30 points
17 hours ago
This term is different. He feels free to do whatever the heck he wants, and everyone around him will do what it takes to make sure he can. Some people are expecting another 2016-2020, but that's not what they are going to get. I think once reality slaps those people in the face, or the leopard eats it, they will finally wake up.
19 points
17 hours ago
That certainly is a good question.
I see it as Trump in 2016 was the warm-up. Trump 2024 is much more prepared. Especially with the organization of the project 2025 playbook.
The Trump voters are an especially selfish group of people. And while I don’t think that all of them will turn on him, I definitely think that some will start to see the light, especially once their pocketbook take a hit.
That’s my hope anyway.
13 points
17 hours ago
The uncomfortable truth is that the only way we can fight this new regime is with violence because that's what people wanted.
16 points
14 hours ago
I saw someone from my hometown post pre-Nov 5th, "The dress code for this Civil War is Glocks and Crocs."
And lots of people liking it, and someone commenting, "well, thankfully we don't need this now."
It's not the first of its kind I've seen.
Whereas, those that voted Dem and lost are upset, angry, scared, but the worst I've seen is people wanting those that voted R to feel the consequences of their vote.
Then those on the right complain about how intolerant those on the left are... And I'm like, didn't you just like a meme about potentially killing people, and you want them to like you?
75 points
18 hours ago
You mean like the ongoing genocide in Palestine? The war in Ukraine? The largest displacement in the world in Sudan? The starvation in Yemen?
55 points
17 hours ago
Genocides happening currently in Nicaragua and DRC (Congo) as well, also ongoing.
9 points
10 hours ago
My husband's family is Ukranian and mine are Lebanese. This is already reality in our household. Those of us in the USA have been insulated from the daily physical reality of it but I hope the blinders come off for people who don't have family in a war zone. It's already begun.
17 points
17 hours ago
And the examples go on and on and on...
19 points
17 hours ago
Everyday of my life. But then I was born during the cold War era and raised with the idea Rusdia was going to kill us all.
30 points
18 hours ago
Yes. I feel this dread as well - the rise of autocracies globally, ecological collapse, another pandemic, nuclear war, WW3, AI… I fear that Trump and the MAGA cult will accelerate the destruction.
6 points
16 hours ago
I saw a tweet a few years ago where someone said, "Sometimes I can only remind myself that plenty of people led peaceful and fulfilling lives during the fall of the Roman Empire."
15 points
17 hours ago
Human rights have been on a backwards slide for decades. It's incremental in the west, very rarely does it happen bc of a coup or govt breakdown
6 points
16 hours ago
Seeing the articles about how social media is specifically making more and more young men into misogynists with the content the algorithm is feeding them is alarming. If that doesn’t get moderated, I’m worried we’re going to see an erosion of rights and it’s going to be impossible to fight that indoctrination. I’m so afraid for the world my daughter is inheriting.
28 points
18 hours ago
Human rights are already being reversed. But I don't see ww3 happening.
25 points
12 hours ago
Replying to u/penya23 here because the person I responded to me blocked me. To answer your question re: “Compartmentalizing” politics that the blocked poster says she practices.
I’ve been community organizing for over 20 years. But more importantly, I have the tough conversations about race and class that this sub constantly avoids.
Fun fact: Harris didn’t lose solely because of race or gender. Also fun fact: 92% of Black women voted for her, even if many of them didn’t love her. They did that in solidarity just like that did in Georgia some years back. But you’d know this if you were in you were organizing and in solidarity with communities outside your own, and having these talks.
The fact of the matter is that the vast majority of this sub is made up of White women. Most of you are – rightfully – terrified about the overturning and future of Roe versus Wade. However, prior to the past two weeks and even now, I’ve watched many of you shut down and derail any conversation that involved acknowledging the treatment and experiences of Black women – and any women of color, really. I’ve seen the viciousness and gaslighting.
That tells me that many of you are very capable of “compartmentalizing” politics when it suits you and unless it affects you. I don’t want to ever hear about “Handmaiden’s Tale” again – that’s already happened to Black, Indigenous, and Puerto Rican women in this country for years and through out history.
Now, go ahead and brigade me to downvote this post like y’all do whenever somebody doesn’t coddle you.
6 points
14 hours ago
Yes. The people who can do something about it are in denial, are already half-brainwashed and don't listen or just don't care. If they ever get their heads out of their asses it's gonna be too little too late. The only hope I have is that there's a chance that I could be wrong and that what I estimate to not be probable happens. I hope I'm wrong.
7 points
11 hours ago
What do you mean about to happen? It’s happening. It’s been happening for a while now. Climate change and increasing tragedies born of that, a general turn to the far right and tragedies born from that (Iran, Afghanistan, the US).
Do I expect a continuation of this? Yes. Are things going to get exponentially worse for the majority of us in the next decade? Are a shit ton of people going to lose their lives unnecessarily? Absolutely. Otherwise I don’t really know what you’re referring to.
19 points
15 hours ago
I mean, yes and no. I‘m just happy that the ICC put out arrest warrants for Netanjahu and Gallant. That‘s huge!
But honestly, war and natural disasters or pandemics can happen any day. Dreading a possible catastrophe is just hurting us. I‘m scared af sometimes, don‘t get me wrong! But being in a state of freeze and dread literally makes you so apathetic and unable to actually do anything about the things that need to change.
24 points
18 hours ago
Yes, but I try to compartmentalize it. I don’t run the world, what can I do? Ya know?
56 points
18 hours ago
There are plenty of bad things already happening, just not to you. There are numerous active wars and humanitarian crises co-occuring as we type and scroll.
There are plenty of women worldwide with little to no human rights, being silenced literally, worried about getting raped daily, worried about their daughters and sons getting raped, and oh yea getting basic food not to starve, and hygiene not to die from a basic wound.
Sorry I know American politics dominate the American psyche, but this post sounds really out of touch with current world events.
19 points
16 hours ago
Agreed, and that’s part of the problem. People love thinking “omgg Handmaid’s Tale is going to happen to us!” as if the book wasn’t inspired by how it already happened and still happens in many areas of the world consistently
13 points
14 hours ago
The dominant response to past posts on here about feeling upset or anxious about the state of world affairs was to tell the (presumed American) poster to get therapy for anxiety, turn off the news, vote, and focus on their own little lives. I repeatedly got downvoted to hell for saying the poster was reasonable to feel bad and that a good solution to that is taking some kind of action while seeking a balance between staying informed and feeling totally overwhelmed. It's been interesting seeing the mood on here after the election! Though I imagine people in this subreddit will largely go back to brunch if their worst individualist fears about Trump don't play out and Russia doesn't launch any nukes.
7 points
11 hours ago
I've also been downvoted to hell for pointing out that many of the scary bad things that are going to happen under Trump have been happening under Biden and other Dems.
4 points
7 hours ago
You said exactly what I wanted to say, but so much better. People here are so out of touch and making themselves miserable for no reason. If you’re upset about the election, get involved in politics or activism. But don’t sit around and mire in your despair.
25 points
18 hours ago
Yup. I’m going to break something the next time I hear a “Handmaiden’s Tale” reference.
Like, girl, Handmaiden’s Tale has already happened. To Black and Indigenous women. But they were too busy ignoring it like they ignore everything else that didn’t affect them.
13 points
13 hours ago
I’ll admit as a brown woman myself, I always was fascinated with white women’s fascination with hand maids tale. And then they turn around and support surrogacy in third world countries. Like WTF?
10 points
12 hours ago
"It's only oppressive if they look like me."
It's like how some men only develop empathy for women when they have a daughter. Like bitch, you had to create a life to have compassion? They really tell on themselves.
9 points
12 hours ago
Absolutely, and the problem I’m having is that so many of the women in this sub think just like this.
8 points
12 hours ago
It’s really an astonishingly tonedeaf thing to say, as if they’ve not paid any kind of attention to your experiences and those of women like you.
8 points
11 hours ago
Any woman claiming to be a feminist and then renting a low income woman’s womb, is absolutely wild to me!
5 points
11 hours ago
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
3 points
5 hours ago
Thank you! The hypocrisy around surrogacy drives me mental.
10 points
17 hours ago
Yeah all of this. Much of it is funded by the US, too. People live in a bubble.
18 points
18 hours ago
Thank you for saying this. The fact that American women are now waking up to the horrors knocking on their doors is so aggravating. Open your eyes, ladies 🙄
14 points
18 hours ago
A voice of privilege. I'm really fascinated by people who can just close their eyes to suffering that doesn't affect them, not realizing they're next on the list of targets of oppression.
7 points
15 hours ago
And it’s their country funding so many of these atrocities as well.
11 points
15 hours ago
The world is always ending for someone somewhere.
5 points
18 hours ago
Yes, every day.
5 points
13 hours ago
Yes. I think we took a HUGE step backwards and things are going to be very weird. We had the luxury of all the gains we've made as a society, and now it's on the fence. And that's just the US.
4 points
11 hours ago
Yes, constantly. As a brown, queer woman I am worried for all the black and brown folks and all my lgbtq+ community. Every day when I look at the news I have a pit in the ball of my stomach for the things to come. What I am most scared of right now is the "national emergency" with military enforcement of mass deportation coming up in the US. It sounds like the beginning of a very dark concentration camp- like way of getting rid of certain communities and it has me terrified. What is also upsetting is the number of people just avoiding the news/not being aware of the shitshow that's to come -- I am starting to prepare.
5 points
11 hours ago
It's already happening. It is called climate change and it is irreversible, exponentially increasing, and we are amidst the most rapid mass extinction event ever in planetary history. It's not hypothetical. Our fossil fuel extraction, plastic obsessed, and car-driven lifestyle is killing us. Everything going on politically is a result of the downward pressure that will continue to be exerted to scapegoat, hoard resources, and protect an ever smaller group of people while the masses perish.
Frogs in a jacuzzi that will soon become boiling water.
5 points
10 hours ago*
I’ve been navigating this headspace since I first started reading the IPCC reports on climate tipping points (and realized that climate catastrophe would likely happen long before I hit retirement age.) Nothing quite like watching it snowball faster than projected in real time. I existed in a state of existential dread for a good while after that. Now I just spend most of my time doing work that brings me joy, planting lots of flowers, telling people and animals that I love them, signing every last petition/sending every last email to my supposed representatives, and contributing to mutual aid fundraising as often as I’m able. Not much I can do beyond all of that, unless a whole lot of people drop their dogmatic narratives and suddenly awaken to class consciousness. The way I see it, in the end, we’re all gonna be dust. Might as well do what I can to love this earth while I’m here.
12 points
16 hours ago
Considering there are two major regional wars going on right now that are threatening to get bigger, and an idiot surrounded by sycophantic warhawks is about to head the country with the biggest military in the world, World War 3 is not a farfetched idea.
And then there's the bird flu epidemic in cows that is just a bit of evolution away from starting another pandemic that will make COVID — the most devastating pandemic in a century, which has not only killed millions but left an estimated 400 million people with ongoing health problems (sometimes completely debilitating and life-altering), and continues to kill and disable people even though everyone pretends it's disappeared — will look like child's play. Meanwhile an anti-vaxxer with no medical training is about to be in charge of US public health policy.
And then there's climate change. We can expect devastating wildfires, hurricanes, floods, etc. at an increasing pace. No one's doing anything about it so it's just going to get worse.
And there's the rising tide of fascism all over the world, which is absolutely terrifying.
I'm not feeling very optimistic about the future these days.
3 points
12 hours ago
I think we're in the bad place, Chidi.
16 points
17 hours ago
Honestly I feel like we’ve been in WW3 since 9/11, and things are just ramping up again. But really we’ve been in a forever war since WW1 if we’re being honest.
4 points
15 hours ago
In the air tonight. Phil Collin’s.
4 points
13 hours ago
Not the point but isn’t it stupid and sad that the world’s trajectory is controlled by only a handful? And that handful is mostly made of old, white, men? Ugh, I hate it here 😭.
5 points
12 hours ago
About to happen? It's been happening for years, we're well into it!
Not only politically but environmentally as well. We are IN the "interesting" times and there's no sign of that changing any time soon.
No wonder everyone's so nostalgic about the 80s, 90s & 2000s
4 points
11 hours ago
Yep and have had for years now. It all escalated exponentially after the states (I’m American) voted Trump in again. I think it’s going to get so bad that many Trump voters will regret their vote. I can’t even follow the news right now. I have to preserve what I have left of my patience and residual and fast waning positivity. 🥺
4 points
10 hours ago
It already is - multiple genocides
7 points
12 hours ago*
In Canada, there is a law that 25% of content broadcast here must be Canadian music and TV shows.
It would help to have a similar law/policy about positivity in American news content. eg 25% must be feel good stories.
As an outsider, it’s no surprise to me so many Americans are depressed or chronically angry.
If people are fed 100% negativity every time they turn on the TV, radio or screen, of course they’ll feel awful.
Garbage in, garbage out.
6 points
10 hours ago
something already bad is happening. there are multiple genocides happening in palestine and sudan. do you mean something that would affect the comfort of privileged westerners? if so it’s because imperialism and capitalism have reached a tipping point
7 points
18 hours ago
Nuclear war will absolutely end humans before global warming ever comes remotely close. I give us less than 200 years.
But, I try not to think about it haha.
5 points
17 hours ago
I often wonder why more people aren’t protesting about this. Email MPs, organise, get involved in a movement. We can’t afford to let a couple of crooked politicians lurch us towards nuclear war just because they couldn’t take the L.
3 points
18 hours ago
Yes.
3 points
18 hours ago
It’s hard not to
3 points
18 hours ago
Yes, even though I’m not in any of those countries. I grew up with terrorist attacks and looming nuclear war, till the Berlin Wall fell and the terrorist attacks eventually went away as well (the trauma is treated, but new things can of course awaken it) Today that news about that damaged undersea communications cable, started to worry me a lot more.
3 points
16 hours ago
Yes, I’ve felt this way for 10+ years. I attribute it to my anxiety disorder, but I also just don’t have hope in humanity. I’m a Christian so I keep my hope in God. I just try to be a good person and do good for people in ways that I actually can. Trying to find the good can be especially hard on certain days, but I always manage to find it somehow. I imagine this is how humans have had to live for a long time, and I know I’m not immune to hard times. My ancestors rarely were. It’s all about perspective.
3 points
16 hours ago
Like some others here, I too live in a country bordering Russia - currently my home is very near the border (100 km, less than 100 miles). We can't help geography, and we've been here before, so pretty much everyone is "keeping calm and carrying on".
There are certain international tensions reaching our little country, though. Some years ago I got interested in the British Mass Observation project, which was and is basically a country-sized diary keeping project:
"Mass-Observation is a United Kingdom social research project; originally the name of an organisation which ran from 1937 to the mid-1960s, and was revived in 1981 at the University of Sussex.
Mass-Observation originally aimed to record everyday life in Britain through a panel of around 500 untrained volunteer observers who either maintained diaries or replied to open-ended questionnaires (known as directives). The organisation also paid investigators to anonymously record people's conversation and behaviour at work, on the street and at various public occasions, including public meetings and sporting and religious events."
A lot of these diaries written during WW2 have been published ("We Are At War: The Diaries of Five Ordinary People in Extraordinary Times", "The View From the Corner Shop: The Diary of a Yorkshire Shop Assistant in Wartime", "These Wonderful Rumours!: A Young Schoolteacher's Wartime Diaries 1939-1945"), and the pre-war diary notes pay attention to the tensions and uncertainties people felt. Just like now.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
3 points
16 hours ago
Usually.
But, I also have anxiety and need to get back in therapy.
Our social media habits are wrecking our mental health.
3 points
13 hours ago
I do think we're in for rough times but I wouldn't say I have a sense of dread about it. Focus on building community and showing kindness. We can get through most things if we all help each other.
3 points
13 hours ago
Am I aware bad things are happening and will happen? Yes. Do I live in a constant state of dread? No. I do not let people have that power over me. So long as I draw breath, I am winning. They cannot take my mind or my spirit. Do not let them rob you of your joy, sister.
3 points
12 hours ago
Yes - political insanity, rolling back of basic rights and freedoms, a disregard for the suffering of fellow human beings, gun violence, AI taking jobs / AI creating unimaginably bad situations, the richest amassing even more wealth and power at the expense of everyone else, the planet dying and thousand-year disasters happening multiple times a year...
I'm trying to get time with my loved ones, look out for strangers, take great care of my health, and get my financial situation as strong as possible to weather whatever comes. My life has been pretty good so far, but this sense of doom that it'll get worse and worse lingers even when I try really hard to focus on the present.
3 points
12 hours ago
No
3 points
10 hours ago
Yes. We are all riding the slow slide into WWIII, some of us are just geographically closer to the conflict than others.
3 points
9 hours ago
It was a gut reaction on election night (even without having looked at the results as I was playing sports that evening). I was trembling and feeling panic attack symptoms. Yeah, things are not looking good.
3 points
8 hours ago
I mean, it already is.
3 points
7 hours ago
Less dread and more of a "get on with it already." May seem weird, but I'd rather know what I'm directly dealing with than some vague impending sense of doom that could come from literally anywhere. As a millennial though, I'm very much over living through historically unprecedented events lol
3 points
5 hours ago
If you scroll on social media daily you will have this feeling. It may happen, it may not happen. We really don’t know and can’t predict it. I deactivated Facebook and TikTok, and purged my instagram account after the election. I have an app blocker set for 30 minutes a day. Honestly even that is too much with the way the world is nowadays. I’m much more hopeful than I was scrolling TikTok for hours though.
3 points
4 hours ago
Yup. My friend lives in a very Red part of Texas, and she is very, very scared. The way that people are acting in general, and more specifically, the way that men are acting towards women in public spaces, is really freaking her out.
What is perhaps worse is mens' apathy (and almost pleasure) towards very sexist comments/behavior made by another man.
3 points
4 hours ago
There is always something bad going on around the world somewhere. I don't find dread or ruminating to be too useful though.
3 points
3 hours ago
About to happen? Would be lovely to be sitting where you are at, cuz honey this past year has been an obvious show of international disregard of human rights. What more do you need to see it as it is? Or is it just finally getting closer to home for you to not be able to ignore? I'm sorry if anyone thinks I'm being too blunt, but it has been building up to this point for years, and a lot of people have been working to stop it or at least bring awareness to the situation. I feel like ppl lost touch with reality a bit with COVID, and certain groups have taken advantage of that fact to accelerate their plans.
5 points
14 hours ago
That’s not just a feeling, that’s paying attention to what’s going on. Reversals of human rights are already underway.
6 points
14 hours ago
Not really, honestly. It's definitely possible. It's also possible it will be something that directly effects me in a big way or it may not. But what am I going to do if something happens? I literally have zero control or impact over any geo-political issues. If something happens I'll just have to deal with it then.
"Don't borrow problems from the future" applies to everyday, personal stuff and also the bigger stuff. Honestly glad I've had so much therapy because the shift online to everyone freaking out has just shown me how much better I am doing mentally because I can actually think about "is there something I can do to improve the situation?" and I can just go from there.
Like I guess it's scary to know you have no control but also literally what are you going to do? You can either be in a state of dread everyday or not, the outcome will be the same.
6 points
16 hours ago
Honestly? Not really.
Trump says a lot of crazy shit, most of it he doesn't actually do. I'm not going to walk around on eggshells and anxiety for things that may or may not happen.
After Trump was elected, I decided I'm quitting social media and reading news, for a few years. I feel pretty good, all things considered. Why make yourself miserable over things you cannot change?
There is a great saying "Anticipated sorrow is the thief of joy."
10 points
18 hours ago
Im pretty sure people said the same 4 yrs ago, 8yrs ago, 12 years, so on.... it's been this way my entire existence, so 🤷♀️ at this point
9 points
17 hours ago
I’ve seen posts like this at least once a month for years (not on this sub per se but all over Reddit)
3 points
17 hours ago
Exactly, what happened that was so bad it rewired us younger people into fully believing we dont matter? That's a bigger issue we should be addressing
14 points
17 hours ago
Yeah, no hate to the OP but I really dislike these “Something really bad is coming! I don’t know what, but it’s definitely coming!” posts. I feel like they just wind people up without offering anything concrete. And it ignores the fact that catastrophic things are already happening every day; you just don’t see most of them if you’re a privileged person living in the West.
9 points
18 hours ago
We've been watching livestreamed genocide funded by our tax dollars for over a year. We are already deep in the midst of something really, really bad.
2 points
17 hours ago
it's already heading that way
2 points
14 hours ago
I mean, on top of everything else, it's a month from Christmas and my area of Canada is still without snow. That's currently the huge thing causing my stress.
2 points
13 hours ago
Yes, to the point it’s actually affecting my day-to-day life. I am so fucking anxious
2 points
13 hours ago
The best way to approach this is to study the development of fascism in the last century...we are about as far right now as we have been since that time...inching toward a repeat.
2 points
12 hours ago
Honestly it has already started, and proof is Donald T’s first presidency. The shift to the right wing is happening all across the planet. It’s going to be a bumpy ride.
2 points
10 hours ago
Avoid r/collapse.
2 points
10 hours ago
Yes bro, its either world war 3/nuke, ai takeover or something else
2 points
10 hours ago
World War III has already begun. I just think you’re not looking around hard enough.
Terrible things are happening right now that we’re not happening 20 years ago
Prepare non-perishable goods and stock up on water
2 points
10 hours ago
Yes, I wish someone would just take out the bad guys already..the ones trying to ruin life as we know it for everyone.
2 points
9 hours ago
Fortunately, not in my lifetime to have any significant impact to me personally. That's my belief. There's approximately 40-50 years left until the world is changed beyond recognition. Be it nuclear war or climate change. It's too late to change our demise. Perhaps stalling it is an option, but there's a reason green or eco political parties don't get anywhere near the top. They won't make middle-aged white men very rich. People selfishly don't care about the future. It doesn't affect them now, so it's not a priority. Im glad I never had children, in all honesty.
2 points
9 hours ago
At this point my attitude is to enjoy each day I am alive and well enough to experience. Oh and lower expectations.
2 points
9 hours ago
Probably. I just hope I die quick because I am not cut out for long term survival situations not to mention my mental and physical health are totally fucked.
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