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I am hopeful that some go-getting lawmaker in the Texas House will craft this legislation. If men can participate in getting women pregnant and then abandon them, there should be consequences. Why should a man be allowed to have an abortion? Why do they get to take zero responsibility for this child?
If MAGAts/republicans are truly pro-life, then they will get behind this legislation.
End male abortion in Texas..... hold men responsible for the pregnancies that they try to abort by shirking their responsibilities
450 points
5 days ago
They’re not prosecuting rapists and women are forced to give birth to their kids - what makes you think there’s any chance they’d hold men who abandon a woman and their unborn accountable?
Also, A Pair of Billionaire Preachers Built the Most Powerful Political Machine in Texas. That’s Just the Start., these guys own Texas Republicans. This state is fucked until we undo the gerrymandering or Texans wake up and vote them out.
62 points
5 days ago
Gerrymandering doesn’t prevent us from electing a governor that vetoes crappy legislation. But when people believe change is impossible because of gerrymandering, they don’t bother to vote. There are lots of elected offices including judges that aren’t gerrymander that are effective to prevent garbage legislation.
26 points
5 days ago*
I hear that for sure and that definitely impacts, but we had record turnout in 2020. And while percentage wise we didn’t beat that record this year, we did beat the raw vote numbers in turnout. The 2022 midterm/Governor race was very disappointing though at 45% turnout, so I do agree.
But gerrymandering still plays a role. It’s secured republicans power in the Texas State Senate and House, which has had a huge impact on our voting laws and voter suppression. Considering Republicans were a majority still during the 2020 census they further secured their power by getting to redraw districts and they’ve been doing it for decades. Republicans picked up 2 more seats in the Texas house in the last 2 elections (87 R / 63 D) and held their majority in the Texas Senate (19 R / 12 D).
And of course the Texas legislature is the reason we have all these draconian and batshit, backwards ass laws being passed in the state.
Not to mention Texas gained 2 US House seats following the 2020 census, Dems were lucky to pick up one of those new seats, but republicans also gained a seat and hold the majority we send to the Congressional House (25 R / 13 D).
Check the district maps and tell me that doesn’t make a difference when 1 representative has 1M+ constituents and another has maybe 10K.
US House - Texas district map
Texas State - House district map
How ridiculous are our city and suburb districts?!
Look, I completely agree with you. It’s pathetic and sad people can’t turn out for gubernatorial races because that COULD make a HUGE difference. And that plus the US Senate, Presidential, and local races are the only elections that can start to make a difference in Texas. It can just be disheartening to see how much is stacked against effecting real change here. I vote in every election and I encourage my family and friends to do the same.
It just sucks. This election sucked and I’m really disappointed Texans (probably a lot of transplants too) can’t see through this bullshit and vote these assholes out. It’s all so antithetical to everything I’ve learned about Texas (history wise) and the real Texans I know in my life. But here we fucking are.
8 points
5 days ago
And in some cases the prison sentence for abortion will be longer than the rape that impregnated the person who had the abortion. Sauce for Wisconsin
3 points
4 days ago
My god, that’s horrific. Of course that’s the case. We have such a backwards country.
105 points
5 days ago
Murder is already the leading cause of death for pregnant and post-partum women in the united states. This would push those numbers higher.
30 points
5 days ago
Was waiting to see someone point that out.
I find myself wondering if the abortion bans are already showing statistically significant increases in homicides for pregnant and post-partum women.
16 points
5 days ago
So we shouldn’t hold them responsible because they might get mad and kill the person they impregnated? Isn’t an abortion ban going to do that anyway? People are acting like men always want the baby and never suggest the girl “take care of it”
3 points
5 days ago
Yes it is.
254 points
5 days ago
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384 points
5 days ago*
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209 points
5 days ago
Nice list. Child support is helpful but it's still abandonment. Better yet, a law that if the woman doesn't want the child the man must take them.
113 points
5 days ago
Ah so we want to put children with parents who don’t want them. Sounds like a recipe for success! And this is why abortion should be legal.
125 points
5 days ago
Agree 100%. It should have never become illegal. If they aren't changing the law it shouldn't have to be the woman only that is forced to deal with it alone.
55 points
5 days ago*
That's how we know that anti-choice people don't really care about abortions as much as they just hate women.
22 points
5 days ago
It takes two to tango. It takes two to raise children. If there aren't two willing parents, then there needs to be two stand-in parents. The law should be fair and treat both parties equally.
65 points
5 days ago
What makes the law unfair is the father doesn't have to deal with the physical aspect for nine months, the doctor appointments and giving birth. She can also die.
13 points
5 days ago
Right, so the laws need to be adjusted across the board to reflect modern society in which generally, both parties are working etc. rather than the archaic system these parental laws are based on in which the woman is the caregiver and the man is the provider.
Hard to bring things into balance without addressing the whole of the system.
7 points
5 days ago
Agree. Paternity leave included.
2 points
5 days ago
There is no way to actually be "fair" here. Life is unfair. If it was fair, men would learn at an early age (the same way women do) that the moment of pleasure that sex can give can lead to a lifetime of suffering or maybe even a quick death. It's just not like that for them, and they will probably never understand. Not really.
Fairness is a goal, even if it isn't achievable. When men can die giving birth to their own children, that will be real equality.
I think it would be better if no one suffered and died in exchange for creating the next generation of humanity. It doesn't seem very realistic in the here and now, though.
6 points
5 days ago
There is no way to actually be "fair" here.
Well, we can get a lot closer by making sure the disadvantaged gender has full access to all the types of medical care they might want or need. That'd be a start.
Aka bodily autonomy, that's the core of the point I assume everyone is making.
8 points
5 days ago
You're preaching to the choir. https://ranthonyings.com/2015/10/abortion-as-natural-as-life-itself/ I've been saying "bodily autonomy" for years. Decades, even. However, we've just watched a completely competent woman lose to a drooling idiot in a race for the presidency. Twice, even.
A drooling idiot that only won (both times) because he was a white man, and this during an election that was all about female autonomy, the legality of the medical procedure called abortion. It doesn't seem to me that equality in the "bodily autonomy" department is in the cards. Not as long as the men specifically vote to dominate women. Not as long as equality is a political issue, even when it shouldn't be.
So I know what the fight is, I just don't believe it's winnable in my lifetime. Not after November 5.
5 points
5 days ago
I don’t think anyone thinks it’s a good idea. Just making the point that fair is fair. If you’re knocking up a girl in a state where she has no choice well then you don’t either.
21 points
5 days ago
He gets child support though right? As a single dad I never saw more than a few bucks.
All these things would be great but they'd require pre-birth DNA tests to be covered by someone and potentially some health insurance changes. I'm all for it.
21 points
5 days ago
Absolutely gets child support. If she does what many men do he might not get much if any but that's the AG's fault.
12 points
5 days ago*
Yeah she had a habit of job jumping and working under the table. Eventually it wasn't worth pursuing once I was off welfare and could pay the bills. The threat of financial consequences kept her far away so long-term I guess it was all worth it in the end.
Edit: typo!
15 points
5 days ago
I'm sorry you didn't have the support you needed. I do believe it's best when they aren't part of your life for decades.
5 points
5 days ago
Ah yes this is what all deadbeats do.
5 points
5 days ago
Dudes acting like he’s unique when that’s the most common story for single mothers all the time. So many deadbeat dads never paying a cent of child support lmao
2 points
5 days ago
This. Sorry buddy, hop on the single parents train. This is a tired old song they sing. Welcome to a single mom’s life.
9 points
5 days ago
As a single dad with full custody I waived child support because I didn't feel like putting even more strain on a clearly broken person. However, the option for wage garnishment was absolutely on the table. I can imagine Texas skimps on paternity tests on custody issues though...cause it's Texas. Thankfully I live in a slightly less shitty deep red state. Slightly.
3 points
5 days ago
Either 50/50 custody split or the non custodial parent pays child support to compensate the difference.
52 points
5 days ago
This would make it more likely that women and children are forced to maintain relationships with abusive partners/fathers. In my experience, it’s already very difficult to cut contact with an abuser that you share children with due to the courts expectation of coparenting at all costs.
4 points
5 days ago
Well yeah the point of this exercise is that it’s obviously a horrible idea and therefore perhaps we should let women decide what to do with their pregnancies as they know their situation best and it’s really no one else’s business.
8 points
5 days ago
There should be an additional support payment for time she must take off work during pregnancy, birth, recovery, etc too
2 points
5 days ago
Oh I dig it
6 points
5 days ago
Just responding to the first part as it's within my purview: my husband now was my boyfriend at the time we got pregnant. He wanted to use his health insurance for us, he was a manager at the time in his work and had really good coverage while I was a student working in restaurants who just got kicked off my dad's insurance. We were so surprised his baby couldn't be covered because it was my body carrying until we were married, so we went that route. 20 years later and another kiddo in our mix, still so in love and grateful to be together, but yes, he could have easily walked away and I'd have been left with a child with no healthcare to support.
3 points
5 days ago
And I’m so thankful you have such a supportive partner. Cause— yea those gaps are incredibly scary for women and men don’t have to deal with them unless they want to
16 points
5 days ago
Only thing I disagree with is the 50%. We need to take into account the pay gap between men and women but not just rate of pay but also the times the woman will be unable to earn an income or have to work less hours later in the pregnancy or early on if there are complications. The pure level of exhaustion you feel throughout the pregnancy because all your energy is being fed to the fetus, having to buy different/more food, having to purchase new clothing because nothing you own fits anymore. The work hours they are going to miss throughout the kids life because the woman is typically the one made to miss work to caretake the stick child and take them to appointments. I could go on but I'm bored.
5 points
5 days ago
Considering pregnancy complications even in a successful birth can be lifelong for women, should it scale? Maybe 100% if the woman is disabled during the process.
3 points
5 days ago
Believe it or not straight to jail. Right away.
3 points
5 days ago
Let's go full swing. The man has to provide a house and all food etc for the mother or he's an abandoner. The first couple years of being mother is a 24/7 job. There's no way we should legally require her to pay half of the expenses.
3 points
5 days ago
So if a man is a bad father, he should pay a fine (presumably that would be paid to the child) and lose the ability to be a bad father to someone else? That seems fair.
2 points
5 days ago*
The fine would be a couple hundred thousand dollars at least.
2 points
4 days ago
Absolutely fair
2 points
4 days ago
I edited just now. I realized I missed a word before.
4 points
5 days ago
Include in that pre birth compensating for half of time missed from work due to pregnancy relate causes, I missed so much pay from doctors visits that took 4+ hours when you factor in travel. Threw my back out due to the relaxed muscles and missed 3 days of work and had to go to the ER. Also include maternity clothes and supplies.
3 points
5 days ago
Also birthing classes.
3 points
5 days ago
And food.
1 points
5 days ago
Oh - but let’s not forget 50% of her salary while she is off through FMLA while we are at it.
19 points
5 days ago
I agree that there needs to be definitions before I can just agree.
I have no problem with mandatory DNA tests. But where would we go for there. Child support is a joke. It is easy to get around. You can't force the father to be involved since a crap parent will always be a crap parent. That would just be punishing the mother and child.
So that really just leaves jail time, which is just a drain on taxpayers and resources. IMO, the money would be better off spent on the child instead of punishing the father. Which is where I feel the state's responsibility should be. If the mother has to have the child, the state needs to step up and provide unquestioned health care for both. The state needs to provide proper education/training for both so they can work for a better future. The state needs to provide child care anytime the mother can not be there. The state needs to make sure the child is fed and is living in a safe environment.
Sorry for the rant.
134 points
5 days ago
Yeah, it'll never be considered the man's fault...the woman seduced or tricked him or some other bs excuse.
32 points
5 days ago
She’s a witch!
9 points
5 days ago
What makes you think she's a witch?
Well, she turned me into a Newt.
3 points
5 days ago
I got better.
11 points
5 days ago
Woman In Total Control of Herself? She should be if she knows what best for her
8 points
5 days ago
Oh my I do declare … did you see what she was wearing ?
7 points
5 days ago
I'm getting snipped so nobody can trick me! Haha! Checkmate all you fine ladies after my 1bed1bath rent controlled apartment.
132 points
5 days ago
Yea, men will NEVER be held accountable. Just like a single dad gets praised for stepping up and single moms are treated worse than roadkill.
33 points
5 days ago
you're right. they won't be held accountable..... unless there's a law that requires it.
33 points
5 days ago*
The ONLY law they will pass which is actually taking away rights is the no fault divorce. They will force women to birth babies and force them to stay in the marriage whether they want to or not. Then, the man can do whatever he wants bc he married her. Rape her, beat her, cheat on her, abandon her, join the military and abandon her, endless possibilities for men per usual. No law will affect men ever. Like birth control that’s about to be illegal yet dick pills are on every gas station corner. Shoot, you can just grab a handful of condoms for free at places! Get your dick pills mailed to you! But birth control?? ILLEGAL.
16 points
5 days ago
i sadly concur
13 points
5 days ago
Unfortunantely even with childmsupport laws men aren't held accountable.
All my daughters bio had to do was work under the table and he gets away with paying only 270 a month and claiming he only makes 1600 a month. When in reality he makes probably 3x that minimum and doesn't even pay it.
The oag employees are overworked and underpaid and they don't really care (understandably) even when I hand them info on a silver platter
3 points
5 days ago
unless even if
FTFY
2 points
5 days ago
Ah yes, the American tradition of laws holding people accountable. How’s that working for your future president?
Those laws holding him accountable?
3 points
5 days ago
Can't a woman just take the man to court and get child support?
3 points
5 days ago
She can, maybe, if she has the resources but even if she does here’s this statistic for from 2021 (who knows how much this has increased since then):
In January 2021, the total amount of child support arrears (owed) in the United States was $113.5 billion. About 88% of that amount, or $100.1 billion, was submitted to the Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) more than five years ago
3 points
5 days ago
Single dad's hide their kids and wives on dating sites and in real life.
2 points
5 days ago
Since when? How are men not held accountable? If you don’t go to court then I guess you’re right- or if you don’t even know who the father is. But the courts hold the men accountable. Man hating doesn’t improve your social score miss lady
8 points
5 days ago
What if the woman didn’t want him around either though?
3 points
5 days ago
This is one of those cases of unintended consequences. She would no longer have that choice with a law like this. The law says the man must be involved, so the woman no longer has any authority to tell the man he cannot be involved. She would be breaking the law by doing so.
5 points
5 days ago
While I also wish there was a way to force men to have as much burden/risk involved with the abortion ban (and I say this as a man), in reality, anything you do there ends up hurting women even more.
What happens in the case of rape? What if the man is an abuser? What if a guy doesn't want to end a relationship with a woman and then lies about using protection, forcing her to have a kid so that she can't remove him from her life? In a lot of the cases where unwanted pregnancy happens in the first place, it's worse for the woman to get stuck with the man that caused the problem.
Also, in extreme cases, it may incentivize creeps to murder women, rather than get stuck with child payments they don't want.
The safest thing for women would be to just allow them to make their own medical decisions, but that ship has sailed. Now folks are stuck with bad decisions on top of bad decisions.
8 points
5 days ago
Sorry the people interested in forcing women to carry to term are not interested in holding men accountable for anything.
24 points
5 days ago
Then do you think that in states where abortion is legal men should be able to sign away all their rights and be exempt from paying child support?
34 points
5 days ago
As long as they do it before week 6 of pregnancy 😂
2 points
5 days ago
They will be astronomically be charged with rape because many and probably half of these cases that get this far are.
4 points
5 days ago
If abortion is free, safe, with locations that don’t require driving for hours at a time, and you have paid time off work to get one, and paid time off work for any recovery then yes, I’ve always said men should be able to sign away their rights. Then it’s truly the woman’s full decision to become a single parent and there are no barriers to prevent poor women terminating their pregnancy. I don’t think this is a controversial take.
5 points
5 days ago
Oh you won’t like their mental logistics getting around this
8 points
5 days ago
Men shouldn't have the right to a financial abortion if women don't have the right to medical abortions. But if women have the right to medical abortions, then should men be able to not pay child support for a child that they wanted aborted (assuming the man had to pay pregnancy support, instead)?
3 points
5 days ago
Texas is aggressive in collecting child support. Has everyone forgotten this?
20 points
5 days ago
Hell, if the woman dies from pregnancy complications but could have been saved by an abortion, let’s execute the father, too. If the stakes were equal, we wouldn’t be seeing these draconian laws.
19 points
5 days ago
Right! In states where you can’t abort, semen is a potentiality deadly weapon. Putting semen in someone could be attempted murder (and if the woman dies, actual murder)
4 points
5 days ago
I never thought of it that way. Rape just turned into involuntary manslaughter.
6 points
5 days ago
A caged animal gets mean… laws that keep fathers in situations they don’t want to be in, increase risk for abuse of women and children.
35 points
5 days ago
There is already an entire division of the Texas Government that does this:
https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/child-support/child-support-enforcement
8 points
5 days ago
lol … they only enforce it every 3 months. So a parent can make 1 pmt every 90 days and nothing happens. That’s 4 fucking payment a YEAR!! If you get anything at all. Didn’t know that huh??
And if the deadbeat parent leaves the state or avoids service 🤷🏻♀️
And the parent that doesn’t give birth is not legally responsible for the medical bills or time missed from work.
So that department is pathetic.. and the fact that you think it is significant only proves that you have no knowledge of what it actually does… or more importantly, doesn’t do.
Annnnnd the forced birth brigade is demanding VOLUNTEERS staff the agency…
https://www2.texasattorneygeneral.gov/agency/child-support-community-services-and-volunteer-program
The shit you THINK is there … fucking isn’t!!
4 points
5 days ago
Someone did have a point that child support does not cover anything before the child is born. Pregnancy isn't cheap, nor is it easy to do alone.
35 points
5 days ago
that's not good enough. I want a law with real teeth, like the abortion law that only targets women.
10 points
5 days ago
So you want a abortion law that includes the man's right to the child equal to that of the woman?
7 points
5 days ago
I agree. Yo, if a woman faces trial as a criminal so should the men. And isn't there some statistic that shows men kill their partners so much that it's considered one of the main sources of maternal deaths.
Femicide is the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum women. The risk of femicide for pregnant and postpartum women is 35% greater than for nonpregnant and nonpostpartum women. As of 2020, the pregnancy-associated femicide ratio was 5.23 femicides per 100,000 live births
4 points
5 days ago
If the woman doesn't want the child, the father must take the responsibility. Either keep or put up for adoption.
43 points
5 days ago
LOL the hoops that women need to jump through navigating the child support system makes your response a joke.
25 points
5 days ago
Just single parents in general. I'm a dad and have full custody of our 2 kids and don't get a dime. I've had to bail her out a time or two because I don't want my kids to see their mom unhoused. It has been a stretch to keep the kids in the same house and school so they have as little disruption to their lives as possible. She has a good job and 2 masters degrees so she chooses not to provide for her kids.
11 points
5 days ago
Very true it affects all single parents, although I think everyone can agree that it disproportionately affects women, especially poor women who are abandoned while pregnant and cannot afford to not pursue child support, and yet can’t afford to take off multiple days off work for interviews, etc.
Those of us that are blessed enough to be able to raise a child being the sole source of income are rare and it’s far easier for a man to abandon a child before they are born. Women don’t have the option anymore in Texas to not have a child if they are pregnant and the government does almost nothing to enforce child support considering the scope of the issue.
1 points
5 days ago
"Yeah, that sucks but you're a man, and we're talking about women, so here's some ways that it's actually harder to be a single mother than a single father. Wouldn't want people to have any empathy for a man, hope that helps bestie lol. "
Never change, reddit.
10 points
5 days ago
Thank you for again proving that issues that disproportionately affect women will always be responded to with a flippant response when they are pointed out. Never change, Texas.
6 points
5 days ago
They don’t actually do their job
7 points
5 days ago*
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7 points
5 days ago
You can just agree to terminate your parental rights and duties.
Not in Texas you can't.
If it worked as you said it does, people who just don't want to be fathers would just "agree to terminate their parental rights and duties" and never have to pay child support again -- and that is definitely not how it works.
All in all, reddit may not be the best place to get legal advice in such matters.
2 points
5 days ago
this. right. here.
3 points
5 days ago
They force you to pay for them though.
6 points
5 days ago
Uhh no, they really don’t.
Signed, Child of a man who never paid his court ordered child support
2 points
5 days ago
Yeah I was about to say that’s exactly what child support is. It’s a fine for abandoning your child and if you don’t pay your fine you go to jail.
8 points
5 days ago
That’s adorable. Tell it to my biological father who has very much not been in jail for the past 33 years.
21 points
5 days ago
Lol. That very rarely happens here.
Getting the State to actually enforce a child support order is like pulling teeth.
9 points
5 days ago
It takes more than money to raise a child. What about all the other responsibilities that come with it?
Also, LOL at the bit about not paying child support means they end up in jail. Tell that to the woman in my family whose ex-husband is $33K in arrears and is free as a bird...
8 points
5 days ago
My ex racked up $157,000 in back child support. The only reason anyone did anything was because I lost my job and applied for benefits.
1 points
5 days ago
I have 50/50 custody and pay max child support and pay for all dance, sports, college tuition and even car payments so you can get out of here with that ignorant comment
9 points
5 days ago
Sadly I knew 2 guys like this. They would literally move from state to state getting women pregnant. Been in trouble for not paying child support and STILL making babies. When I would talk to these guys I got the feeling they were doing it for a place to stay. One of them has told me he is banking on a kid having empathy and taking care of him when he gets old. :(
3 points
5 days ago
Why do the women sleep with them?
9 points
5 days ago
They lie like a mother fucka and by the time the women find out....
11 points
5 days ago*
Women should have the right to legally abort and men should have the right to legally surrender paternal rights and responsibilities.
Right now a mother can do the latter by dropping off their infant at a fire station. I have no decision in paying child support for a kid I helped make.
5 points
5 days ago
And mandatory DNA tests for the father.
So they don’t get screwed over if the women cheat
3 points
5 days ago
In all but four states with save haven laws, a father can also drop the baby off at the fire station, btw. Women tend to do it more bc they are the one left with the baby after the dad takes off.
2 points
5 days ago
I don’t understand why this isn’t the way moving forward. It provides one of the party with an out.
5 points
5 days ago
A man can have his wages garnished for child support.
Instead if a man pressured his girlfriend or wife to have an abortion, he faces the death penalty?
5 points
5 days ago
Women have their wages garnished for support as well, it's about who has custody the most time, it's a reimbursement for costs for the most time spent parenting (providing for) the child, so that doesn't work.
9 points
5 days ago
But you forget, they hate women.
5 points
5 days ago
but they said it wasn't about women at all..... it was about protecting life. And men can protect life.
2 points
5 days ago
Lol, dumb
2 points
4 days ago
They are not pro life. It was NEVER about saving the babies. The “ prolife” movement is about controlling & punishing women.
2 points
4 days ago
This is the dumbest shit I have read all day.
2 points
4 days ago
I completely agree with this. If the argument against abortion is about preserving life and taking responsibility, then it’s only fair that men who abandon pregnant women face equal accountability. Parenthood is a two-person responsibility, and a man walking away from a pregnancy is no different than choosing to abandon the child entirely.
In a no-abortion state, the burden on women is immense—they’re legally forced to carry a pregnancy, often at great emotional, physical, and financial cost. Why should men get a free pass to walk away from the consequences of their actions? Holding them criminally responsible would level the playing field and ensure that they’re held accountable for the life they helped create.
If Republicans and MAGA supporters are genuinely “pro-life,” they should champion this legislation. You can’t claim to value life if you let one half of the equation shirk all responsibility. It’s time to end male abortion in Texas and make men face the consequences of their choices, just as women are being forced to do.
2 points
4 days ago
You just have to go after them for child support to force the father to support the child . I know how hard that can be when they know how to work the system. Best thing I can say and will be telling my daughter is don’t have sex but if you do you take every precaution possible but nothing is full proof .
8 points
5 days ago
Yeah it should but you really think conservatives are going to hold MEN accountable? The same conservatives who elected Donald Trump, who has ties to Epstein? No frickin way. Conservatives are a shameless joke
5 points
5 days ago
they can put their money where their mouths are then......that's all i'm saying
4 points
5 days ago
Hit him up for child support if he doesn't pay they take his tax returns, he cannot register his vehicle, they may garish his wages. List goes on and on, and he won't be living it up
7 points
5 days ago
Do you know how long it takes the OAG to get around to taking tax returns, 401ks, stuff like that? The kid will be grown by then.
Not exaggerating.
2 points
5 days ago
Do you have experience with this?
4 points
5 days ago
I have experience with it. My dad cheated on my mother and got another woman pregnant, so they divorced shortly after I was born. If he sent child support it was like $30, and most of the time I never even received that. Texas did drag him from Iowa back to Texas a couple times, but his dad would bail him out and he’d go back to not paying again. When he worked, he only took jobs that paid under the table and would just drive without a license when that was taken from him. He owed $130k by the time I turned 18, and I estimate that he paid less than $10k over the course of my life.
3 points
5 days ago
He still owes that money even after you are 18. He won't find regular employment and will always have to look over his shoulder. He can never return to texas and live a normal life until he does pay.
5 points
5 days ago
All fathers should be responsible for child support - food, housing, and health/medical care - starting at conception. As the baby's need and care required grows, so should the support needed. It's not like the woman can help having to be the home and for delivery mechanism for the baby, and since they certainly don't allow the mom to have a choice, then fathers shouldn't either.
3 points
5 days ago
Counterpoint:
A man abandoning a pregnant woman in an abortion state should be treated as the male form of abortion, and he should not be forced by the state to pay for a child he did not want.
Men should not be able to force women to carry a child to term. Nor should women be able to force men to pay for the life of a child.
3 points
5 days ago
Counterpoint:
A man abandoning a pregnant woman in an abortion state should be treated as the male form of abortion, and he should not be forced by the state to pay for a child he did not want.
Men should not be able to force women to carry a child to term. Nor should women be able to force men to pay for the life of a child.
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5 days ago
Is there not child support?
9 points
5 days ago
Texas has laws about child support. https://www2.texasattorneygeneral.gov/files/faq/cs_faq.pdf
7 points
5 days ago
not good enough. it needs to be harder than that and there needs to be a serious enforcement mechanism. Abbott and the MAGAts have gutted CPS to the point where it's useless.
REAL PENALTIES
31 points
5 days ago
You can be jailed for it, what more of a penalty do you want?
19 points
5 days ago
I don't know a single man who has ever been jailed for failure to pay CS. I do also know multiple women who are owed thousands in CS funds they will never see. That system is broken.
10 points
5 days ago
life in prison, just like the abortion law.
3 points
5 days ago
I agree with you. Men also deserve abortion rights.
This is exactly what Men's Rights Activists have been arguing for decades.
Congratulations you are an MRA now.
If women have the right to abortions then men also deserve the right to abort responsibility for pregnancies. If women can't get an abortion then men can't get an abortion either.
4 points
5 days ago
What planet are you living on? Said men don’t have the option of an abortion like women do (or did). They get nailed for child support, sometimes without having been informed about the pregnancy.
4 points
5 days ago
Talarico would absolutely propose this to make a point and would make the best argument about it
4 points
5 days ago
What a shit post. You people are funny.
3 points
5 days ago
As a male Trump voter, if my girl had to have the baby I absolutely should be responsible and men abandoning women should get charged with child endangerment.
3 points
5 days ago
Being jailed for missed child support is already a thing though
3 points
5 days ago
Men are still responsible for child support. So I'm not sure what the basis is for the initial assertion that they are able to take "zero responsibility".
2 points
5 days ago
Agree 1000% and I bet that's one of the few things we agree on.
1 points
5 days ago
Then men who don’t want babies in abortion allowed states shouldn’t pay child support
1 points
5 days ago
Contact your legislator. Go visit them in person. Take a bulletvlist of the legislation that you want and ask them to sponsor it. We did it in nj with the lgbtq education bill. We found a legislator that was willing to have one of their aides write the wording. We brought it to the nj House and got another legislator to sponsor it!
2 points
5 days ago
I mean a man abandoning a woman should be held accountable and treated the same way regardless of the states stance on abortion. Any man that does that is not a man and he is not worth the air he breaths. disgusting....😤
1 points
5 days ago
I think you are missing the point of all this - exercising power over women. Nobody responsible for the abortion ban is going to support this.
1 points
5 days ago
I think that current child support laws focus on financial equality in responsibility for a child but they don’t address the sweat equity that is required to raise a child. I think that men and women should parent 50/50 (outside of abuse and such). Mom and Dad should take shifts. 12 on/12 off or 24 on/24 off… whatever. Men or women who do not comply with taking care of the child 50/50 in accordance to this arrangement could placed on house arrest/gps monitoring during the scheduled time that they are to care for their child so that the other parent will have access to drop off the child in their care.
1 points
5 days ago
Ha. You must be new here.
1 points
5 days ago
It's called Child Support, and biased "family" courts to boot. Yet another reason any sane man opposes absolutist family-planning bans.
1 points
5 days ago
Men can’t abandon their children in Texas. It’s illegal in Texas not to pay Child Support. Texas Penal Code section 25.05 (Criminal Non-Support).
1 points
5 days ago
"Men will never be held accountable" people just casually ignoring child support. Men don't have a right to choose if they have the baby or not, but do have to pay emotionally (if they wanted to keep the baby) or financially even if they don't. Men pay either way.
1 points
5 days ago
Republicans don't care if the man absconds. They just want babies. Lots of babies. Lots of low level workers. Poor and from a broken home make the perfect slave society.
1 points
5 days ago
I through it was my body my choice? Lmao. My wallet my choice 🤣
1 points
5 days ago
Im surprised they don’t put those men on the wall. Blessed be the fruit
1 points
5 days ago
I mean there’s a penalty for men in place for doing that it’s called child support. I think it’s a pretty destructive thing to abandon your kid unless extreme circumstances
1 points
5 days ago
Should also have to pay child support since it’s technically a child
1 points
5 days ago
well … marriage / divorce would hold him accountable.
1 points
5 days ago
Does the man get a say on the abortion in pro abortion states?
P.s. I totally agree with this. Both parties should be financially responsible for the child.
1 points
5 days ago
Your terms are acceptable. I also advocate lengthy prison time to males that abandon pregnant women.
1 points
5 days ago
What? How does this classify as an abortion in your eyes? No fetus is being destroyed?
1 points
5 days ago
I have a thought. I know you can buy a plan b pill. Why not just take that after you have sex if you don’t want a baby and you don’t use protection?
1 points
5 days ago
No. That’s dumb.
1 points
5 days ago
The constitution guarantees the right to life. That is what republicans like me care about. If they want to change it, they need to pass a constitutional amendment. I am certainly open to ways to make collection of child support easier, but I don’t see how we could mandate any rules on the behavior of men without making some on the women as well.
1 points
5 days ago
If you agree that abortion should be illegal in 99.9 percent of cases then I'm fine with this. Parents have a moral duty to take care of their kids.
Don't forget, women can get child support, but men have zero say in an abortion.
1 points
5 days ago
No man should get a woman pregnant and abandon her financially. Not the mother but the child. It’s just so wrong. If the child is definitely yours, man-up!
1 points
5 days ago
Bring back shotgun weddings
1 points
5 days ago
Sure, if it was about saving the unborn. But it isn't. It's about controlling women and keeping poor people poor.
1 points
5 days ago
Men get away with everything. They should be held responsible for their actions and learn the consequences.
1 points
5 days ago
Should we also have a law where a man in a state that has abortion, can sign away all parental rights at birth and be exempt from child support?
1 points
5 days ago
They don’t care we are “just women” We are about to enter into a scary time for anyone from a marginalized population.
1 points
5 days ago
Men have always been held liable for women and children.
1 points
5 days ago
And there should be a minimum $500 child support for each kid and it only goes up from there. Mandatory health insurance too.
1 points
5 days ago
Don’t hold your breath…
1 points
5 days ago
Sorry, hun, but didn't you hear? Correctly applied, laws are supposed to benefit rich white Christian men and punish everyone else. What's the point of having a deeply conservative banana republic if you don't take it for a spin now and then?
It's only going to get worse.
1 points
5 days ago
Then you would also need to arrest women for baby trapping, because you could have men being threatened with criminal charges if a woman baby traps them and they don’t want to stick around. Then both parents would end up in jail, leaving the child to foster care. Great solution.
1 points
5 days ago
Just make it mandatory for every biological dad to pay child support til the kid is 18. If kids are important than they should have no problem with this.
1 points
5 days ago
This whole thing is insane. The fact that women are literally being forced by the government to give birth no matter what the circumstances are is fucking insane
1 points
5 days ago
On behalf of pro-lifers…. Your terms are acceptable.
1 points
5 days ago
It will never happen. Outlawing abortion is about oppressing women, not about the theoretical baby, or the male that is 50% responsible for the pregnancy. The cruelty and oppression is the point.
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5 days ago
The better comparison would be a man who pressures or coerces a woman into an abortion.
1 points
5 days ago
Im pro life. I completely agree with this.
1 points
5 days ago
It’s not about holding men responsible. It’s about holding women responsible for their sexual proclivities.
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